S/O Second hand baby stuff, a LoL

[KKD]

Once my MIL asked me to take a look at two carseats her mother (H's grandmother) had picked up at a yard sale. I swear, these things were straight out of the 80s. I don't even think they had any sort of straps, just a bar that came down over the lap. No thank you.

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I'm not a nay sayer for second hand. Almost all of the gear for the baby we picked up second hand. Crib, stroller, and car seats which are in amazing condition and still have 4 years before expiration. As long as they weren't in car accidents, which you can have your police department check over them, there's nothing wrong. I'm not well off. I didn't have the luxury of people buying things for me most of my pregnancy so I did what I could and bought what I could afford. Would I love everything brand new? Yes. Is it feasable? Not for me or my BF, no. Good for you guys in being able to shell out money for new baby gear. Unfortunately not everyone can be that priviledged.

[SallySparrow]

Apr 23, 2013 16:17:21 GMT -5 liubot said:

I'm not a nay sayer for second hand. Almost all of the gear for the baby we picked up second hand. Crib, stroller, and car seats which are in amazing condition and still have 4 years before expiration. As long as they weren't in car accidents, which you can have your police department check over them, there's nothing wrong. I'm not well off. I didn't have the luxury of people buying things for me most of my pregnancy so I did what I could and bought what I could afford. Would I love everything brand new? Yes. Is it feasable? Not for me or my BF, no. Good for you guys in being able to shell out money for new baby gear. Unfortunately not everyone can be that priviledged.

You are being way too sensitive. Several, if not all, of the ladies on this board have talked about things that they buy second hand. It's up to each mom (or dad!) to decide what they will and will not buy used. Just like there's nothing wrong with second hand, there's nothing wrong with wanting some things to be new (e.g. car seats for safety issues and breast pumps). No one here claimed to be "too good" for second hand stuff. The only one who said anything like that was you, when you were complaining about this post on your other board. 

I'm going to chalk it up to pregnancy hormones, since there's clearly a lot of those going around. But really...relax.

Edited because I used i.e. when I meant to use e.g. and it was bugging me because I'm a weirdo.  

[looseseal]

We were really fortunate and got lots of stuff passed on to us, with the caveat that we just pass it on too, when we're done. I was mentioning to a co-worker today that I'm looking for someone due with a boy after me so I can pass off all of this stuff I have once I'm done. She told me that she gave a bunch of stuff to a friend, who promptly sold it all at a garage sale and used the money to buy new stuff. I was flabbergasted for her and it happened almost 10 years ago!

[Cheesecake]

Oh liubot, stop getting your panties in a bunch and stop calling us names on other boards. Or just - as you suggested in that post - don't come here anymore.

If you think that people who care enough about the safety of their child to buy a new car seat (possibly scraping together every penny they can find - yes, I know those people too!) stuck up, you clearly don't belong on this board.

<warning, super flameful> If you don't care about scraping money together to buy safe baby stuff, I feel like you have no business having a baby at all! Yes, I said it, and I stand firm in my believe that pregnancy is 100 percent preventible and if you're in an unstable situation you should not be getting pregnant. That little baby has no choice in being born, the least you can do is be in a stable situation where you give him or her the very best you can possibly give him. That absolutely doesn't mean all new stuff, but it does mean that the crucial things will be new and that you're sacrificing yourself to make sure things happen. Do you still have a cell phone? An internet line at home? That's money you could've spent on your child!
Oh, and while I'm at it, if you have time to go by police stations to have stuff you bought checked out, you might also have time to work on getting yourself into a better financial situation. </end of flameful portion>

swizz I can't believe how tacky that is, though I've seen similar (or worse) stuff. People try to get away with so much. I'm wondering though, did she know she was moving? If so, why the heck did she buy all that crap before the move? (Or did she already have the baby??)

[Cheesecake]

Thanks @merida!