Post by cheeseandcrackers on Feb 26, 2013 15:14:11 GMT -5
This isn't a big deal but I'm wondering if you would find this rude or am I just over analyzing?
One of my good friends invited me and my H to a hockey game. He said he was trying to get us together, he also invited our other friend in the circle and her husband. He is getting us tickets in advance and we are paying him back.
Anyway, my H's friend heard we were going to a hockey game and also wanted to go (and his fiance too), so I asked my friend is he could get more tickets and he said that was fine. Today, I get a text message that my H's friend invited his friend and that friend invited his BIL. Ugh. Now my H asked if MY friend could get two more tickets for them. Hope that's not too confusing.
If I was my friend, I would feel uneasy about fronting money for 4 people i don't even know. But my husband says they are going to show up and pay him back so it's not a big deal, and if not he will pay him personally. I told my husband that I don't want to ask because I find it rude that his friend invited someone without asking us first and now expecting tickets for them too. Would you ask?
Does your H's friend realize that it's someone else who is buying the tickets? If he DOES, then I do think it's rude of him to ask for 2 more tickets. However, if he thinks it's you getting the tickets, I'm not as much in the "rude" camp.
It just sounds like this is an invite train that got out of control. As long as everyone is good for the money, I wouldn't worry about it this time. But in the future, I'd be more careful about this.
If I did ask, I'd tell her that I would be personally paying her back and collecting the money from the other ppl myself. But overall, yeah - I think it's kind of rude.
I think the friends are rude for inviting more people, when it was not their place to do so, without checking to make sure that it was cool. I would feel strange asking my friend for four more additional tickets when I had already asked for two more additional tickets.
Does your H's friend realize that it's someone else who is buying the tickets? If he DOES, then I do think it's rude of him to ask for 2 more tickets. However, if he thinks it's you getting the tickets, I'm not as much in the "rude" camp.
It just sounds like this is an invite train that got out of control. As long as everyone is good for the money, I wouldn't worry about it this time. But in the future, I'd be more careful about this.
Totally agree with you there. His friends are horrible about doing this. I told him to please not extend the invite anymore please.
I would call him & feel him out about more tickets. if he seems irritated or uneasy I'd back off. I'd be sure to tell him that your H will pay for the tickets if his friends back out.
Post by amberatkins on Feb 26, 2013 15:20:12 GMT -5
I'd find it rude that your H's friend is inviting friends to your friend's get together, and expecting you to help get the tickets. If he wants to go to a game with his friend and friend's BIL, they can get their own tickets.
Isn't the friends of the friends doing what you guys did? Inviting someone w/o asking first? I might be confused.
His friend was asking us what we were doing Saturday and my H told him and he invited himself. But I asked my friend first before I said yes.
If you haven't asked about the other 2 people, I actually wouldn't. I'd just go back to this guy and say "A friend is doing us this favor and we don't feel right asking them to buy more tickets for people they don't know. Sorry!". As it seems quite easy to get tickets, these people can get them on their own.
Post by mrsjuleshs on Feb 26, 2013 15:32:36 GMT -5
rude. I would tell him that no, they can't get any extras.
I will NEVER EVER again forn other people for tickets for something. I got stuck with $350 worth of tickets to the Alamo Bowl last year when DD's dad no showed after begging me to get them tickets so they could come see her perform.
so wait, a third party invitee (H's friend) invited TWO MORE couples? i.e., 4th and 5th party invitees?
fuck that noise. no one is allowed to come except you and your husband. your husband's friend needs a wack to the back of the head with miss manners' book.
so wait, a third party invitee (H's friend) invited TWO MORE couples? i.e., 4th and 5th party invitees?
fuck that noise. no one is allowed to come except you and your husband. your husband's friend needs a wack to the back of the head with miss manners' book.
No, just two people, not two couples. Still very rude though.
Glad to know i'm not over analyzing this and it is indeed rude.
Post by RoxMonster on Feb 26, 2013 17:07:31 GMT -5
I wouldn't ask your friend for anymore tickets. Explain to the two people that someone else is buying all the tickets and you don't feel comfortable asking for more. But tell them they're more than welcome to get tix through the venue directly and meet up with you guys there or afterwards.
If I were you, I would tell your H that you're not going to ask the friend to get more tickets, but you will ask him where the seats are so the extra people can get tickets close by. Why can't these extra people get their own tickets?
I wouldn't ask your friend for anymore tickets. Explain to the two people that someone else is buying all the tickets and you don't feel comfortable asking for more. But tell them they're more than welcome to get tix through the venue directly and meet up with you guys there or afterwards.
This. I also think it was rude for your Husband to invite is friend (or his friend to invite himself). It sounds like the original intent was to have people in the same circle hang out - not to hang out near each other with your other friends.
I wouldn't ask your friend for anymore tickets. Explain to the two people that someone else is buying all the tickets and you don't feel comfortable asking for more. But tell them they're more than welcome to get tix through the venue directly and meet up with you guys there or afterwards.
This. I also think it was rude for your Husband to invite is friend (or his friend to invite himself). It sounds like the original intent was to have people in the same circle hang out - not to hang out near each other with your other friends.
I agree with this too. I would be irritated if I invited BFF and she brought an entourage of people I didn't know. They'll hang out the whole time and I'll be stuck as a 3rd wheel to the event I planned. Ughhhhh I would be so mad.
I wouldn't ask your friend for anymore tickets. Explain to the two people that someone else is buying all the tickets and you don't feel comfortable asking for more. But tell them they're more than welcome to get tix through the venue directly and meet up with you guys there or afterwards.
This. I also think it was rude for your Husband to invite is friend (or his friend to invite himself). It sounds like the original intent was to have people in the same circle hang out - not to hang out near each other with your other friends.
Agree. It irritates me when people do this - especially in your case since Ticket Buying Guy said he specifically wanted to spend time with you guys.
I wouldn't qualify it as rude or not - but I wouldn't do it. And I would feel perfectly fine setting boundaries. Plenty of people would do it just not me and a response of "No, that's not going to work" is perfectly acceptable.
Just say no. It's like ripping off a band aid. You don't have to fulfill promises other people made - and risk letting your friend being screwed in the process.
Plus, you don't have to want to spend a game with such a large group of people who don't know each other. Really.
Post by mariafromnj on Feb 26, 2013 20:17:02 GMT -5
if you aren't comfortable asking for the 2 extra tickets just tell the guy the tickets were bought already and if they want they can buy their own tickets