Vote Please! Mom-Sub board - yay or nay?

[moonstone523]

[alzi]

I can't see polls on the app. I vote whatever. Doesn't matter to me either way. Kid talk doesn't bother me, and I don't have any yet. Lalalala

[amellis2]

Erm, so if we do do a dub-board, do I need to change my siggy? Like, are we going to be totally NKA, or what?

AW/BR/KIDS!!!!: Because my kids are cute and that would be a damn shame.

[lauren9317]

I voted for no sub board because it doesn't bother me that there are kid posts on here PLUS if there's a sub board, I will want to check it too so that's one more board for me to look at and it's easier to keep up with just one-- lol.

[EllieArroway]

(butting in)

If it makes any difference, if you guys do add a sub-board, those of you who don't want the posts separated can change your profile settings to show all sub-board posts in the main board.

[lauren9317]

Jun 4, 2012 15:51:02 GMT -5 EllieArroway said:

(butting in)

If it makes any difference, if you guys do add a sub-board, those of you who don't want the posts separated can change your profile settings to show all sub-board posts in the main board.

Oh good, I like that

[amellis2]

Jun 4, 2012 15:58:41 GMT -5 lauren9317 said:

Jun 4, 2012 15:51:02 GMT -5 EllieArroway said:

(butting in)

If it makes any difference, if you guys do add a sub-board, those of you who don't want the posts separated can change your profile settings to show all sub-board posts in the main board.

Oh good, I like that

Me three.

[aegis2005]

Jun 4, 2012 16:02:50 GMT -5 amellis2 said:

Jun 4, 2012 15:58:41 GMT -5 lauren9317 said:

Oh good, I like that

Me three.

Me four - if we go to a sub board I will be doing this, because I think separating boards is completely silly.

[moonstone523]

So it looks like 'Heck no. Please don't go.' is winning.

Here is the question though: The mommy talk will continue on this board then. There is nothing stopping people from AWing their kids, talking about cloth diapering, asking about planning kids birthdays, or getting advice on things to register for.

These types of posts have caused people to turn away in the past it seems, so what would be different moving forward if we didn't separate?

Are the same people going to be offended? Are the mommas and mommas to be going to not post things they would because they don't want to be labeled the worst offender?

[mrsjason]

Jun 4, 2012 16:28:10 GMT -5 moonstone523 said:

So it looks like 'Heck no. Please don't go.' is winning.

Here is the question though: The mommy talk will continue on this board then. There is nothing stopping people from AWing their kids, talking about cloth diapering, asking about planning kids birthdays, or getting advice on things to register for.

These types of posts have caused people to turn away in the past it seems, so what would be different moving forward if we didn't separate?

Are the same people going to be offended? Are the mommas and mommas to be going to not post things they would because they don't want to be labeled the worst offender?

Why can't we just go with the sub-board idea with the option to include baby posts if wanted? That seems like a win-win for everyone.

[amellis2]

For me, I would probably not post as much about my kids. I would still be posting since, like I said in my post regarding the initial suggestion, I (nor do any of the other women) do not cease to be a partner to Luis (well, you all are not his partner, and if you have been..back off!) or woman, but I think at that point it would be the not-moms and others to post non-kid related things.

I feel like not-moms, not-yet-moms, and others offended by BR posts would need to step up to the plate, in this case.

[jen812]

I really like the @ suggestion. Keeps this board alive & makes it completely obvious what is inside the post.

[aegis2005]

Jun 4, 2012 16:28:10 GMT -5 moonstone523 said:

So it looks like 'Heck no. Please don't go.' is winning.

Here is the question though: The mommy talk will continue on this board then. There is nothing stopping people from AWing their kids, talking about cloth diapering, asking about planning kids birthdays, or getting advice on things to register for.

These types of posts have caused people to turn away in the past it seems, so what would be different moving forward if we didn't separate?

Are the same people going to be offended? Are the mommas and mommas to be going to not post things they would because they don't want to be labeled the worst offender?

From the dialogue last night, I suspect most people who are so upset have already made their mind up they want nothing to do with the board. Adding a sub board is not going to change whether they come back.

