Post by Monica Geller on Mar 30, 2013 12:03:43 GMT -5
I'm sorry. You might not be out yet... have your temps dropped? That's how I know it's coming.
Once we started TTC, my body decided to add queasy and lightheadedness to its repertoire of PMS symptoms, just to fuck with me.
I just started cycle 10. I get the bummed out feeling. Cry it out if you need to. Have a margarita (or drink of choice) and gear up for the next round.
Its still early, I just read that you are on the same day as me, hopefully you have a few more days before AF. (Well hopefully AF doesn't come.)But if it's going to it needs to wait a few days so you LP can be a little longer.
How are your temps today? Did they go down? Mine go down 1-2 days before AF.
I know it is tough, but don't feel so defeated just yet! My cycle 3 ended with AF, too, and it was pretty devastating for some reason. Hopefully it is just spotting and you will get a BFP instead of AF. But I promise things aren't too awful over here in cycle 4 land There is still hope!
I know its hard, I have this fear that I can't have children naturally either. I have a whole bunch of medical problems and it never crossed my mind that I couldn't have kids until my MIL asked me about it one day a few years ago.
MIL- " Can you actually have kids with all your medical problems?" awick- "I have never been told other wise. My doc says that my medical problems have nothing to do with TTC."
Ever since that day, just over 3 years ago, I have started to worry about having kids.
I know how you feel, please don't give up. I know others will tell you 3 months is nothing but I feel the same way each month when AF comes. I just try and tell myself that I am just being silly and I need to not think like that. ((hugs))
Try to keep yourself as optimistic as possible for as long as possible! Think good thoughts, remember that it can take a healthy, young, FERTILE couple up to a year to conceive! I hope hope hope it doesn't take you this long, but three cycles shouldn't have you worrying about IF! The longer you can force yourself to enjoy the sex and the anticipating the better.
Post by picksthemusic on Apr 1, 2013 13:49:08 GMT -5
It's not over until the red lady flows. FWIW, I had spotting when I was pregnant - it could be implantation bleeding!
As for feeling defeated so soon into the process... it's understandable. You get hopeful every cycle, and then your period comes. I get it. Again, FWIW, it took my H and I 6 cylces to conceive after getting my Mirena taken out. Sometimes it takes your body a while to regulate after hormonal BC.
Stay positive!
ETA: IIRC, you're not temping? You should really start - you may not be Oing when you think you are, and may not be having sex at the right time. Just a thought.
Lol AutumnRose25, I'm entitled to my own feelings, aren't I? I've always had this fear of not being able to have kids. Don't worry, I know how pathetic it sounds
A fear you might not ever have a child is your own legitimate feeling. "Accepting" that you can't after 3 cycles is pure melodrama (especially since early spotting can go either way). This would be like one of your students dropping out after the first week of class because they are accepting they can only get an F.
ETA: I hope things work out well for you. I think I should skip this board and just move over to TTTC permanently because there are too many posts over here that don't sit well. Good luck ladies! I hope not to see you over there.
Lol AutumnRose25, I'm entitled to my own feelings, aren't I? I've always had this fear of not being able to have kids. Don't worry, I know how pathetic it sounds
A fear you might not ever have a child is your own legitimate feeling. "Accepting" that you can't after 3 cycles is pure melodrama (especially since early spotting can go either way). This would be like one of your students dropping out after the first week of class because they are accepting they can only get an F.
ETA: I hope things work out well for you. I think I should skip this board and just move over to TTTC permanently because there are too many posts over here that don't sit well. Good luck ladies! I hope not to see you over there.
I have to agree w/sonrisa. I am 4 cycles in of trying (incl. temping/opks/good timing) and I am not KU, but I still try and keep a positive outlook. You have to do the same or else you are going to make yourself crazy.
I'm sorry! Sometimes it just feels like forever before you can try again when really it's not that long at all.
When I start to feel discouraged I try to think of something positive about not being pregnant yet. Like "oh this barbecue this weekend will be fun because I won't have to worry about if I can have a beer or not!" Or "hey sleeping in on Saturday sounds awesome"
Coming in to this late but I'm also 3 cycles in and feeling sort of defeated. People have tried for wayyyyy longer than I have but I'm incredibly impatient. Lets try and keep chins up, it doesn't mean that we aren't able to until it's proven. Take some time out and get back into it when ready. I packed away my CBFM in a state of total melodrama last week (14 'high' readings, no peak!! WTF??), but have got it out again. And like pp said, focus on the stuff you can do because you are not pregnant - good advice whoever said that.
I think it's natural to start to feel a bit down at 3-4 cycles. For me that was when I accepted that this wasn't going to happen right away, and then of course the what-ifs start creeping in. I totally get it. Just don't let it drag you too far down and you'll be ok!