Wdyt about this? FB & April fools related

[Bernadine]

Oh Jesus. STFU.

[margotmacomber]

[ralphlauren]

EW

[fuckyourcouch]

[hopecounts]

I appreciate it.
When we were in the IF trenches I had a (now former) friend who thought doing this was hilarious.
I cried for 3 days, we had just had an unsuccessful cycle and it was unbelievably painful to have her make fun of some thing that meant so much to me.

[spitforspat]

I had a friend post that too. I simultaneously thought "stfu" and "that must be hard to still be hurting so much and thinking about it everyday."

[angelaa73]

I would defriend any and all with such suck sense of humor. FUCKTHOSEGUYS!

sent from my thank you Easter Bunny BOCK BOCK!!!

[Deleted]

Again, I think everyone takes Facebook waaayyyy too seriously.

Though generally I think the engaged, pregnant, and twins April Fools stuff is dumb. I'm not offended, it's just pretty lame.

[furby]

It's hardly original on FB on April 1st (Fake pg announcements) so if you're the type of person who would take it badly, just don't log on until after Midday?

[KKD]

I can understand it.

Although I actually did make my FB announcement today because we had our anatomy scan this morning, but I added an April Fools' disclaimer. lol.

[Deleted]

One of my FB friends posted that this morning, and I definitely rolled my eyes hard. Part of my eye roll was because she is 20 years old and has a baby who just turned a year old, so I doubt she fits into the category of women who might be hurt by those posts.

[hisno1girl]

My stepson's wife posted a positive pregnancy test today and i hope and pray that she's pranking us. My SS told DH over the holidays that he didn't want to married anymore.

Ugh.

[hopecounts]

Apr 1, 2013 15:02:51 GMT -5 @booby said:

Apr 1, 2013 14:27:29 GMT -5 letsgetweird said:

A friend shared a pic that said "Before you post that brilliant status update announcing you're pregnant on April Fools' Day, think of all the women who are going through painful IVF treatments and that have lost a baby."

Thoughts?

does this only apply on april fools day?  i mean, by this logic, wouldn't it be insensitive to basically announce a pregnancy EVER? 

The difference is a real pregnancy announcement may be painful but it's still a happy thing.
making a joke of it causes the pain without the happiness to mitigate it.

[hopecounts]

Apr 1, 2013 15:08:37 GMT -5 @pixiechinchilla said:

One of my FB friends posted that this morning, and I definitely rolled my eyes hard. Part of my eye roll was because she is 20 years old and has a baby who just turned a year old, so I doubt she fits into the category of women who might be hurt by those posts.

Doesn't mean she doesn't have someone close t her that is/has dealt with IF that she's supporting.
My godsis is 22 and unmarried and she posted this, I suspect assume it's for me since she was around for our IF struggles.

[RoxMonster]

I am not offended by the fake announcements, but I do feel they are silly and overdone. I am all for clever April Fools jokes and laugh with the best of them, but I don't think the fake announcements are clever or funny, really.

[winston]

Apr 1, 2013 15:02:51 GMT -5 @booby said:

Apr 1, 2013 14:27:29 GMT -5 letsgetweird said:

A friend shared a pic that said "Before you post that brilliant status update announcing you're pregnant on April Fools' Day, think of all the women who are going through painful IVF treatments and that have lost a baby."

Thoughts?

does this only apply on april fools day?  i mean, by this logic, wouldn't it be insensitive to basically announce a pregnancy EVER? 

Honestly, announcements can be tough. (Not because you aren't happy for people, but because it's a reminder of what you're missing.) But a legitimate announcement is something to be happy about for someone.  "I'm pregnant!  HAHA, FOOLED YOU!"  just kind of jerks you around when you're already sad.  And it's not even funny or original.

I've seen this floating around. I did not post it but I understand why people would. Infertility and pregnancy loss are really hard. I also understand why people who don't really know how those things feel might think something like this is ridiculous, so I'm not bothered by the responses in here. 

Sincerely,
Multiple IVFer who just had her sixth pregnancy loss confirmed on Saturday

(I avoided FB this morning, and I've never given people shit for their lame April Fool's 'jokes' on FB. )

[azurely]

Apr 1, 2013 15:09:01 GMT -5 hopecounts said:

Apr 1, 2013 15:02:51 GMT -5 @booby said:

does this only apply on april fools day?  i mean, by this logic, wouldn't it be insensitive to basically announce a pregnancy EVER? 

