TTC talk with the hubs

[browneyedhunni85]

Every night before I go to bed DH comes and lays down with me and we talk. I mentioned several girls just announced their pregnancy and also brought up our talk about the 3-4 year age gap. DH was getting all serious about when we should TTC again. Ideally we would love a summer baby. We are thinking we will start in August of next year. I also mentioned getting my mirena out a few months before to start tracking my cycles and let my body regulate. I had to bring DH to reality for a moment because he was talking about TTC this year. Uh, we need to get in a better place to decide if I'll be SAH and finish paying our house off. We don't have much longer and that's one of our goals for next baby. I thought it was so cute that he was so interested and involved. You guys know how men can be about this sort of thing. Anyway am I totally crazy for wanting a 3 year gap?

[angiekay84]

No, I don't think so. There was a thread earlier today about this exact subject and the pros and cons. Lots of pros! I don't think there is any "right" age gap, it's all about what suits a couple. A 3 year age gap is what fits us as well, so I totally get it.

[Deleted]

Assuming all goes to plan we will have a 3-4 year age gap! If you don't have a reason to have them closer I personally think 2-4 years would is easier overall. My sister and I are 14 months apart and I know the first few years were really hard for my mom.

[nilex0102]

We have a three year gap and I love it! Three is a tough age especially for boys but Nick LOVES his little sister and has always been a great helper for me. Also he was potty trained and pretty "independent" when she came along so I felt like I was able to enjoy both of them because he was able to do some stuff for himself already.

[hass2001]

No, my ideal scenario would be a 3 year age gap. I want to start trying after next summer.

[bebeetmoi]

I don't think so. There is a 4 year age gap between DD and my SS and his ability to occupy himself when DD was an infant was invaluable. We definitely had some issues when she was first born since he was an only child for so long, but he loves the "big bro" role and is pretty good with her.

[Deleted]

I think we will end up with at least a 3 year gap and most likely a 4 or 5 year gap. And not because I'm trying to make a good sibling set--because I want to be well on the tenure track before I do this again.

[Regina Philange]

I was reading an article, and it was saying a three year age gap is actually most common!

[formerlyllizzyb]

I also want a three year gap I'd love a spring 2015 baby.

[AndyCohen]

Not crazy at all! We're going to try for a 2.5-3 year age gap as well. We plan on having only two kids, so I want to spend some time with just Audrey for a bit. If we wanted more kids, I would probably have them closer together but just because I'm already in my 30s.

[browneyedhunni85]

My sister was born a few months before I turned three. It was always nice having someone to play with and we are super close now that we are adults. Plus my mom cloth diapered and I don't think she wanted to handle both of us wearing them.