Anyone else getting asked about a 3rd, A LOT?

[musiclover]

I swear that lately EVERYONE is asking me when I'll have a third, it feels excessive to me for some reason.  Yesterday I was asked TWICE ^o). I am guessing I am asked more often because I have two boys......stupid society making everyone think that they need a girl in order to feel fullfilled.

I just keep saying, "when I win powerball". I don't know how the F to respond to such a personal question.

It does not help that I'd kinda like a third but we are in no position right now, and my 33 year old eggs are not getting any younger.

Anyone else?

[gekeler6]

I get asked if I'm going to keep going. 5 girls (5 kids) is a big handful. I'm done. I would love to do it again, but I really like where we are at. I feel fulfilled even though I didn't have any boys. I'm good at making girls, that's what I do

[rainbowchip]

I'm the exact opposite. Everyone assumes that because we have "one of each" we are done. My sister is seriously questioning why I'm not getting rid of all the baby boy clothes.

[Regina Philange]

Yeah, I can see how that is annoying. Two boys rocks! Two girls rock. One of each rocks.

[TrudyCampbell]

It is so annoying that people assume everyone wants one of each! Me and H have already said that if this baby is a girl we are probably done. If it's a boy we will likely have a 3rd. I really want atleast 2 of my kids to have a same sex sibling and I'd ideally love to give Violet a sister.

(I have major lack of sister issues, so this is why.)

[rainbowchip]

Apr 9, 2013 10:22:00 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

It is so annoying that people assume everyone wants one of each! Me and H have already said that if this baby is a girl we are probably done. If it's a boy we will likely have a 3rd. I really want atleast 2 of my kids to have a same sex sibling and I'd ideally love to give Violet a sister.

(I have major lack of sister issues, so this is why.)

This is part of the reason I want another. I think its really shallow but I want Lyla to have a built in MOH or Dylan to have a built in best man.

[musiclover]

I can see everyone's POV. I like the idea of siblings having built ins as well   I'm glad that my boys have eachother.  I have a sister, it was just the two of us.  We have not spoken in 4.5 years and it gives me the sads.  Perhaps if we had a third sibling this would not have happened?

I wish that I could just know what the future holds so I could move on, KWIM? I don't feel like my family is complete, but at the same time the thought of going through another newborn situation seems a little scary at this point in my life.  Andplusaslo, totally flameful, but I am happy with my body now (it has taken a lot of work to get it back-ish)and am fearful of baby #3 being the one to destroy my body forever....

[irishsara]

I keep getting asked if I am going to "try for a girl" recently.

I'm like, well, chances are it will be another boy. So no, I'm not going to try for a girl.

I'd LIKE a girl, but I'm not going to try for one. Because it implies that I would be disappointed if I had another boy. And that's impossible. I love my children, regardless of their gender.

[irishsara]

I also hesitate too, because I had 2 older brothers. Being the only girl was really lonely! Selfishly I want a girl, but I'd also hate for her to go through what I did growing up. Especially with having 3 older brothers!

[musiclover]

Apr 9, 2013 10:37:14 GMT -5 irishsara said:

I keep getting asked if I am going to "try for a girl" recently.

I'm like, well, chances are it will be another boy. So no, I'm not going to try for a girl.

I'd LIKE a girl, but I'm not going to try for one. Because it implies that I would be disappointed if I had another boy. And that's impossible. I love my children, regardless of their gender.

Yep, it's always the ,"but you NEED a girl" comments that I hate.  I just keep saying that I only make boys, lol.

[bebeetmoi]

Apr 9, 2013 10:39:13 GMT -5 irishsara said:

I also hesitate too, because I had 2 older brothers. Being the only girl was really lonely! Selfishly I want a girl, but I'd also hate for her to go through what I did growing up. Especially with having 3 older brothers!

Poor girl would never be able to date!

[irishsara]

And knowing my luck, I would end up with a tomboy of a girl!

[sunshineluv]

We may be the annoying person... well not that I ask anyone about that stuff. But we plan on #2 (TTC in May). We decided if #2 is another boy, and I have an easier pregancacy we will be MUCH more likely to have a third. (Knowing full well it may mean three boys). I do want one of each, but I also am BFFs with my sister, so I love the thought of two boys being BFFs.

