I'm a bit worried about my whacko sister

[flex]

I just got off the phone with my mom.  My whacko sister, who will be 52 this month, lives at an assisted living faciliity, because she's had medical and mental issues for many years now.  My mom told me that now she weighs about 80 lbs and is described her as "this wadded-up person sitting in a wheelchair".  D. had a grande mal seizure yesterday and is being fed through a tube.  

Mom told me that she's not sure how much longer my sister will be living.  I was really surprised she said that.  She was really calm about it, which is understandable: my sister has always been high maintenance and has always disregarded medical advice, and has caused a great deal of stress in my mom's life.  My sister is a pill addict, a pathological liar, and a highly manipulative individual: the stunts she's pulled over the past 30 years are too numerous to list.  I've pretty much wrote my sister off long ago, so I'm not really sure how I feel about this.  It's seems so surreal because my mom is resigned to the fact that my sister may very well be near the end.  

[sonrisa]

I'm so sorry to hear that. Big hugs.

[HiC]

(((((flex))))) :**(

[flex]

I remember when she was 30 she told me she couldn't stand to be told what to do. She's made many, many very poor life choices, and this is where it got her. **sigh**

[Saint Monica]

((flexie))

[cleo29]

I'm so sorry, Flexie. I imagine something like this comes with a confusing mix of emotions. Sending you big hugs.

[lissaholly]

I'm so sorry:(. I have a sister I am watching make bad choices that will have bad consequences, but they aren't terminal and she is definitely of sound mind.

I can't imagine how hard it would be to watch if she wasn't completely same and the consequences were much more dire.

[Deleted]

Well that really sucks. Sorry to hear that, flex.

[MixedBerryJam]

I'm sorry, flex. It's okay to feel ambivalence in a situation like this; in fact, I think it's healthy to recognize it. I want to hug both you and your mom now. It's exhausting loving someone who sucks all the air out of a room.

[flex]

Thank you for the cyberhugs, ladies. You are all wonderful. Truly.

[2boys2danes]

I'm so sorry Flex... how confusing that must be to hear... hang in there and hugs to you and your mama (and sister)

[pantsparty]

I'm so sorry

[azurely]

I'm sorry about your sister

That is sad that she is near the end at only 52.

[tdk2]

I am so sorry, flex

[zoidberg]

I'm sorry flex, what a terrible situation.