birthday party dramz/frustration

[abitofashout]

My gal's b-day is at the end of April, but I want to start planning her b-day party and getting invites ordered or made, etc. I've learned that I have to give myself extra time to do these things or they simply won't happen (hello, Christmas cards). I can't even pick a date because my ILs are in another state, where my FIL works as a contractor. They know I'm trying to plan this, but they won't ask when he's going to get his next round of time off. They just won't because they don't understand that I'm not just calling people a couple of days before and saying, "Oh, hey, hope you don't have plans because we're having V's first birthday party!" I'm going to bake, H is going to grill/cook, and I'm making decorations. I don't want them to be left out, but I don't want to wait another month before they tell us what the fuck is going on with his schedule.

Grrr. I'm two weeks away from saying, "The party is on this day. Hope you can make it!"

[katfco]

Why don't you give them a few dates and say, "Which one of these will work for you?" And then give them a deadline to find out?

[Deleted]

We are picking the date, and hope the ILs will come in for it. No matter when it is I figure somebody important won't be able to make it, so I will pick the date that works best for us.

[kdrake8]

Feb 27, 2013 14:15:25 GMT -5 katfco said:

Why don't you give them a few dates and say, "Which one of these will work for you?" And then give them a deadline to find out?

I would do this. If they don't respond I would tell them to date and say "really hope you can be there!"

[abitofashout]

I told them when we would ideally like to do it (the weekend before, since her birthday falls in the middle of the week) and said I'd be fine doing it the weekend after if we had to. They don't understand why it matters even though I've explained it a thousand times. They also don't understand why, at Christmas, I didn't want to let her suck on peppermint sticks.

[Dorothy Zbornak]

Feb 27, 2013 14:59:06 GMT -5 abitofashout said:

They also don't understand why, at Christmas, I didn't want to let her suck on peppermint sticks.

Well, that probably made baby Jesus cry! For shame!

Sent from my shamcock.

[erniebufflo]

I say give them two dates to choose from and 2 weeks to decide.

[laouli]

At this point I dont think I would give them any choice.. they've had time to speak up and havent...

I would just we've gone ahead and scheduled the party for xx date because we had to get the invites ordered. Or some other reason... but me.. being the control freak I am.. Probably wouldnt have given them a choice to begin with.. it's a make it happen type of thing.. maybe im a biotch for this.. ce le vie...

[abitofashout]

I texted my MIL and she just got back with me, saying there's no way for them to know. I'm planning the party, then we'll have a reenactment whenever they can be here.