Check in time for the involuntarily unpregnant

[lucky513]

is it possible to be to skinny to getting pregnant?

[Jalapeñomel]

I've been thinking about how my life would be if we don't have children, and if I would be OK with it.

I went and had a check up with the regular doctor, and everything is normal there. I have an appointment in May with an OB/GYN here who also works as an RE, and supposedly speaks English. But I have this terrible feeling that she is going to tell me that everything looks fine, and DH's work up is fine and that they have no idea why I cannot get PG.

I'm tired and sad, and I can't handle the BFPs here or IRL.  It's horrible, I feel bad and I should probably stay away from social media/GBCML for a while. 

[Jalapeñomel]

Feb 26, 2013 19:36:04 GMT -5 lucky513 said:

is it possible to be to skinny to getting pregnant?

Yes, actually it is.  

[anastasiabeaverhause]

Feb 26, 2013 19:43:50 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

Feb 26, 2013 19:36:04 GMT -5 lucky513 said:

is it possible to be to skinny to getting pregnant?

Yes, actually it is.  

They say that is why Gulianna Rancic (spelling?) couldn't get pregnant

[Jalapeñomel]

Someone here is a debbie downer...who could that be?   <---------

[chickadee77]

Feb 26, 2013 19:36:04 GMT -5 lucky513 said:

is it possible to be to skinny to getting pregnant?

Yup, sure is. We had a good friend that had to gain weight in order to carry to term (long story, but not mine to share). Not ED related, just a naturally tiny woman. 

[Deleted]

I just want to hug all of you and play with your hair. ((hugs for everyone in this post))

[lucky513]

skipping you can just stuff me full of Icecream

[lola]

Oh, Jalapeñomel.

I'm here. I'm feeling super bummed, and a lot like Mel just really struggling with the BFPs. I am happy for everybody, etc etc etc but it's just getting a lot harder for me.

[azurely]

My H and I have been trying almost 3 years. We've done all the testing and they didn't find anything wrong. I'm ovulating, H has good sperm, I'm just not getting pregnant. We did an IUI a year ago and I got pregnant, but miscarried. I got pregnant again right away, but miscarried again. We did a bunch of genetic testing last summer, and I found out I have a rare genetic duplication that likely has nothing to do with us not getting pregnant, but may have caused the m/c. We did another five (5!) IUIs in the fall, but nada. We have our first appt with an RE next month. I'm equal parts nervous and excited. I think IVF is the next step for us.

Sorry that is so long! I hope everyone gets their BFP soon. Whether you've been trying 5 months or 5 years, it's frustrating when things don't happen the way you hope for.

[karmasabiotch]

I'm past the age that I should get pregnant but it still hurts deeply.

[thatgirl2478]

Feb 26, 2013 20:11:15 GMT -5 @booby said:

as G approaches his second birthday, i am really starting to miss my baby and i'm not sure that i can be complete without another one, which is sort of crazy, considering how long it took us to conceive G...and at the time, i promised myself if i only ever had one child, i would be happy. but hormones are a mindfuck, no?

we aren't trying right now b/c i am in school until next april.

my H has had a change in medication (he has health problems). the doctor thinks that part of the reason he had sperm antibodies was b/c of the meds he was on. so, i am sort of excited at the possibility that we may be able to ttc the old-fashioned way.

H is on the fence about #2. i don't blame him b/c he provides 80% of the child care and day-to-day stuff around here. it must be exhausting for him, lol.

anyway, we have a year to decide.

This is how I'm feeling too.  DD just had her 2nd birthday, and I always thought we'd have other one by now... I always (crazy or not) wanted another one in relatively close succession.

[melindafelinda]

Feb 26, 2013 19:42:42 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

I've been thinking about how my life would be if we don't have children, and if I would be OK with it.

I went and had a check up with the regular doctor, and everything is normal there. I have an appointment in May with an OB/GYN here who also works as an RE, and supposedly speaks English. But I have this terrible feeling that she is going to tell me that everything looks fine, and DH's work up is fine and that they have no idea why I cannot get PG.

I'm tired and sad, and I can't handle the BFPs here or IRL.  It's horrible, I feel bad and I should probably stay away from social media/GBCML for a while. 

Many hugs. I think about you, mofo, and Rexmanning every time we get new BFPs. Sending my best vibes your way.

