People are assholes. Sorry you live in Closemindedville, CA
"You sound like a pathetic loser who emails people on a dating site for the sake of being mean. Good luck finding a woman with a personality like that."
New friend - wtf is wrong with him? First, I WISH (seriously) that I could have tatoos and colorful hair. I guess I could have put this in the other post. When I was younger, I was very pierced and only got one (dumb) tattoo. I always wanted more, but with my career....blah. No way I could make it happen without a ton of money in work clothes and tons of time and effort to hide them. I tell people all the time "I cant commit to anything else on my body forever" but really, I know it would push me out of opportunities and such. BF doesn't even know this (and he won't!). He has some great work and I encourage him to get more :-)
All that said, that guy is an idiot. I if saw you IRL I would feel a twinge of envy. There are many cool people in SD that are open minded too. I think things will come together when you find the right job out of the wrong part of SoCal...
"Everything happens for a reason, people change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so you can appreciate them when they're right, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can come together." ~Marilyn Monroe
Post by redredwine on Mar 26, 2013 18:18:48 GMT -5
I vote Portland!! Trust me...I was in your area for years, I GET the douchiness and that was part of the reason I didn't want to move back when I got divorced.
I was born in the IE (San Bernadino) and have to travel to Ontario for work a decent amount (we have another campus location there). I feel your pain. Everywhere closer to the coast is more expensive and the people in IE are VERY stuck in their ways. (stereotype, I know - sorry if offending anyone)
Post by starburst604 on Mar 26, 2013 18:25:57 GMT -5
Sorry MP. I had guys say hateful things out of the blue when I was online dating too. Some really, really mean stuff, and Im as conventional looking as they come. Mean people will look for a target, and they live everywhere so don't let one idiot scare you off. FWIW I think you're beautiful.
Post by bullygirl979 on Mar 26, 2013 18:50:34 GMT -5
Mean people suck, mp. You are beautiful and thoughtful and wonderful. Some people don't like themselves very much and then they feel the need to spread their hatred to other people.
I'm team jojo on this one. I know people who could take care the idiot. Clearly his mother never told him to kep his mouth quiet if he didn't have anything nice to say.
I tried POF but had horrible luck with it in general.
I said something in my profile about being a grammar nerd (which I guess is kind of pretentious, but I am!) and got a really mean message out of the blue from some guy making fun of me for it. People suck.
Even though he's a complete idiot and what he said is completely untrue, I'd be hurt receiving an email like that too. It's just unnecessarily mean and I'm sure take a jab at your self confidence even though you ROCK. I get butt hurt with comments like that even when I don't know the person.
Those kind of people are just miserable and hate seeing happy, confident people who aren't afraid to take risks and live life. Believe me, you need to just keep being your awesome self and you are winning no matter whatr that douche says.
People are assholes. Sorry you live in Closemindedville, CA
"You sound like a pathetic loser who emails people on a dating site for the sake of being mean. Good luck finding a woman with a personality like that."
I'm so sorry. I'm not a big tattoo person but I think your whole look is so hawt! It's so you- I couldn't imagine you without pink hair and tattoos. I'm so sorry he was mean to you. What a jerk.
I'm sorry. What a horrible person that he has to go out of his way to be mean to someone. He could also be one of those guys who is mean to women to pick them up, some women with really low selfestime will fall for that.
Post by wrathofkuus on Mar 26, 2013 22:06:40 GMT -5
How DARE you refuse to perform your duty to look in keeping with that guy's tastes? The nerve of you, brazenly refusing to turn him on. You're lucky all you got was a reprimand.
Instead of emailing him back, is there a way that message can be shared with all the other POF ladies so they know what an asshole he is ? Maybe he will realize then that its personality and not tatts that gets/loses dates.
He's a judgemental ass. I'm sorry you had that experience MP. He doesn't know what the fuck he's talking about.