How should I RSVP?

[nursewife]

One of my husbands cousins is getting married 8 days after my hysterectomy. We just got their beautiful invite in the mail.. I really want to go, but have no idea how I'll be feeling. It's about 2 hours away, and our kids won't be coming along, which would make it easier. So, yay or nah?

[eb777888]

Yikes! IDK, maybe call her? I know after a hysterectomy, a friend was out of work for six weeks. I have no idea if this was normal or she had a more complicated case or what. What's the recovery expected to be like?

eta: I meant "call her" because if family really wanted to come to my wedding but had this issue, I'd  personally want to accomodate them, but now Sue is probably going to flame me because it's a major faux paus or something.

[ElizabethBennet]

I haven't personally had a hysterectomy but from the people I know who have had them, there is no way you'll be able to go 8 days out.

[ginger]

You aren't going to be anywhere near able.

Sorry.

But maybe you can go visit a month after they're married? I remember it got a little lonely right after we were married because everyone assumed we wanted to be left alone.

[So_Fetch]

My mom had a hysterectomy in January. There is no way she would have been able to sit in a car for 2 hours at a time (nor would she have wanted to sit at a wedding). She had the laser surgery with the small incisions; but she was down for the count for a few weeks before she felt well enough to really do much. Asking the bride if you can wait to see how you feel is a good plan though if you're really wanting to go.

[statlerwaldorf]

I have no idea what the recovery would be like for a hysterectomy, but after my c section I wouldn't be able to stand a 2 hour car ride. Every bump on the road caused really bad pain in my incision.

[Deleted]

My mom had a hysterectomy and she wouldn't want to go to an in-town wedding that quickly, not to mention an out of town wedding.

[nursewife]

Argh, I was hoping for a different answer. I haven't seen the doc yet about what to expect. We really only see DHs cousin at Christmas, which is why we want to go. It sounds like it will be a really nice wedding. The last wedding we went to was in a tractor shed on gravol. I want to go to a nice wedding damn it!!

[nursewife]

Mar 28, 2013 17:46:14 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

I had a hysterectomy a few years ago. It was supposed to be one hour, laparoscopic, easy peasy, back to work in 10 days they told me. "You'll be tired", they said.
It ended up taking four hours, had to have transfusions, had to have it done the old fashioned way after all, and I was not able to move without painkillers for two weeks. I'd call, tell them your situation, ask if it's ok to be on the fence about accepting because of the surgery, and see what they say. If this is an expensive catered affair, at 200 dollars a plate, I don't think you can ask them to hold it up past when they have to tell the caterer. If this is a church basement reception with grandma's rigatoni, I bet they'll let you come or not as you feel able.

It's definitely a nice catered wedding. Damn it! I'm so sick of letting my angry ute and ovaries control my life!!

[Deleted]

I can't speak for a hysterectomy but I had a grapefruit sized tumor removed from an ovary 10 years ago and I couldn't walk with out help for a week or stand up straight for at least 10 days. And that was from a 3 inch incision. I don't think I would count on feeling like going.