What I see happening is that people who want to feel comfortable posting about baby posts will put all their posts on the "baby" sub board - regardless if it's about babies and the "main" board will have no posts.

It's been said by others, but I'll say it again - if people want to make the board less "baby focused" then put non-baby posts up. It's really not that hard to "fix".

In the end if we go to a sub board whatever, I'll make whatever modification was mentioned to not have separate posts, and if the main board dies, I'll start posting random non baby stuff of the baby sub board.

[pinkwillow]

This isn't rocket science people. Add a sub board and change your individual settings if you want to see the sub board topics in the main board (which in the end doesn't change anything for you). If this is done then I plan to come back and make an effort to post more regularly (especially with the typical summer slowdown in my company & the awesome phone app). If not... then you can find me on H&F.

Carolyn- LOL at your PIP!

[aidensmom]

I'm not going to vote bc I'm just going to go with the flow either way but I do have a question about all this. . . .

What would be considered a mommy post? Like lets say I want to post about moving back to Tampa but I just so happen to mention something related to Aiden in the post like "and Aiden is excited to have his own room again" type thing. Is that now a mommy post?

[aegis2005]

Jun 5, 2012 8:48:01 GMT -5 aidensmom said:

I'm not going to vote bc I'm just going to go with the flow either way but I do have a question about all this. . . .

What would be considered a mommy post? Like lets say I want to post about moving back to Tampa but I just so happen to mention something related to Aiden in the post like "and Aiden is excited to have his own room again" type thing. Is that now a mommy post?

My personal opinion ... if someone really gets their panties in a bunch over someone else mentioning something along these lines they need to grow up.

[pinkwillow]

Jun 5, 2012 8:48:01 GMT -5 aidensmom said:

I'm not going to vote bc I'm just going to go with the flow either way but I do have a question about all this. . . .

What would be considered a mommy post? Like lets say I want to post about moving back to Tampa but I just so happen to mention something related to Aiden in the post like "and Aiden is excited to have his own room again" type thing. Is that now a mommy post?

Nope. Photos of kids in siggy are fine with me too. I'm even fine with birth announcements on the main board also. Like I said, I know ya'll have kids and/or are pregnant. I know that your daily activities include your kids. So if I posted a 'how was your weekend' post, I expect some answers to include 'took kid A and kid B to the zoo, it was awesome!'. What I can't handle anymore is the mentioning in every.single.post about kids. It needs to be toned down and I think a sub board is the perfect solution for all of us.

I honestly don't understand the resistance about making a sub board. It shows respect for the feelings of those of us who have spoken up (and those that have remained silent about the whole thing but maybe feel the same way) and nothing will change for ya'll if change your settings. I think the ones who are making a big stink about creating a sub board are the ones who 'have their panties in a bunch'.

[mrschelseap09]

I thought everyone moved over here so that they wouldn't be censored. Isn't this in a way asking the moms to censor themselves? I think a sub board is a horrible idea, but I don't post a ton anymore... just my two cents.

[pinkwillow]

Jun 5, 2012 9:16:51 GMT -5 mrschelseap09 said:

I thought everyone moved over here so that they wouldn't be censored. Isn't this in a way asking the moms to censor themselves? I think a sub board is a horrible idea, but I don't post a ton anymore... just my two cents.

Nope, just asking them to use their very own sub board to AW away. Like I've said 5million times now, I understand there will be some kid chatter as they are a huge part of the day-to-day. BUT it doesn't have to be in every topic.

Oh and, we moved over here because TN formatting sucked.

[sara76]

Pink, girl, when did you become so ornery? I probably would have liked your angry version if it wasn't directed right at me, but it just doesn't seem cute right now. You have gotten a couple of apologies already and believe me, I've gotcha LOUD AND CLEAR. Please go down the list of threads and see if kids are a part of every topic and then continue to alienate yourself.

