Help me decide about applying for a new job

[BNL2]

I work in public ed. All jobs are posted and usually filled in the Spring, so like now. I'm seriously considering applying to another district but I have some hesitation. If one of the next 2 IUIs work, I would be due mid school year which would suck if I were in a new position. OTOH, we're only doing 2 more IUIs before moving on to something else, probably IVF. We can't afford IVF this year so I could have a whole year in the new position, making more money, before I got pregnant.

I just don't know what to do. I've always said I would stay at my current job until I had a baby and maybe into the first year. But now I don't know when that may actually happen and I feel like I've put my life on hold. What would you do?

[mae141]

Mar 13, 2013 19:36:17 GMT -5 @starflower22 said:

Don't put your life on hold, I'd apply for the job if I were you! Ive learned to not plan anything with a "what if I'm pregnant", if i did I'd never do anything! GL!!

This!

If you're lucky, you'll get the new job and get pregnant. Sure it would be a PITA to be due mid year when you're new, but really, that's far better than not getting pregnant. If you don't get pregnant, at least you'll be in the new job. 

[BNL2]

You both make excellent points. I find myself frequently making decisions around "what if I get pregnant" and it's getting me nowhere. I guess I should work on my resume this weekend.

[KaraOrNot]

I would go for it! The biggest thing IF has taught me is that I can't plan for anything.

[G22]

Ditto everyone. I would have missed out on so much if I kept saying what if. For what its worth, I held the same mind set as you. I wasn't happy in my previous job and just kept telling myself "just wait til you get pregnant and then you can quit". I'd still be at that job if that were the case. I applied for a part time position last August and got it.

I'm so glad I did that because I was miserable 8 months ago and I can't imagine feeling that way still on top of all the stress I'm feeling with trying to get pregnant too. Apply and see what happens!

[BNL2]

KaraOrNot, you are so right. Not being able to plan perfectly for a child has been a hard thing for me to accept. But I have to accept it at some point.

G22, one of my fears is being in this same situation 5 years from now and even more miserable. I could see myself saying "just one more year" and absolutely going insane.

[discogranny]

I agree with the others BNL, don't put your life on hold. Think about it this way, if you were fertile and accidentally got pregnant when you first started a new job you probably would feel a little sheepish telling your new boss but you definitely wouldn't change your plans because of it.

[degal99]

Just chiming in that I agree with everyone else, too! Good luck applying for the new job!

[Deleted]

Definitely agree with everyone else. I delayed looking for a new job for a year while we were trying, before we knew there was anything wrong and I gravely regret that decision.

[BNL2]

Thanks for all of the support and advice. I'm going to work on my app and resume this weekend. I've even asked a few people for references. I'm excited about new possibilities!