I don't think they can legally tell her at this point.
This is absolutely correct.
The school cannot release the name.
Feel free to get the police involved -- the police will be able to get the name and take action even without the name of the child being released.
Did the school call the police department?
Those school officials are mandated reporters and Federal Tarasoff Law (Duty to Warn) may apply here. If it does, the school would not only be obligated to tell the mother what the threat was, but also who made the threat. It may not apply in cases of juveniles but I believe they must still notify the police.
elle Hi. Would Tarasoff apply here? I'm not sure how it works with juveniles.
Not releasing the kid's name to the mother is one thing, but to the police? I'd threaten lawsuit and kick up a major fuss. I'd also see if the police can get the information out of the principal.
I'm horrified by this whole thing. I don't know how your nephew could possibly feel safe when he knows that two kids in his school conspired to kill him, but he has no idea which two. Both should be reported to the police. Is the kid who took the money also being punished? The kid who took money to kill another kid?
GOOD LORD! In our district, that kid would have been removed from the school and sent to alternative school AFTER the school made sure charges were pressed against the kid.
Post by Pixiehollow on Mar 20, 2013 9:59:33 GMT -5
This kind of response terrifies me! I'm just aghast. Any more updates from your sister? Did she send your nephew to school today? I would not be able to send my child until I knew the two people behind it. I would also be in there pronto threatening lawsuits. Disgusting. I just am speechless.
Post by sawyerthedestroyer on Mar 20, 2013 10:02:38 GMT -5
I got three days ISS because another kid stole a little bottle of hair gel from my backpack and threw it across the room and it splattered all over the damn place. She got ISS for throwing it, I got ISS for being out of my seat and asking to have it back.
Unbelievable. A kid in Colorado was suspended for playing with a pretend grenade on a playground. The kid who threatened your nephew should be removed from the school.
Post by textbookcase on Mar 20, 2013 11:54:32 GMT -5
He is actually my brothers son, but that is neither here nor there. She said that the kid is being suspended for 5 days now, not iss. That's all the more information I have heard thus far, but I will talk to her this afternoon. I've told her all of the information/advice you guys have given, so thank you all! I will update when I hear more
Hey Textbook, I was just wondering - how is your nephew holding up with all of this? I dealt with some pretty awful stuff in middle school, but nothing even close to this level. I keep thinking about how much I dreaded every single second of school, and my heart is just breaking for him.
Hey Textbook, I was just wondering - how is your nephew holding up with all of this? I dealt with some pretty awful stuff in middle school, but nothing even close to this level. I keep thinking about how much I dreaded every single second of school, and my heart is just breaking for him.
Yes. This.
Middle school was the absolute worst fucking time of my entire life, but it wasn't ever at this level of horrible. I hope he's okay.
Has she met with anyone in person or has it been only phone contact?
If not, I'd arrange a meeting face to face, have a list of issues, state that the media and police will be independently contacted about the issue and get something in writing that states exactly how they will be taking precautions that this kid will feel and remain safe.
I know you've told her all of this and have most likely thought of it already but I am still so so enraged for your family.
Post by textbookcase on Mar 20, 2013 14:22:30 GMT -5
I think she's only had phone contact. I am encouraging her to raise mother effig hell. She keeps saying, "I don't want to be that mom" and I said that this is the exact situation that requires her to be THAT mom. It's hard because it's not my kid. If it was, we wouldn't leave that school office until I was ensured of the safety of my child.
Things like this seem to be commonplace in the schools here. This is a big reason that we pulled our kids out.
Nephew seems to be doing okay, he's going to be with my parents this afternoon and I'm going over there.
I think she's only had phone contact. I am encouraging her to raise mother effig hell. She keeps saying, "I don't want to be that mom" and I said that this is the exact situation that requires her to be THAT mom. It's hard because it's not my kid. If it was, we wouldn't leave that school office until I was ensured of the safety of my child.
Things like this seem to be commonplace in the schools here. This is a big reason that we pulled our kids out.
Nephew seems to be doing okay, he's going to be with my parents this afternoon and I'm going over there.
I'd rather be 'that mom' who raises hell than 'that mom' who doesn't know if some idiot kid is going to try again to have her son killed.
I'm glad he's holding up okay with this. I just can't imagine, and I can't believe that this is considered commonplace. This is so fucked up.
She would only be "that mom" if she were making a big deal out of nothing. This isn't nothing. No one should judge her for wanting to protect her son from someone who wanted him dead.
Thank God he isn't just getting ISS, but to me what they are doing is still just a slap on the wrist and a finger wag compared to what they should be doing.
Give that little boy some big huge bear hugs. I really hope he can come through this whole thing as unscathed as possible.