[aidensmom]

All this arguing back and forth with each other over something so dumb is making me not want to post anymore. haha. I don't come on here to talk about Aiden but he is the biggest part of my life. I made a post asking about living with a dog and it turned into a post about Aiden adjusting to the dog. I don't want people to get pissed off at me if that happens in the future if I post that on the regular board not knowing it was going to turn into a post mainly about my child. It wasn't what I intended. If i have to put that much thought into my posts and what they may turn into, I might as well not post at all. I'm not upset at all, just sharing how I feel I guess.

[alzi]

I agree with aegis and Sara. This is seriously dumb you guys.

[pinkwillow]

Jun 5, 2012 9:35:03 GMT -5 sara76 said:

Pink, girl, when did you become so ornery? I probably would have liked your angry version if it wasn't directed right at me, but it just doesn't seem cute right now. You have gotten a couple of apologies already and believe me, I've gotcha LOUD AND CLEAR. Please go down the list of threads and see if kids are a part of every topic and then continue to alienate yourself.

Well, about 8 weeks ago when I was faced with a major medical decision. I've gotten one apology from you (which I've been debating on how I want to respond- as in publicly on here or privately via FB message) and then attacked by all the mommies simply because I stated my feelings. Oh well.

[sara76]

Im sorry, I removed you from my friends list yesterday when I posted yet another pic because I don't want to feel bad on there too. Just PM me on here if you ever want to.

[moonstone523]

Jun 5, 2012 9:39:14 GMT -5 aidensmom said:

All this arguing back and forth with each other over something so dumb is making me not want to post anymore. haha. I don't come on here to talk about Aiden but he is the biggest part of my life. I made a post asking about living with a dog and it turned into a post about Aiden adjusting to the dog. I don't want people to get pissed off at me if that happens in the future if I post that on the regular board not knowing it was going to turn into a post mainly about my child. It wasn't what I intended. If i have to put that much thought into my posts and what they may turn into, I might as well not post at all. I'm not upset at all, just sharing how I feel I guess.

I don't think any one of us needs to feel bad about what we post on here, but I totally get what you are saying. I have stopped myself from posting certain things for fear of offending others, which is pretty silly of me.

It isn't like we are talking about some majorly controversial topic here. It babies. Something that whether you want them, don't want them, can have them, or can't have them is a topic that will come up for the rest of your life. I mean this in the most respective way possible.

We can support each other though. Whether you are struggling to conceive, don't want kids, or have them already, I don't think anyone here is trying to cause anyone else heartbreak. We empathize with everyone's different life situations.

So, I agree. Let's stop the debate. Let's come up with a solution. And go for it.

So we either talk about whatever here - babies, gay marriage, trying to lose weight, where you want to live, your crappy or amazing job, waking up on the wrong side of the bed, your favorite tv show, the purse you are lusting after, troubles with breast feeding, wanting to train for a 5k, or we divide and conquer.

The board is picking up. People are jumping in to make this an active and friendly place. That's awesome. And I hope it continues. But I also want a place where all feel comfortable to participate.

[lauren9317]

I agree with Moon... we should be able to post whatever we want on here! And that means we won't always like what each other posts. Sometimes we will be interested in a topic and will join in and comment. Other times we will roll our eyes at someone's post and not comment. That's just how it is!

[lauren9317]

I feel like I sounded mean in the post I just wrote..lol! But that's how I feel, obviously I've ttc for a million years so I don't always look at pregnancy posts but I wouldn't want the preggos and moms to stop posting.

[moonstone523]

Jun 5, 2012 10:26:40 GMT -5 lauren9317 said:

I feel like I sounded mean in the post I just wrote..lol! But that's how I feel, obviously I've ttc for a million years so I don't always look at pregnancy posts but I wouldn't want the preggos and moms to stop posting.

Not.at.all.

[mskateb]

Jun 5, 2012 10:21:26 GMT -5 lauren9317 said:

I agree with Moon... we should be able to post whatever we want on here! And that means we won't always like what each other posts. Sometimes we will be interested in a topic and will join in and comment. Other times we will roll our eyes at someone's post and not comment. That's just how it is!

Exactly.

This is silly.

[alzi]

Lauren for President!