Well this is not something I ever expected.

[imalwaysme79]

I was always in the "I can go either way" camp. When I turned about 27-28 I realized I want to be a mom. Now I'm 33 and still hoping. I think it's completely normal to have the feelings you're having.

[brookles]

27 is so young (says the crusty 32-yr-old).

I have those sorts of thoughts all the time, so you are not alone. I don't even know if I want kids, but thinking about how I won't have that option anytime soon if at all is a downer.

[philly08]

MP, I am also 27 and have the same reaction. I think these are completely normal thoughts. For me it's just the idea that babies were the next step and now they are a few steps removed. While I am actually really happy to be single again and can no longer imagine babies with my ex, I still think of that stage with someone else in the future. Spend a day with some little kids, it's super exhausting and a relief to then come home to an empty house:).

[jojoandleo]

Spend a day with a bratty kid-clears that right up

It's normal. You have plenty of time to decide if that is what you really want and to find the right person to have kids with. You may be mourning the loss of an option you never had, or you may really want kids, only time will tell!

[hazel]

I'm 27 and feel the same way. I've always wanted children, but my desire is getting stronger. One of my coworkers had a baby a few months ago. She brought him a few weeks ago and passed him around to be held. A really strong emotion I'd never felt before came over me the second I held him. I was so surprised (and kind of scared) that I just passed him off to the next person immediately.

I'm not worried about it now, but like chalupa, I have told myself that if I don't have a significant other in my life around 35, then I'd research adoption.

[mcc]

I had baby fever when I was married. Now, not so much. I figure it'll reignite when I'm with someone I can see myself with. My brother has kids so I definitely get plenty of kid time to keep me grounded in the "they're cute but you can have them back once they're cranky" phase

[marigoldgirl]

I am not in your situation as I have three grown children but wanted to say that the feelings of wanting a baby are still there for me. Wanting to be pregnant is still there. I am to old and done with that phase of my life but the wanting still comes at times.

[bullygirl979]

Totally normal, mp! I used to never want kids and within the last year I decided that I do. It freaked me out when I first had the realization. You have plenty of years to decide (says the chick who is going to be 34 in 2 weeks).

[achase123]

That's interesting.  I cannot tell you they WILL for sure go away.  I've had plenty of friends IRL who've felt the same way, even before they met someone.  I never felt that way, personally and was kind of scared of it all until I got pregnant.  I never felt HUGELY connected with P while I was pregnant though but that all changed the second he was born. 

[riverpestie]

It has been happening to me, too. It is freaking me out and I am 32.

[wrathofkuus]

Huh.

[naeljun]

Completely normal but you still have plenty of time to have one. I'm almost 42 and though I know I am done, I still get the desire.

[jojoandleo]

Mar 29, 2013 9:36:05 GMT -5 wrathofkuus said:

Huh.

I would like for you to expand on this? 

I am one who has never wanted kids, but I have felt pangs of "Oh what a cute baby dress!  maybe I could do this!"  Then the kid like vomits all over the pretty dress and I am all "Noooooooooope!"

[formerlyak]

I'll be 38 in a few months and have major baby fever. My baby fever actually got worse when I got engaged -- so I can't promise you it will go away when you meet someone because mine certainly didn't. Maybe for me it's because we both want a child together and I am afraid my 38 year old eggs will make that difficult because I keep being told I am at "advanced maternal age?"

[Wrath0fKuus]

Mar 29, 2013 9:42:23 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Mar 29, 2013 9:36:05 GMT -5 wrathofkuus said:

Huh.

I would like for you to expand on this? 

I am one who has never wanted kids, but I have felt pangs of "Oh what a cute baby dress!  maybe I could do this!"  Then the kid like vomits all over the pretty dress and I am all "Noooooooooope!"

It's just weird/interesting seeing reports of what appears to be a physiological rather than mental urge to have kids.  It fascinates me.

[jojoandleo]

Mar 29, 2013 11:45:03 GMT -5 Wrath0fKuus said:

Mar 29, 2013 9:42:23 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

I would like for you to expand on this? 

I am one who has never wanted kids, but I have felt pangs of "Oh what a cute baby dress!  maybe I could do this!"  Then the kid like vomits all over the pretty dress and I am all "Noooooooooope!"

It's just weird/interesting seeing reports of what appears to be a physiological rather than mental urge to have kids.  It fascinates me.

