I just wanted to say I think it's crappy how you are judging your mom like that. If she's in pain, that sucks. Hard. I'm in pain nearly 24/7 and it's not easy...maybe that's how she gets through the pain each day.
Also, is she lonely? If so, I could see where that would happen. My question is this: what are you doing to help the situation? If you don't like her, then just don't have anything to do with it.
Andalsoplus, maybe she doesn't realize how she comes across? I dunno...your post rubbed me the wrong way and I think a little empathy would go a long way.
Yeah, it's bitchy and judgmental, but I am so frustrated with her. Like I said, I don't want her to be in pain, but I am also tired of our relationship revolving around that pain. When we talk, she doesn't ask about my life or my day or anything. It goes straight to her problems. She sends mass emails to everyone on her email list updating us on her current pain. I think it would be good for her if she didn't revel in her pain so much. I'm not the picture of perfect health either, and I have constant back issues that have me in pain at least four hours a day after I wake up. I know what it's like to be in pain.
This has been going on for over a year, and she won't try anything but taking pills. She is on 10 different medications, and won't take my (or anyone else's) advice to make sure that the drugs aren't interacting with each other and making things worse. Plus her diet is horrendous. She doesn't eat breakfast or lunch most days, and only drinks Diet Dr. Pepper. Dinner is always fast food. Never any fresh fruits or vegetables, so there is no way she is getting enough nutrients per day. She just tells me that she isn't interested in advice because people don't understand her illness. I don't dislike her, but she definitely isn't trying everything she could be to help herself.
Yeah, empathy does go a long way. But I can only take so much. I'm not proud of it. That's why I posted it under Confessions and not under Happy Things in My Life. It's hard, and it does suck. But feeling like I can't have a relationship with my mom because she puts her illness between us is hard, too.