[carawestt]

I hate the whole one of each thing. Any gender is fine with me! That being said, I'm in the same boat as Trudy and if #2 is a girl, I'll want to have another so Lincoln can have a brother. I would love to have 4 and get 2 girls, 2 boys but I don't know if H is up for that!

[jfh]

I hate when people talk to me about how great it is to have one of each. It's like they WANT me to have a gender preference, whether I already do or not. I like the idea of having a girl but I also love the idea of brothers (or sisters), so I won't be disappointed no matter what I have next. Unless people keep making me feel like I SHOULD be disappointed!

[charlielove]

Oh yes. I didn't expect to be asked so much since I already have two! I just say "we'll see", even though I don't think we will. I was just asked yesterday too, and my sister is always bugging me about it and said something today as well. I seriously have my hands full with two, so I really cannot imagine a third right now.

[carawestt]

Apr 9, 2013 10:58:17 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Apr 9, 2013 10:37:00 GMT -5 musiclover said:

 Andplusaslo, totally flameful, but I am happy with my body now (it has taken a lot of work to get it back-ish)and am fearful of baby #3 being the one to destroy my body forever....

Not flameful! I keep thinking that I got off easy this time around and worrying I won't be so lucky next time. Right now, I have no stretchmarks on my stomach and only a couple of very faded ones on my boobs.

Ha! I'm the opposite. Lincoln ruined me, so I'll pop out 8 more because it can't get any worse!

[musiclover]

Apr 9, 2013 10:58:17 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Apr 9, 2013 10:37:00 GMT -5 musiclover said:

 Andplusaslo, totally flameful, but I am happy with my body now (it has taken a lot of work to get it back-ish)and am fearful of baby #3 being the one to destroy my body forever....

Not flameful! I keep thinking that I got off easy this time around and worrying I won't be so lucky next time. Right now, I have no stretchmarks on my stomach and only a couple of very faded ones on my boobs.

I got off easy twice, just the world's teeniest barely visible miniscule s. mark near my belly button and that is it, my boobs still look awesome too, lol.  #3 could be the straw that breaks the camels back.

[charlielove]

Apr 9, 2013 10:39:16 GMT -5 musiclover said:

Apr 9, 2013 10:37:14 GMT -5 irishsara said:

I keep getting asked if I am going to "try for a girl" recently.

I'm like, well, chances are it will be another boy. So no, I'm not going to try for a girl.

I'd LIKE a girl, but I'm not going to try for one. Because it implies that I would be disappointed if I had another boy. And that's impossible. I love my children, regardless of their gender.

Yep, it's always the ,"but you NEED a girl" comments that I hate.  I just keep saying that I only make boys, lol.

I haaaaaaate that. I'm always like "actually I'd hope for a third girl, so THERE!"

[irishsara]

Apr 9, 2013 11:00:15 GMT -5 musiclover said:

Apr 9, 2013 10:58:17 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Not flameful! I keep thinking that I got off easy this time around and worrying I won't be so lucky next time. Right now, I have no stretchmarks on my stomach and only a couple of very faded ones on my boobs.

I got off easy twice, just the world's teeniest barely visible miniscule s. mark near my belly button and that is it, my boobs still look awesome too, lol.  #3 could be the straw that breaks the camels back.

Not to be that person, but I didn't get any stretch marks until #3....

I thought I would get off lucky.  Not so much.  But, I know a lot of people who never got any! 

[bebeetmoi]

Apr 9, 2013 11:04:41 GMT -5 charlielove said:

Apr 9, 2013 10:39:16 GMT -5 musiclover said:

Yep, it's always the ,"but you NEED a girl" comments that I hate.  I just keep saying that I only make boys, lol.

I haaaaaaate that. I'm always like "actually I'd hope for a third girl, so THERE!"

Yeah that's just BS. If anyone said that to me I'd tell them to take it up with my husband since it's his sperm that decide the sex. I would think that'd shut them up.

[laurack]

yes I hear this too. "one of each then you can be done!" so everyone is hoping on my behalf for a boy next?! but I want a girl next I've decided, so Matilda can have a sister. But if I have a boy that's great too and won't affect my decision to have a third or not in any way at all. It baffles me that people would not have a third baby only because they have one of each?! i mean, it's not like all baby girls are the same or all baby boys?! It's just so weird.