[awick14]

Feb 26, 2013 19:11:16 GMT -5 berbles said:

I'm on progesterone right now to kick start my period (I was given an estrogen shot immediately after surgery to counteract the meds I had been taking to prepare for endo surgery). No bleeding yet though (I'm on day 5 of 10). Once I have a period, I will go back in for a sonohysterogram; like an HSG without the xrays. This is to check to see if the giant septum is trying to regrow. If it is, I have to have a 3rd surgery.

H and I are in a bad place right now though, so TTC is off the table. I think things are going well though, so I'm hopeful that we will work through this and be stronger on the other side, and ready to resume TTC after I get the ok.

((hugs))

[lola]

Feb 26, 2013 20:27:46 GMT -5 thatgirl2478 said:

Feb 26, 2013 20:11:15 GMT -5 @booby said:

as G approaches his second birthday, i am really starting to miss my baby and i'm not sure that i can be complete without another one, which is sort of crazy, considering how long it took us to conceive G...and at the time, i promised myself if i only ever had one child, i would be happy. but hormones are a mindfuck, no?

we aren't trying right now b/c i am in school until next april.

my H has had a change in medication (he has health problems). the doctor thinks that part of the reason he had sperm antibodies was b/c of the meds he was on. so, i am sort of excited at the possibility that we may be able to ttc the old-fashioned way.

H is on the fence about #2. i don't blame him b/c he provides 80% of the child care and day-to-day stuff around here. it must be exhausting for him, lol.

anyway, we have a year to decide.

This is how I'm feeling too.  DD just had her 2nd birthday, and I always thought we'd have other one by now... I always (crazy or not) wanted another one in relatively close succession.

I keep thinking that it's taking so long to get one that I'm not sure more than one is going to be in our future, which makes me sad. I guess I never thought I'd have just one. Then I feel selfish, because I know if I even had one I'd be so thrilled...

[blackcat]

Feb 26, 2013 19:21:37 GMT -5 @dovey1122 said:

Can't do shit until June when it's my 1 year mark of surgery.

After that we'll be doing Clomid

Dovey did you guys change your minds? I could have sworn you were Team No Kids.

[awick14]

Hugs to everyone who has found them selves here. DH and I have only tried for 3 cycles now. (through out 5 months, I don't count the months that I have been OOT during my FW)

The BFP IRL are getting hard to take, but the BFP here don't seem to have any effect on me. Mostly because most of the ladies here have been trying longer then we have.

FX that we get more BFP in the near futures ladies!

[thatgirl2478]

Feb 26, 2013 20:52:53 GMT -5 lola said:

Feb 26, 2013 20:27:46 GMT -5 thatgirl2478 said:

This is how I'm feeling too.  DD just had her 2nd birthday, and I always thought we'd have other one by now... I always (crazy or not) wanted another one in relatively close succession.

I keep thinking that it's taking so long to get one that I'm not sure more than one is going to be in our future, which makes me sad. I guess I never thought I'd have just one. Then I feel selfish, because I know if I even had one I'd be so thrilled...

lola - I know.  I often feel like I should just be content with DD (she only took 6 cycles - but they were crazy long ones), but neither DH nor I ever felt like we would be one and done. 

DD is wonderful and silly and headstrong and stubborn and smart and all the things you could wish for in a 2yr old girl, so I often ask myself if we're pushing it trying for another. 

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Feb 26, 2013 19:50:45 GMT -5 skippingstones said:

I just want to hug all of you and play with your hair. ((hugs for everyone in this post))

Anything you want <3

[lust2hart]

Feb 26, 2013 19:11:27 GMT -5 TR said:

Checking in. We really gave it all we had last cycle and nada. The one thing I'm holding on to is the hope that I'll get this job because that will mean (in my mind) that there was a PURPOSE for my m/c and not getting pregnant in the months since. It was all so that I would be ready to take advantage of this awesome opportunity when it came along. If I don't get the job, I worry I will turn seriously bitter.

My fertile window is the end of next week while we're in Costa Rica. Luckily, I should know yay or nay on the job by then so we know how to proceed. If I get the job, we will likely reluctantly hold off on TTC for a couple of months so that I would be FMLA eligible by the time I was due. But if that's the case, we will have a lot going on with my new job and the new house. Maybe I won't even notice my should-have-been due date go by in April.

I hope it all works out like that for you. We signed the contract on our house the week I was due - it was nice to have something happy and exciting happen during that time. 

[Deleted]

We should have a FB group.

