So am I crazy?

[lovesoon]

Anyways..I'm getting married soon and my MOH thinks that she is planning a surprise bachelorette thing for me. I say thinks because she doesn't realize I know. I originally said no to any bridal shower,bachelorette,whatever when my MOH asked. But as it got closer,I wanted to plan something. I didn't want my MOH to think I was being pushy or demanding so I had my fiance intercede to see if she was planning anything. My fiance has been filling me and she is not getting it at all. I am quite surprised because we have been friends since college so over 10 years. We were room mates and she is one of my closest friends. She wants to go out to a club and that is so not me or maybe it's me just 10 years ago. I know this makes me sound unappreciative but I don't want a bachelorette. Instead, I  just want to meet up with my friends at a bar and have a few drinks. My fiance has been trying to drop hints as to what I like and she is making it so complicated. She keeps insisting she knows what I like! While, my fiance is spelling out exactly what I am looking for.  I don't want to get dressed up to go anywhere because I figure that's more for the wedding day. I just want good food,some drinks,good conversation, and my friends. I hate calling it a bachelorette because it makes sound raunchy or something. I just want a casual get together. So am I crazy for wanting something like drinks at a bar,instead of a bachelorette? If it helps any, it's a super small wedding...30 people tops. So,the get together would  be 7 of my closest friends.

I know first world problems and all but she is driving me crazy with insisting on this whole club thing!

[Deleted]

No I don't think you are crazy. Just tell her what you want to do and why.

[MWOS]

steak and a blowjob!


this makes me miss the old ML

[lime]

Rather than the hinting and the back and forth via a 3rd party, just talk to her directly and explain what you want.

[smock]

Why not just be upfront with your MOH? Tell her you appreciate the thought, but what you really want is a casual get together.

[Deleted]

Call her up and say "Hey MOH, I know I said no bachelorette but I was thinking it would be fun to get a few of us together for dinner and drinks at x bar/pub to celebrate. Can I take back my request to not have you plan anything?"

And if that fails, just try to focus on the important thing - she wants to do something for you, she's put effort into the planning, relax and enjoy even if it doesn't sound exactly like the perfect evening. Just have fun anyway.

[hopecounts]

Could you preempt it directly by just telling her the wedding getting closer made you realize that you want to do a low key girls night out for dinner and drinks to celebrate with your friends before the big day?

For what it 's worth clubbing wasn't and isn't my thing but I had a blast at my bachelorette it was fun To do something I wouldn't normally Dorothy my friends.

[firedancer49]

Be upfront, or just be happy with what she does.

My sister planned on for me, and it was totally not what I had wanted. I just shut up and went along with it b/c everyone was for it. I had a good time.

[ElizabethBennet]

Not crazy but you are being weird about it. If you don't want that then say so. If you aren't willing to say anything then shut up and be thankful your friend is trying to surprise you.

[noodleoo]

Apr 1, 2013 15:04:02 GMT -5 lime said:

Rather than the hinting and the back and forth via a 3rd party, just talk to her directly and explain what you want.

Ditto. You need to stop going through your poor FI and just either tell her what you want or just organize it yourself. Since it is not a gift giving event, I'd just do it myself.

[lovesoon]

Thanks for the responses.It's good to have various opinions and different perspectives.I could definitely do one of these things mentioned. I do appreciate the thought and what she is trying to do. For some reason,I can't picture myself going to a club anymore...I don't know why. How could I have gotten this old? Lol! In my 20s,perfectly fine but now...I feel out of place. When did that happen??? I think turning 30 has really changed me.

[cheeseandcrackers]

Just go out and have fun.. I bet you'd be really surprised how much fun you'll have!

[lovesoon]

I'll give these ideas a thought.Thanks for the feedback everyone.