Letstart controversy;smaller woman losing weight

[treedimensional]

No. That's their prerogative.
I'd be (silently) judgey if they said that and were obviously underweight.

[birkbop]

i'd feel bad for her because she probably has some body dysmorphic (sp?) issues of some sort

[house]

LOL! Stop talking about me! I am always trying to get that last 10 lbs off since I had the baby! And my friends hate me cuz I am at 120 lbs max at 5'1". And I don't count pretzels nor do I diet. I just watch my calorie intake. So they really hate me when they see me eating McDonald's.

[winterbride1220]

hmmm, I think it's "normal" to try to eat healthy, lose weight, whatever. Maybe, it's cultural but I'm shocked when people act like they have no interest in physical fitness.

[Deleted]

Hmmm IDK. I look relatively thin but I have the biggest, flabbiest gut from having 2 kids. I just hide it well and I've been trying to lose 10 pounds. I eat healthy. I don't have the patience to count calories.

[summerkutie]

Jun 8, 2012 10:18:18 GMT -5 @theycalledherkate said:

I wouldn't judge her because you never know what her circumstances might be. Mather her husband calls her fat and tells her that having babies made her fat (yes, this is a real life example of someone I know who has an amazing body but an ahole husband who tells her this stuff.)

That's awful! My heart breaks for girls who are in relationships like that.

[bimbi284]

I's say I'm pretty thin, but I have some serious cellulite on my thighs that I hate, at my skinniest after WW (about 105lbs, I'm 5'3" ftr), I didn't have that. I didn't have much of anything though and I think I was maybe TOO skinny, so lately it has been about finding that happy medium. I think overall I feel good anywhere between 115-125, but at 120, I still have some "skinny fat", lol. So yeah, I work out and try to eat healthy as much as possible, but I'm not bending over backwards to do it. I also don't talk about my eating/exercise habits to most people, so they don't have the opportunity to side-eye me, lol.

[Deleted]

From my perspective, it gets increasingly more difficult to maintain your "thinness" as you get older, so I wouldn't judge someone for being mindful of what they eat (or exercising portion control) even if they are thin.

[Deleted]

No. However, I get pissed off when a woman who isn't overweight complains to me about how they feel fat or how hard it has been to lose weight, etc. Um, hello, I'm pretty sure you can see the extra 80 pounds I need to lose, so why the fuck are you bitching to me about the five pounds that you want to get off so you look great in your bikini?

My next door neighbor, who is a former gymnast, did this for a good 15 minutes the other day. She is upset that she can't get below 105, as this is the most she has ever weighed. She really wants to get down to 100, as that was her weight prior to having her two children. She went on and on about it. WTF bitch.

Okay, I'm done with that rant.

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Jun 8, 2012 10:32:08 GMT -5 carrotsmakemefat said:

I have a lot of GI issues now, so I eat what doesn't hurt, if that makes sense. I am losing weight purely based on not eating as much, stomach issues, etc. When I eat a lot, I try to keep it healthy (I did WW before my gallbladder surgery).

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I had my gallbladder removed in April 2009 and it wasn't until recently I started having problems with what I eat... it sucks because it can be embarassing but it helps me maintain my current 45+ lbs weight loss I think LOL

[niknik]

I have a friend who is really skinny. She is on WW and very careful what she eats. People who meet her could probably judge. She is very thin. Last year she weighed 60 pounds more and has spent the last year and a half of her life getting to her goal weight which is where she is at now. She does maintenance dieting and is not trying to lose more weight, it anything she wants to work out and tone and build a little more muscle mass.
Again, I guess you just have to know or understand that everybody's situation is different.

[bimbi284]

Jun 8, 2012 11:09:47 GMT -5 carrotsmakemefat said:

I was hoping for more dramz in this post. Sad.

LOL...what kinda drama were you expecting??

[birkbop]

Jun 8, 2012 11:13:44 GMT -5 bimbi284 said:

Jun 8, 2012 11:09:47 GMT -5 carrotsmakemefat said:

I was hoping for more dramz in this post. Sad.

LOL...what kinda drama were you expecting??

we only attack newbs... remember ;D

[Deleted]

I only care if I'm going out to dinner with this person and I want Mexican and they want salad. Bitches better not interfere with what I want for dinner.

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Jun 8, 2012 11:26:18 GMT -5 @amydrinkie said:

I only care if I'm going out to dinner with this person and I want Mexican and they want salad. Bitches better not interfere with what I want for dinner.

I could not be friends with somebody who would rather have a salad instead of Mexican food. Speaking of Mexican food...gotta go pick up my chile relleno and salsa from the dive down the road.

