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@justdairy Do you mind if I ask a question about your e-student program?  What is your practice WRT their overnight guests in your house?  Generally allow, generally don't allow?  Allow with conditions?  Doesn't come up?  Single policy or case-by-case?

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No problem! Honestly, fair or not it's situational/student dependent. My house, my rules, I'm kind of doing them a favor too.

We've had 3 great exchange students as far as personality and honesty go. The general rules are 1) I'd like to know in a reasonable time frame that there will be guests 2) I'd like to meet them at arrival. If I know I'll be in bed before arrival I reserve the right to ask a ridiculous amount of questions. 3) You must have an actual relationship with these people. Please don't bring a bar skank through my front door.

I used to not care at all, but now with Toddler in the house, I take a few more precauations.

One of my exchange students was straight up shady....there was only one "friend" of his I'd allow through my front door.

I try not be too hard on the visitor rules. Most people are good and we've met so many fun people and had such a great experience with visitors. (Our French exchange student had his parents stay at our house 2 weeks and it was amazing! He also had a friend about 3 hours away on another farm and it was so cool to see them together). Our current Brazalian exchange student has a little fling going on with the German exchange student on a farm 10 miles away, so she's over a lot. It's fun to see them out about and happy. I feel like as long as the students apply common sense and be respectful they're entitled to a life as well. I actually prefer it. They get out and about, aren't homesick/depressed and constantly bugging me for stuff.

I do make the rules clear beforehand and all but one have been great about it.

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If you have any other questions, I'd be happy to help. Send me a PM if nothing else. I'm pretty open about it. I b*tch on here often enough, but in reality it's been a positive experience all around. My experience is a bit different becuase I deal with college aged or older students so most come well educated, with some life skills. They're also legit adults so what they choose to do isn't my problem at all really. I don't know if I could do HS kids for that reason alone. Too much babysitting and responsibility for me right now.

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Deleted, decided to PM.

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All right. I'll PM you right back!