Congrats to everyone with a recent BFP! It is great to hear about all the new incubators on the board.
I wanted to check in with others who are less pregnant and not by choice. I think there are at least a handful of us on here. How is everyone doing?
For me: There have been a bunch of second pregnancy announcements and births among my friends this year. While I'm excited for everyone, I'm also ready to join them. Other than that, I'm trying to relish the freedom that one child allows.
Honestly? It's a struggle. I keep thinking back to that adoption. The baby is due in less than a month and I keep thinking about how I should be doing XYZ to prepare. It hurts. It doesn't help that there have been several people announcing second and third pregnancies on FB.
H's sperm analysis is next Tuesday, I predict we will find the humor in this b/c I'm 12:)
I had a pap last week and when my period starts I have to call my doctor and have blood work on days 3 and 23 of my cycle. I will also have the HSG test sometime between day 5-8, this is where they shoot the dye into your tubes/uterus and take pictures to check for blockage.
I'm excited something is happening.
I truly wish to see more bfps here from those who want one:)
Post by ProfessorArtNerd on Feb 26, 2013 19:06:37 GMT -5
DH still isn't ready. I really want my IUD out for other reasons (honestly, I have two-three periods a month and spot nearly constantly. Fuck this piece of copper in its ass!) I know he's gonne think this is a trick to get me pg. Sigh
Oh shit, I totally read that wrong Well, I will be incredibly happy when it finally happens for you (heart)
And Otterama, not many people understand the grief you're feeling, but your feelings are completely valid. It's like if you had a miscarriage. Your baby will come home and the second you hold him/her, you'll understand why this baby wasn't yours.
Post by Cricket0619 on Feb 26, 2013 19:07:34 GMT -5
Checking in. It hasn't been that long, but still frustrating. I think my cycle is messed up, hopefully it will go back to normal soon. Good luck to you all ttc!
I haven't really chimed in here. We're still saving for treatment, hope to be able to start in another month or two. In the last 2 months, I've had several family/friends announce their 2nd/3rd pregnany or announce the birth of their babies. I'm so happy for them and can't wait to meet the kiddos and spoil them rotten. At the same time, I'm also very ready for our turn.
Post by Monica Geller on Feb 26, 2013 19:08:16 GMT -5
Cycle 8. Tail end of the 2ww. I'm so stressed and busy at work and home right now that I can't even think about it. I have some hope but I won't be devastated this time either...mostly because I'm too busy to have emotions right now. I'm happy for others though!
ETA: I know there are others who have been trying longer and I wish you tons of luck!!
And Otterama, not many people understand the grief you're feeling, but your feelings are completely valid. It's like if you had a miscarriage. Your baby will come home and the second you hold him/her, you'll understand why this baby wasn't yours.
I just tested tonight. No go. Effing eff. On to cycle # 14. Sigh.
Have you talked to a doctor yet?
Oh yes. Several times. Apparently not enough for any of them to know why I'm not getting pregnant. One OB even said I was too overweight for any fertility dr. To take me seriously. Like because I hadn't lost any weight per his rec, the specialist would just assume I really wasn't serious about having another child.
Post by anastasiabeaverhause on Feb 26, 2013 19:09:08 GMT -5
Not many of you know my backstory. My dh and I have been married for about 8 years, started TTC our first year. A year after that we found out I have PCOS, meds for that, able to concieve. A year later, still not pregnant. Found out DH has Azoospermia (he does not produce sperm) - he took several differnt drugs for the next two years, nothing helped. Only option would be IVF w/ donor sperm. Faced w/ the option of IVF, we decided to persue adoption. That was about 4 years ago now. Due to different reasons we are still without kids. We both agreed, a few weekends ago now, that we are just going to live Child Free, it sucks to not have a choice but after so many years of trying and SOOO SOOO SOO much money we just want a break for a while. We aren't saying forever, but we both need a break.
WOW - sorry it got so long and all about me, but I am new here and just wanted to share my background. It sucks not being able to have kids. But I am finally at the place in my life where I am honestly happy for others who are fertile.
And Otterama, not many people understand the grief you're feeling, but your feelings are completely valid. It's like if you had a miscarriage. Your baby will come home and the second you hold him/her, you'll understand why this baby wasn't yours.
I'm on progesterone right now to kick start my period (I was given an estrogen shot immediately after surgery to counteract the meds I had been taking to prepare for endo surgery). No bleeding yet though (I'm on day 5 of 10). Once I have a period, I will go back in for a sonohysterogram; like an HSG without the xrays. This is to check to see if the giant septum is trying to regrow. If it is, I have to have a 3rd surgery.
H and I are in a bad place right now though, so TTC is off the table. I think things are going well though, so I'm hopeful that we will work through this and be stronger on the other side, and ready to resume TTC after I get the ok.
I'm a newbie, but I'm in this camp. In January, we finished a round of IVF that did not work. We used frozen embryos leftover from our first try, which was successful (3 years ago). The failed cycle kind of took H & I by surprise-we got kind of cocky, thinking that since our first round of IVF worked, this one would, too.
We have 2 frozen embryos left, which we will most likely use this summer. If that fails, looks like we are one & done, since we haven't used birth control since...2006?
my period came early this month so I think I'm ovulating earlier then I thought I got a fortune cookie that basically said I was getting pregnant this month so Yeah
Thanks Mofucko. It's been a rough 6 months. I think the stress that my health issues caused has brought to the surface a bunch of crap my H never dealt with a few years ago. We're in therapy and I think he's had some good breakthroughs. He's going to get his own therapist next month.
Post by thatgirl2478 on Feb 26, 2013 19:21:14 GMT -5
Well since AF showed up 3 days early, it's on to cycle #13 for us... According to all the medical tests 'everything is fine' but yet it's still been 12 months and no dice.
I know 3 people who are all due in Aug/Sept and while I'm happy for them, I can't help but feel like something dies in me every time I hear another announcement.
Oh yes. Several times. Apparently not enough for any of them to know why I'm not getting pregnant. One OB even said I was too overweight for any fertility dr. To take me seriously. Like because I hadn't lost any weight per his rec, the specialist would just assume I really wasn't serious about having another child.
Wow. Um No you are not hun! Fertility specialist will talk to you no matter what your size is. Of course they will make suggestions on loosing weight, but the fertility meds will still work even if you are overweight / obese. The only thing they care about is a healthy pregnancy. And your doctor is a dick. Sorry he said that to you, I would find another doctor fast.
I went to a couple of appointments with my RE. Found a blocked Fallopian tube and possibly more fibroids or possibly just adhesions from my surgery. So now I have to get an MRI. Woo hoo!
Then it's either more surgery or just drugs to make me o on my "good side."
The MRI will tell us what's what. Fun times all around.