Post by chickadee77 on Apr 11, 2013 20:24:08 GMT -5
I'm answering before before reading on purpose this time, lol. If you are happy where you are, stay.
H and I just left northern KY (basically IN) despite the reasons you are considering moving there. H's family is there, I had a great job, COL was so-so. We were miserable. The people were so far from who we wanted to be and how we wanted to raise our family (if we're lucky enough to have children), that it was incomprehensible to continue to live there.
I could go on for pages, no joke. In short, though, if you love where you are, stay. It doesn't matter what kind of home you have or how close you are to family. If you and your H are ultimately happy in your location, consider yourselves lucky and make it work for you.
Post by shostakovich on Apr 11, 2013 20:32:19 GMT -5
I agree with PPs that recommend staying put for a little while longer and enjoying yourselves.
Plus, I'm wondering: Do you know your ILs well? Do you like them? Are they the type to be all up in your business all the time, giving you "helpful" hints about home-buying and child-rearing?
Post by sawyerthedestroyer on Apr 11, 2013 21:16:13 GMT -5
We moved from Florida to Arkansas. Whenever a local here asks where we're from and we answer Florida they ask "Why on EARTH would you move HERE?"
Well, we moved for H's job and I left mine to SAH with DS. Before the big move we flew out here to find a place to live and I was convinced we were going to hate it. It's nothing like Florida. Aside from the library and the park, there's nothing to do that we wouldn't have to drive at least 30 minutes. We've been here for two years now and love it. Small town life is great for our family and we're very happy.
Whether or not you move really depends on what kind of lifestyle you want when you have kids.
We moved from Florida to Arkansas. Whenever a local here asks where we're from and we answer Florida they ask "Why on EARTH would you move HERE?" .
It's funny to me when people act like all of Florida is paradise. I mostly like my state, but a lot of it is less than awesome. And I have actually lived in Arkansas before (in Little Rock) and it's pretty equivalent to Tallahassee, where I live now.
To answer a few questions... yes, my MIL would love to watch our kids. She has mentioned it several times. I adore my in-laws and all of DH's family (I might like them more than my own family). I love going to visit them and they have never been anything but fantastic. I have talked a few times with MIL about the need for space/privacy and she has told me over and over to let her know straight up if she's being a bother. I have every faith that they'll be nothing but supportive and easy going, even with us living nearby.
I know that DH and I are young, I really do. But we are both very old souls and have always done things early. It is just in our nature. I love the idea of having kids now; we're ready for it. I also really want our children to experience what it's like to grow up with extended family around.
DH and I talked more before I read through these responses and I think we've really ironed out the worries we had. We're going to go forward with the move and I am steadily feeling more and more excited about it.
Also, we'll be in the Carmel area, for those of you wondering. I expect we'll spend some time downtown and in the Broadripple area. Ultimately, we're pretty lame for a couple in their early 20s, so I don't have major concerns over there not being things to do. I love that I've just made myself out to be such an awesome person. Try not to make too much fun of me, ok?
Post by litebright on Apr 11, 2013 21:54:33 GMT -5
I'm in CO now, and grew up in Ohio. I have some relatives in Indiana and visited them fairly regularly over the years. No way would I move to Indiana, as much as I love and miss my family. I might be convinced to move back to certain parts of Ohio, but I much prefer where I'm living now to 99% of the Midwest. I like the lifestyle and the weather and in general, the relatively progressive atmosphere of the Denver metro area. Not going to find that in Indiana, and it's more important now to me than it was when I was young, didn't have kids, and wasn't a homeowner.
And I'm pretty sure I recall some people from IN on the CE&P board absolutely disgusted by the state of education there. If you're going to move there with a plan to have kids, make sure you do some research that that's really where you want your kids to be. I wouldn't want to make that kind of choice to move b/c of the benefits while the kids are babies, then realize in a few years it was a shitty choice for their long-term education and we'd be really squeezed to move anywhere else. CO isn't at the top of the list for that kind of thing, for sure, but it's not terrible, either. At least we managed to pass some big bond issues for JeffCo last year.