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Jun 8, 2012 11:09:47 GMT -5 carrotsmakemefat said:

I was hoping for more dramz in this post. Sad.

LOL!

Bimbi - damn you and your "skinny fat!" How dare you complain to my fat ass about your cellulite when you weigh 115!!

Is that better?

[bimbi284]

Jun 8, 2012 11:40:48 GMT -5 @godawgs said:

Jun 8, 2012 11:09:47 GMT -5 carrotsmakemefat said:

I was hoping for more dramz in this post. Sad.

LOL!

Bimbi - damn you and your "skinny fat!" How dare you complain to my fat ass about your cellulite when you weigh 115!!

Is that better?

Just to clarify, I'm like 122 today. So there

And as for going out to eat, I have a friend who ALWAYS orders a boring-ass salad, and I'm ordering the best looking thing on the menu.

You enjoy that boring salad girl, I'm gonna go hang out over here with my garlic Parmesan truffle fries...(which may or may not be the reason I have cellulite, whoops)

[dominique12i9]

I think to each their own. We all have a pair of pants or something that we want to look better in.

[bimbi284]

Speaking of which, and I know some of you have heard about this, but eww:

www.nytimes.com/2012/04/15/fashion/weddings/Losing-Weight-in-Time-for-the-Wedding.html?_r=1&smid=tw-share

[dominique12i9]

Bimbi, that is so disturbing!

[fashionx]

I might say to them that they don't need to worry about it, but I wouldn't judge them. Unless they were sickly looking/clearly had an eating disorder. I don't think it's bad to care about your appearance as long as it's not obsessive or unhealthy.

I'm pretty small but have some "skinny fat" like Bimbi said, which I would like to get rid of. It's not necessarily about the pounds but more about exercising and toning my muscle more than anything else though.

[fashionx]

Jun 8, 2012 11:58:12 GMT -5 bimbi284 said:

Speaking of which, and I know some of you have heard about this, but eww:

www.nytimes.com/2012/04/15/fashion/weddings/Losing-Weight-in-Time-for-the-Wedding.html?_r=1&smid=tw-share

Ewww. I've seen this and I definitely WOULD judge someone for that.

[futurepivko]

It's their body. I don't care.

[texassmith]

I have not read any of the previous posts, so I don't know if this has been mentioned.

When I'm wearing clothes, I look good. Honestly, friends tell me that often. I just choose the right clothes that flatter what I have. I clearly have 7-10 pounds to lose in my midsection.

There is just no way you can know by looking at someone fully dressed.

[jeekerbeeker]

Jun 8, 2012 12:32:27 GMT -5 texassmith said:

I have not read any of the previous posts, so I don't know if this has been mentioned.

When I'm wearing clothes, I look good. Honestly, friends tell me that often. I just choose the right clothes that flatter what I have. I clearly have 7-10 pounds to lose in my midsection.

There is just no way you can know by looking at someone fully dressed.

This is exactly where I'm at. I recently lost about 20 pounds and while I do feel better than I have in a long time I definitely still have some work to do especially around my mid-section. Like someone in a PP said, we all have our own ideal weight. I don't want people judging me so I try hard not to judge others.

[karebear304]

I'd be lying if I said I didn't judge. My assistant is super thin - the works out all the time and only goes to lunch because I force her based on the law.

I've never seen her eat any thing, but a yogurt. Not a single thing.

She's a young, beautiful girl, but she's in college and I know it's a sucky stage of life where your weight really can become a challenge, but I do judge her for not eating.

I think I also have leftover issues myself from people constantly asking me if I was anorexic when I was younger (I wasn't) and so the girls that choose not to eat irrationally piss me off b/c I would have loved to be heavier back in the day. Like I said, irrational, but I know I judge people with eating disorders b/c I was accused of having one for so long by so many people that I built up some sort of dislike for those that actually do have a problem.

I am also on the other side of the GoDawgs comment - I feel that as a thinner person I can't ever, ever say that I'm feeling chunky one day b/c I'll be attacked by the girls that are larger than me. I've been smacked down for it in the past and I learned to keep my mouth shut. Unfairly so in my mind because I definitely do have days when I feel my roll is out of control. I think I see both sides on the coin on that one.

[sasky]

I really wanna lose 3 pounds.

[statlerwaldorf]

I don't. I'm not good at judging weights either. I'm sure some people I might think look like a healthy weight could technically be overweight.

[statlerwaldorf]

I judge people of any weight (over, under, healthy) that appear to be dieting in an unhealthy way.

[Deleted]

I've heard about the feeding tube. How the hell do you explain that to co-workers and not get the side eye from them? Just crazy.