Younger men

[stephbfan]

How do you feel about dating younger men?

I have been asked out by two younger men.

1. Have been talking to him for a very long time. We text a lot and talked on the phone several times. I was just not that into him at all and had been procrastinating going out with him. He called me out of the blue and told me that he was in the neighborhood. We met for like 20min because I had to go pick up DD. I actually liked him way more than I though. He is 25 (I'm turning 30 in august) has a college degree and a good job.

2. He is just 23 but I think he is sweet. I would never see him like more than a friend but I don't know how much in common would I have with a 23y/o guy that its still finishing college.

[bullygirl979]

XBF was 4 years younger than me. And he was WAY more mature than XH who was 7 years older than me.

I tend to go by maturity level and life stages, not age. But yes, I could see how you would possibly struggle feeling like you have stuff in common with someone who is 23.

[Bernadine]

I'll be 30 in a few weeks.

I went out with a 25 yo who was pretty mature and had his shit together. If there had been more chemistry, I would have continued seeing him.

I went out with a 26 yo the other night who looked like he was 16 and I felt uncomfortable because he looked so much younger than me. ETA- also, in general, he just seemed like a very naive kid.

I just got a "hello" message from a 19 yo. I half considered emailing him back because he's super cute and I'm horny.

So really, it just depends.

[stephbfan]

Jun 8, 2012 12:05:06 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

XBF was 4 years younger than me. And he was WAY more mature than XH who was 7 years older than me.

I tend to go by maturity level and life stages, not age. But yes, I could see how you would possibly struggle feeling like you have stuff in common with someone who is 23.

I'm pretty sure that the only possible thing with the 23y/o would be a friendship and even with that I'm struggling on whether I want it or not.

With the 25y/o I think he is mature enough. My issue is that I think it may not have long term potential. He has not said anything but I think at that age he should be dating more people and doing a whole bunch of things.

[blackkitty]

I've dated a wide range of ages, as young as 21 and as old as 56
I prefer the 30-40 range (I'm 37)

[stephbfan]

Jun 8, 2012 12:30:51 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

I am 31 and like to date between 30-40. I would not be interested in dating someone 23 or 25... they would be younger than my little brothers.

The guy I dated in Australia was 30 and he was a bit immature... he had never had a real serious relationship and was still rather unrealistic about relationships and believed that marriage is going to be like a fairy tale. I prefer divorced men that have taken the time to heal and focus on themselves after the divorce. They are self-aware and realisitc about life/relationships.

I usually date older men. My ex was 7 years older than me and that's what I'm comfortable with.

[lovelybb]

I dated someone 8 years younger than me and he was was immature twit. I do agree that life experience counts so it's not a blanket judgement against dating younger men, but in general it was hard to find things in common. I do think that people that have been through a divorce definitely have a better understanding of how hard relationships can be and I appreciate that.

D is twelve years older than I REALLY value you his wisdom and self-awareness... we've both taught one another quite a bit and truly appreciate what the other one brings to the relationship.

[gozf]

My boyfriend is 4 years younger than me. It's not a factor at all. He's the most grounded, self-actualized person I've been with.

I also always used to date older and had some reservations. I'm glad I didn't get hung up on them.

[dakotadangerdog]

I'm only 24 so anyone younger than me would be pretty young. I tend to date guys who are 3-4 years older. I feel weird even dating guys my own age.

[nextchapter]

I am 33 (almost 34) and I prefer men who are 35+. Most of the younger men who have contacted me online just want a sugar mama and the ones who have asked me out IRL are immature.

[wrathofkuus]

I have almost exclusively dated younger men, and now I'm married to one.

[jade28]

Since being back in the dating world, I have most enjoyed dating guys who are older. I find they have better social skills, more confidence and more stable careers/lives that really compliment me and my life. I also find them more motivated and goal-oriented, which is so important to me.

Guys younger than me or my age just seem so young and aimless. I don't know why. I have definitely dated older guys who were emotionally immature so I know age doesn't really matter...I just seem to have better luck with those in the mid 30s age range (I am 28).

[BookLover]

I went on one date with a guy two years younger then me, he put me off to the idea of dating younger guys. I was 27 and he was 25 at the time. Just the way he acted and dressed, he seemed in a whole other area of life then I was.

[compassrose]

I usually like older men (BF is 13 years older) although XH was a year younger. But I think that place in life (being on the same level, i.e. not being in school or already established in his career or whatever), experience living on one's own, maturity level, and responsibility are the most important things.

[blondnearby]

FI had just turned 22 when we started dating (I was 27). I have always been the first to admit he was just supposed to be a hook up but some how he swept me off my feet. FI has also gone through a lot more than people my age or even older have gone through. He used to play professional sports but due to an injury he was forced to give them up. He dedicated his life from a preteen to this sport and went all the way to have it disappear in an instant. I will admit that there are time where I want to strangle him just because he does something that is so typical of a 22/23 year old, but he is extremely open to what I have to say. His dedication to me and my DDs makes those little things not a big deal in the big picture.

However, for the most part, I never dated or even considered younger guys as relationship material. Most of them annoy me to no end, so I can completely understand your hesitation towards dating them. Guys like my FI come few and far between and that's not bringing up age as a factor.

[achase123]

I wouldn't rule them out, I just haven't had very good luck with them!

[hainesherway]

Jun 11, 2012 10:38:10 GMT -5 achase123 said:

I wouldn't rule them out, I just haven't had very good luck with them!

This!