The difference is a real pregnancy announcement may be painful but it's still a happy thing.
making a joke of it causes the pain without the happiness to mitigate it.

Yes, I agree with this. I wouldn't post something on FB about it, but it does sting a little to see someone joke about something that I have been praying for.

Again, it doesn't necessarily offend me, but I'd rather people joke about something else.

[azurely]

Apr 1, 2013 15:16:45 GMT -5 winston said:

Apr 1, 2013 15:02:51 GMT -5 @booby said:

does this only apply on april fools day?  i mean, by this logic, wouldn't it be insensitive to basically announce a pregnancy EVER? 

Honestly, announcements can be tough. (Not because you aren't happy for people, but because it's a reminder of what you're missing.) But a legitimate announcement is something to be happy about for someone.  "I'm pregnant!  HAHA, FOOLED YOU!"  just kind of jerks you around when you're already sad.  And it's not even funny or original.

I've seen this floating around. I did not post it but I understand why people would. Infertility and pregnancy loss are really hard. I also understand why people who don't really know how those things feel might think something like this is ridiculous, so I'm not bothered by the responses in here. 

Sincerely,
Multiple IVFer who just had her sixth pregnancy loss confirmed on Saturday

(I avoided FB this morning, and I've never given people shit for their lame April Fool's 'jokes' on FB. )

I'm so sorry

[eb777888]

Apr 1, 2013 15:16:29 GMT -5 RoxMonster said:

I am not offended by the fake announcements, but I do feel they are silly and overdone. I am all for clever April Fools jokes and laugh with the best of them, but I don't think the fake announcements are clever or funny, really.

Totally agree.

[KKD]

((((winston)))) I am so very sorry.

[winston]

Aw, thanks ladies.  (heart)

I wasn't trying to make anyone feel bad or anything. And I understand that it can be hard to know what to say to people dealing with infertility. Honestly, I think it's generally common sense. The things that are painful for me now aren't really things that I would have said or done to people before this was my reality, if that makes sense.  But everyone has different experiences and no two people have exactly the same sense of humour.  Maybe some people think fake pregnancy jokes are hilarious.  I don't, and I didn't before (because come on, we can be funnier than that, can't we?).

I guess the one good thing about my personal experiences in the past four years is that it's helped me to learn to be more compassionate about other people's situations, things that I just can't understand on my own.  I kind of get that if people are telling me something is sad, and it's not something I can fathom because I haven't been there, then maybe what they're dealing with is just harder than I might imagine it to be. I'm a better person than I used to be.

So even if I didn't have my experiences now and I thought fake pregnancy jokes were hilarious, if someone told me that it hurt them, I think I'd just take that at face value and try not to hurt them. I think maybe that's all that FB pic is asking for. 'You might not realize it but a silly joke can hurt someone - maybe don't do it.'

Again, I tend to just remove myself from painful situations instead of making people uncomfortable when I know that they just don't get it. It's not their fault and I'm glad that they don't get it, and me telling them how I feel probably won't change that. I hope none of this comes across as a lecture or anything. It's just another point of view in response to the thread.

[coribelle26]

(((winston)))

Mostly I just think the fake pregnancy and engagement announcements make the poster look mega pathetic.  Real pregnancy announcements aren't especially easy lately, but I can't get worked up about people willing to make themselves look like asses on the internet for an overdone joke.

Now I would have a giant stick up my ass about the "congrats!" joke if someone did that to me.

[winston]

Apr 1, 2013 16:02:12 GMT -5 nicbreeful said:

Oh, God.. I can kinda see where the sanctimonious post is coming from. Does this mean I have to quit the internet now?

The wording is pretty obnoxious, isn't it? That's all I could think when I saw it. 'Yeah, I understand the message, but this is a pretty rude way to get the point across.'

[discogranny]

This was posted elsewhere this morning and while part of me appreciates the sentiment because yeah, having people make a joke out of something that is painful on a daily basis sucks; the other part of me feels that a) this is too "think of the soldiers!" for me and b) I don't really need the pity of those who think faking a pregnancy announcement is funny...or anyone else for that matter.

That being said, infertility is a pretty rough, mindfucking experience. We get it, 90% of the reproductive population doesn't have this problem and doesn't find it nearly as significant as we do. If posting this status makes people feel better about their shitty situations, then more power to them.

[KaraOrNot]

Hugs winston

[joshlyman]

As someone who dealt with IF myself, this person needs to chill.out.