Ah, okay.  I didn't know if it was "huh-I have never had an urge"  or something.  Thanks!

[Wrath0fKuus]

Mar 29, 2013 11:49:01 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Mar 29, 2013 11:45:03 GMT -5 Wrath0fKuus said:

It's just weird/interesting seeing reports of what appears to be a physiological rather than mental urge to have kids.  It fascinates me.

Ah, okay.  I didn't know if it was "huh-I have never had an urge"  or something.  Thanks!

Oh.  Well, no, I haven't.  That's why it's so weird and interesting.

[udscoobychick]

Mar 29, 2013 11:56:36 GMT -5 Wrath0fKuus said:

Mar 29, 2013 11:49:01 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Ah, okay.  I didn't know if it was "huh-I have never had an urge"  or something.  Thanks!

Oh.  Well, no, I haven't.  That's why it's so weird and interesting.

*sits next to Kuus*

[glitzyglow]

It's an option for you still, perhaps not at *this* moment, but in some moment it will be.

I've actually had the opposite reaction to children. I thought I wanted them, lots of them, and the exH and I planned to ttc in 2010. Obviously that didn't work out and now I feel really disinterested in children. I don't know if that will change when I meet someone or when I get older, but for now I don't want my own. I think maybe it's just because I never realized I had a choice in the matter and because exH wanted them, of course I wanted them! I do have pangs sometimes to be pregnant, but never to raise a child, however crazy that sounds.

[Deleted]

Mar 29, 2013 9:42:23 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Mar 29, 2013 9:36:05 GMT -5 wrathofkuus said:

Huh.

I would like for you to expand on this? 

I am one who has never wanted kids, but I have felt pangs of "Oh what a cute baby dress!  maybe I could do this!"  Then the kid like vomits all over the pretty dress and I am all "Noooooooooope!"

Haha, this is my to a T.

[starburst604]

Mar 29, 2013 11:43:28 GMT -5 formerlyak said:

I'll be 38 in a few months and have major baby fever. My baby fever actually got worse when I got engaged -- so I can't promise you it will go away when you meet someone because mine certainly didn't. Maybe for me it's because we both want a child together and I am afraid my 38 year old eggs will make that difficult because I keep being told I am at "advanced maternal age?"

I'm with ya. I'll be almost 38 when we get married in October. At my last physical my PCP asked if Id given thought to trying right away rather than after my wedding. But, I know plenty of "AMA" women who have had no problems and I'm sure you do too. Fingers crossed we will be among them!

[formerlyak]

Mar 29, 2013 16:05:33 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

Mar 29, 2013 11:43:28 GMT -5 formerlyak said:

I'll be 38 in a few months and have major baby fever. My baby fever actually got worse when I got engaged -- so I can't promise you it will go away when you meet someone because mine certainly didn't. Maybe for me it's because we both want a child together and I am afraid my 38 year old eggs will make that difficult because I keep being told I am at "advanced maternal age?"

I'm with ya. I'll be almost 38 when we get married in October. At my last physical my PCP asked if Id given thought to trying right away rather than after my wedding. But, I know plenty of "AMA" women who have had no problems and I'm sure you do too. Fingers crossed we will be among them!

Yes. I have always been one of the youngest moms in ds' class -- by almost 10 years in many cases. I've been charting and my body seems to still be doing exactly the same thing it did when I got pg with ds and when I got pg after ds (miscarried). So I am hopeful that I still have a good few years left. We will try after the wedding.

[threeofus]

I deal with that too, even though I have two kids. I was 25 when I had DD and 28 when I had DS...I'm 29 now and DS will be 1 in May.

Before STBX had his midlife crisis and decided he wasn't a "relationship person," I joked about how happy I was to be finished having kids.

But now I sometimes want to have a third baby. I don't know if that's because I'm getting a divorce and want to remain open to the possibility, if I meet someone in the future who doesn't have kids and would like one of his own...or if it's just me being on an emotional roller coaster. STBX didn't support me through my pregnancy with DS and never even told me he loved me or was proud of me after I had a VBAC with DS, so maybe I just want to have a "happy final pregnancy" - and that wouldn't be a good reason to have a third baby.

[locarb]

Totally normal feelings. 27 is still young so don't think of it as never being able to have kids. These other pg women you are seeing, are they in your circle of friends? It's tough when ppl are going through different life stages.