s/o from date help. Would you be okay if...

[bullygirl979]

...a friend wanted to date your brother?

your ex-boyfriend or XH?

a mutual male friend?

[bullygirl979]

Brother: I would not be okay with this. I think I would feel stuck in the middle if there were any ever issues. Plus, I wouldn't want to hear about their fights, sex life, etc. that my GFs and I normally discuss.

XBF or XH: Depends on how long we were together and how serious it was. If it were a casual thing that ended well, why not?

Mutual friend: I think it would be hard at times but I think I would be okay with this overall.

[roselis]

If a friend wanted to date my brother, I would warn my friend.

I am actually friends with the person engaged to my XFI. I have had friends date my XBF. No big deal. Now if a friend wants to date my XH, I may smack the friend for being an idiot.

A mutual male friend... hell yea. I have helped set friends up like that....

[Bernadine]

I don't have a brother. If I did, I think I'd worry about getting caught between them. But I wouldn't de-friend anyone over it.

xh- I would question that person's judgement to the point that I probably could not be friends with them.

Mutual friend- sure.

[blackkitty]

It would depend more on if the guy she wanted to date was a "good guy"
If my brother was an asshole (he's not), I wouldn't want my friends to date but I wouldn't begrudge them., same with the XH and other scenarios.. you don't get to pick who other people date, they do.

[bullygirl979]

Jun 8, 2012 12:51:32 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

.. you don't get to pick who other people date, they do.

Obviously! But that doesn't mean you have to be okay with it. I am not talking like "Would you throw a tantrum if..." but would it bother you.

[blackkitty]

Jun 8, 2012 12:54:26 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Jun 8, 2012 12:51:32 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

.. you don't get to pick who other people date, they do.

Obviously! But that doesn't mean you have to be okay with it. I am not talking like "Would you throw a tantrum if..." but would it bother you.

it would only bother me if the guy was an asshole

[BookLover]

...a friend wanted to date your brother? Both of mine are married now. If they weren't... Well, they are great guys. If the friend was an ass or something, I would warn my brothers.

your ex-boyfriend or XH? I don't think I could hate anyone enough to let them date my ex. All my friends know how bad my ex is.

a mutual male friend? I don't see a problem with it.

[stephbfan]

I have grown very close with my brother`s GF. He is overseas right now and she does spend time with my family. It is hard to be in the middle.

My ex? Hmm probably nothing. Guy is not really that bad but I guess it could be uncomfortable.

Not mind at all and as long as they don't display too much PDA in front of everyone.

[dakotadangerdog]

I don't have a brother. If a guy friend wanted to date my sister I'd be okay with it. As long as he didn't tell me any weird shit.

Ex boyfriends wouldn't bother me, but I'd warn her about any big issues (drug/alcohol abuse)

If a friend wanted to date my ex husband I'd tell her she's a fucking idiot and stop talking to her. Seriously.

Mutual friend would not bother me.

[wrathofkuus]

I think that only ex-husband would bother me at this point, but maybe that's because I don't have an ex-husband.

[lovelybb]

XH - that would be awkward but if they are over the world happy, who am I to care? I would prefer it not be a very close friend though...

[explorer2001]

Brother - not really he's kind of a douche. I'd rather spare her that.

ExH - he's a sociopath. I'd spare anyone that if they'd listen. If they choose to go here, good luck.

ExBF - yeah I don't care. Have fun. Heck if I found someone who would be a good fit I'd introduce them and be happy for them

Mutual male friend - yeah I don't care. Have fun.

[nextchapter]

Brother- My brother is very handsome and more than one of my friends has expressed an interest in him, but they are in their mid-30's and my brother is 52. He has plenty of options among women his own age and as he once told me, "it would be too weird to date someone young enough to have been your playmate."

Former Boyfriends- I wouldn't have a problem with this. I broke up with my last ex-bf in the late-1990's and really don't remember much about them.

XH- I couldn't remain friends with someone stupid enough to date him.

Mutal Male Friend- No issues with this either.

[wrathofkuus]

nextchapter, me too re: all ex-boyfriends are no more recent than the 90s. I can't even imagine caring at this point.

[blackkitty]

I just remembered that my best friend and another friend both slept with my brother

[Deleted]

...a friend wanted to date your brother? I don't have one.

your ex-boyfriend or XH? STBXH...my friends are smarter than that.

a mutual male friend? No problem with this. Great way to meet people is through others that know them.

[mandimija]

I don't have a brother, so that's moot.

Ex-boyfriend? The ones who aren't already married are good guys, but it just didn't work out.

XH? I think we'd have to have a come-to-Jesus meeting on that one. Unless he's had a personality transplant, I'd be seriously afraid for her.

Mutual male friend? It'd be great to see two friends happy, so I'd be fine with this.