I have three of each sibling and it's amazing to have such a huge family. I'd love it for my kiddos but yeah.. I wouldn't love it for ME. Or our bank account lol

Ideally I think two of each would be amazing, then each has a sister and a brother! But I highly doubt we'll have four kids. Even three is pushing it when we look at the logistics of it.

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Apr 9, 2013 10:22:00 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

It is so annoying that people assume everyone wants one of each! Me and H have already said that if this baby is a girl we are probably done. If it's a boy we will likely have a 3rd. I really want atleast 2 of my kids to have a same sex sibling and I'd ideally love to give Violet a sister.

(I have major lack of sister issues, so this is why.)

We are in the exact same boat, just with boys. I really want 2 boys, and if our next is a boy we'll most likely be done. But if its a girl, I know I'll want to try for #3. 

[laurack]

Also I am that hated person who hasn't a single stretch mark anywhere and I lost the weight without much effort. I've heard after the second its much harder to snap back so I'm worried, because I haven't had time for the gym and with two its unlikely I'd ever have time for the gym again..

[musiclover]

Apr 9, 2013 11:12:53 GMT -5 laurack said:

Also I am that hated person who hasn't a single stretch mark anywhere and I lost the weight without much effort. I've heard after the second its much harder to snap back so I'm worried, because I haven't had time for the gym and with two its unlikely I'd ever have time for the gym again..

No Stretch marks and bounced back easily with DS1.

After DS2 I only got 1, the world's teeniest Stretch mark ever so I consider myself VERY lucky.....but.....it took a bit of work to get my body back, that sucked.

[kkfeb04]

We get this even though we have one of each. We also tell them when we hit the Powerball we will have more but for now this ute is closed. We don't play the Powerball.

We would have been equally happy if DD was a boy. We were Team Green and obviously didn't care either way. I had it in my head she was a boy. I planned on using all of DS's clothing for the newbie. She had other plans. We couldn't agree on boy name's even during my c-section. That should have been my first clue. I do enjoy having one of each though. I also said that if we were to have a third we wouldn't have the "oh you are trying for a girl aren't you".

We have a former neighbor who is expecting #7 (since 2005 I think the largest gap is 18 months) and all are girls. I don't know if they are the Duggars or just want a boy.

[tuck]

Strangely enough, no one ever asks me. I guess I'm young enough, and there's enough of a gap between my two, that no one expects me to have another any time soon.

This ute is closed, and I don't want any more, but if one happened to get in there, I would hope it's a girl. So there.

[rjamz]

Apr 9, 2013 17:49:08 GMT -5 kkfeb04 said:

We get this even though we have one of each. We also tell them when we hit the Powerball we will have more but for now this ute is closed. We don't play the Powerball.

We would have been equally happy if DD was a boy. We were Team Green and obviously didn't care either way. I had it in my head she was a boy. I planned on using all of DS's clothing for the newbie. She had other plans. We couldn't agree on boy name's even during my c-section. That should have been my first clue. I do enjoy having one of each though. I also said that if we were to have a third we wouldn't have the "oh you are trying for a girl aren't you".

We have a former neighbor who is expecting #7 (since 2005 I think the largest gap is 18 months) and all are girls. I don't know if they are the Duggars or just want a boy.

My parents' friends have 6 boys. It was a rowdy household. The first grandchild was a girl though and she is the most doted upon kid, it's so cute.

[teamhayes]

Late to this but #2 isn't here yet and I keep getting asked about #3. I was very upset when I announced I was having another boy and people (especially my mom) was disapointed and felt bad for me. It made me so sad. I love my 2 men.

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Apr 9, 2013 18:47:17 GMT -5 teamhayes said:

Late to this but #2 isn't here yet and I keep getting asked about #3. I was very upset when I announced I was having another boy and people (especially my mom) was disapointed and felt bad for me. It made me so sad. I love my 2 men.

I feel this way, too. Once people found out it was a second boy, it's like he wasn't important anymore and whether we would try for a girl was the big question. I don't know if we are done yet but I do know I won't have a third unless I was a third baby, boy or girl.