Birthday invite etiquette

[devotchka]

Hi ladies - I know someone has posted about this before but I couldn't find the thread. I am doing an evite for our party and while we do have an amazon wishlist - one for books that M wants and one for toys/etc, I feel a little weird just posting it in the evite and don't know the etiquette of how to post anything about what "M wants".

Our families always want us to do Amazon wishlists for Xmas and Birthdays and it's easier for people who live far away, so I've been making them for a while. We have two for M because it was too confusing for our families for us to have one big list w/ all the books and the toys mixed in (lots of cheap board books on there). So I split them - also I use the books list when I go to the library so I have a list of what we haven't read yet/don't have at home.

I don't want to look like we are greedy and want all this stuff, but I know people want to know what to get him and I feel tacky saying "you don't have to get him anything but here are two lists for you w/ ideas" - lol. In the past, I've seen people put a few things suggesting what the kid wants, or nothing. If they put nothing, I just emailed them asking if there was anything specific that they wanted but giving people (besides our families who have specifically asked for a list) an amazon wishlist just seems tacky to me. Even over email.

Halp!

[eav2c]

I would put nothing at all. Like you said, you've inquired when you need ideas and I would pass along your wish list if they ask. I personally think it is in poor etiquette to include gift ideas or wish lists on invites - I am even the crazy woman who thinks they are unnecessary on shower invites, lol. Nevertheless, if someone wants to buy something on your list they will ask. I get wanting specific things though but you can always exchange things!

[devotchka]

Apr 9, 2013 0:29:18 GMT -5 eav2c said:

I would put nothing at all. Like you said, you've inquired when you need ideas and I would pass along your wish list if they ask. I personally think it is in poor etiquette to include gift ideas or wish lists on invites - I am even the crazy woman who thinks they are unnecessary on shower invites, lol. Nevertheless, if someone wants to buy something on your list they will ask. I get wanting specific things though but you can always exchange things!

Did you put LO's size at all? I've seen people put that on invites. Or do you just wait for people to ask?

[Dorothy Zbornak]

Apr 9, 2013 1:22:10 GMT -5 devotchka said:

Apr 9, 2013 0:29:18 GMT -5 eav2c said:

I would put nothing at all. Like you said, you've inquired when you need ideas and I would pass along your wish list if they ask. I personally think it is in poor etiquette to include gift ideas or wish lists on invites - I am even the crazy woman who thinks they are unnecessary on shower invites, lol. Nevertheless, if someone wants to buy something on your list they will ask. I get wanting specific things though but you can always exchange things!

Did you put LO's size at all? I've seen people put that on invites. Or do you just wait for people to ask?

I would wait for people to ask.

[teamhayes]

Don't put size and wait forpeople to ask what he wants.

[jaime183]

A few people have emailed and asked me for a wishlist or size. I wouldn't post it anywhere

[devotchka]

Ok, I just sent it out. No sizes, no wishlists Thanks ladies!