s/o showers - host etiquette?

[ladygrey]

Is it okay for my mom to host a baby shower for me?  I recall from wedding planning that it was considered poor taste for the MOB to host a bridal shower for her daughter, but does this logic also apply to baby showers? It seems like several people had their showers hosted by their moms (in the shower poll thread), so maybe this is perfectly acceptable after all.

[CloudBee]

I think it's fine.

My MIL told me multiple times when we were engaged, and again pregnant, that she didn't think family should host showers. But she's also in her 80's... So there's that.

So many people on my BMB have immediate family throwing their showers. I think it's really nice!

[carolinagirl831]

My two aunts hosted it, at my aunts country club
It was a catered lunch- pretty fancy, I was surprised! Salad, soufflés, dessert delicious!
It was a big shower about 45 people, but we live in Nc and both of our families live in Il and Mo. The shower was in StLouis with both sides of our family and friends.
No games, just visiting with everyone since I don't get to see them that often. It was great!

[Deleted]

It depends on how pearl-clutchy your crowd is.  I say no big deal.  Why is a grandma not allowed to throw a shower for her child/grandchild?  I think it's all so silly.

[h]

Moms and MILs hosting showers (wedding or baby) is off-limits limits in my circle, but it seems to be common on here. I think it just depends on the norm where you live. Have you been to other showers hosted by moms?

[ladygrey]

Most of the showers I've been to recently have been hosted by family members - either moms, sisters, or aunts of the mom-to-be. I don't think anyone in my circle would get pearl-clutchy over this, but wanted to get some other opinions.

[carolinagirl831]

Oops sorry I thought I was answering the other shower poll! But in answer to your question, I think it's fine if family hosts, as long as you're not throwing a shower for yourself who cares!

[bunch]

I wouldn't be ok with it personally, but I wouldn't think anything about being invited to one.

[Deleted]

I'm not a fan personally, but I do think there are far worse etiquette crimes.

[whitemerlot]

I think it's just fine.

[jackpackage]

My mom hosted mine. I was a little uncomfortable with it at first, but it was NBD.

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Mar 1, 2013 21:49:43 GMT -5 farmvillelover said:

I have zero problem with it and in fact am a fan of it.

Me too- hosting a shower can be expensive. I forbade my BFF (who was my MOH) from hosting a baby shower for me. She spent enough on my wedding. In the end a couple other friends hosted a small, casual baby shower. I think it's natural for grandma to want to do it - why not let her?!

[ellipses84]

In my social circle it is most common for the mother (and sisters and sometimes MIL) to host baby showers. MOH and BMs usually host bridal showers.

[ryry]

I had no idea it wasn't appropriate. My dad and his wife hosted mine at their house (my mom passed away when I was 20). I can't even fathom why it would be inappropriate, but I also grew up in Boston and my family is not known for its etiquette.

[Deleted]

It's so weird because every shower I've ever been to has been hosted by a mother. In my hometown showers can be $ so expecting a friend to host it always struck me as strange. My mom put "hosted by NQB's sister" on my bridal shower invites but I don't think anyone thought my sister bought brunch for 40 women in my honor. LOL. My baby shower is at my mom's house.

[zacksbride]

my mom hosted my shower.  very common in the area where i am from

[zacksbride]

Mar 1, 2013 22:58:41 GMT -5 farmvillelover said:

Mar 1, 2013 22:53:32 GMT -5 @sirsleepsalot said:

Me too- hosting a shower can be expensive. I forbade my BFF (who was my MOH) from hosting a baby shower for me. She spent enough on my wedding. In the end a couple other friends hosted a small, casual baby shower. I think it's natural for grandma to want to do it - why not let her?!

I agree. I would've felt really bad if my friends ended up having to pay for a shower for 60 people (how many i had) at a restaurant. My mom was a co-host and she was so happy to do so for her first (and maybe even only, ever) grandchild.  I don't *think* any of my friends pear clutched or if they did, they kept it to themselves.  I think it's very common in my circle and even region for family members like a mom to host.

i agree with this completely.  in my hometown area, showers are usually at restaurants for about 40-50 people.  it can get very pricey for all of that, and in no way did i want friends of mine to foot the bill.  i was fine with my mom hosting.  

[lolo]

In some parts of the country, like the Midwest, it's extremely common for a baby shower (or a bridal shower, for that matter) to be hosted by a family member. I think nothing of it.