[coribelle26]

Lots of hugs commiseration and good thoughts for everyone in here.

I'm doing much better than I was last week when I had my freak out. We had brunch with friends on Sunday, and they told us about their struggles with IF (she just had surgery to unblock her tubes), and it helped to know that there's someone else in our circle who gets how hard this can be. I hadn't known about any of that until Sunday, but now I feel like I have a kindred spirit.

I'm a little annoyed with charting this month, I was kind of half-assed about temping so FF won't identify an ovulation date even though I'm almost positive I'm 3 DPO right now. I still haven't called to make the appointment because I'm stuck on "well maybe this month is it." I need to bite the bullet and make the damn call. In the back of my head I'm worried about exactly what damnation described, I'm overweight and working on it but I'm so afraid any doctor is just going to be like, "yeah, lose the weight and then we'll talk." Blech.

[ooglie26]

Feb 26, 2013 21:25:29 GMT -5 @otterama said:

We should have a FB group.

I second this. 
:Y:

[thatgirl2478]

Feb 26, 2013 21:27:22 GMT -5 coribelle26 said:

Lots of hugs commiseration and good thoughts for everyone in here.

I'm doing much better than I was last week when I had my freak out. We had brunch with friends on Sunday, and they told us about their struggles with IF (she just had surgery to unblock her tubes), and it helped to know that there's someone else in our circle who gets how hard this can be. I hadn't known about any of that until Sunday, but now I feel like I have a kindred spirit.

I'm a little annoyed with charting this month, I was kind of half-assed about temping so FF won't identify an ovulation date even though I'm almost positive I'm 3 DPO right now. I still haven't called to make the appointment because I'm stuck on "well maybe this month is it." I need to bite the bullet and make the damn call. In the back of my head I'm worried about exactly what damnation described, I'm overweight and working on it but I'm so afraid any doctor is just going to be like, "yeah, lose the weight and then we'll talk." Blech.

I know the feeling!  I have another 20ish lbs to lose before I'm no longer 'obese' according to the height/weight charts.


The first time I spoke to my Dr (only 3 or 4 months into this journey) he said that I should lose 10% of my body weight and that would help with the whole ovulation thing (it took 9 months after my DD was born for me to get my periods back - and I only breastfed for 3 months).  I lost that, and when I went to see him in Dec regarding why nothing had happened yet, he said that the weight probably wasn't the issue.

If you're pretty sure you're ovulating, then you should go and discuss your concerns.  Plenty of overweight people have children & plenty get help for fertility issues too.

[discogranny]

I don't have much of an update. Just waiting for post-m/c AF to show up. I'm ready for things not to be awkward with people. While I am glad to have so much IRL support I feel like DH and I have become those people that people say 'bless their hearts' after talking about while holding their children a little tighter.

When I first started TTC there were these women on the boards who had been trying for over two years, had multiple failed IF treatments, some combined with losses. I remember feeling so sad for them when things happened. They also scared me because I saw how completely heart wrenching this process could become. Now I am them and it kills me. I am having a hard time with this lately.

[VillainV]

I chuckled at "involuntarily unpregnant." That's totally me.

I'm 32, H is 34. We got married in April, started TTC in July, and got pregnant in October. Then I miscarried in Dec at 10 weeks. It took a while to be cleared to TTC again, except we can't because my boss decided that now that I'm not pregnant anymore I'll be deploying to Afghanistan. So we won't be able to start trying again until autumn, and we'll only have a small window until it's time to move into a new job again.

It is the suck. But it helps me to know that I'm not the only one going through this...it can feel really lonely sometimes. Thanks to everyone for sharing their stories and experiences. It helps me a lot.

[Jalapeñomel]

There is a TroubleTTC board on GBCML with lots of women in all stages. Check it out!

[mrssandro]

Checking in. After the longest natural m/c 3 months later I am finally getting my normal cycle back. Nearly every cousin is knocked up about to give birth. So I have decided to take a break until summer. I can not mentally deal with another loss right now.

[statlerwaldorf]

I've been struggling. We've been TTC for 3 years and 4 months. I've had one m/c and one chemical pregnancy.

[papie]

Can I check in with you guys? I still think of the fact that I would be very pregnant now if I hadn't lost that baby One more month to TTC. I took a test this week because of nausea (we are using condoms though) and was so sad when it was negative. But it would make such a big difference at work if I can wait until april.