Post by speckledfrog on Apr 30, 2013 22:31:38 GMT -5
NO youngest children allowed! Come get the "no fairs!" of your chest:
I couldn't ride my bike in the street without permission until I was in 4th grade. My youngest brother, I swear to god, still had his training wheels on when he did.
I had to take gymnastics even though I hated it. Middle loved gymnastics. I loved ballet. I got stuck with gymnastics because "middle is the athletic one..."
Post by thedutchgirl on Apr 30, 2013 22:36:45 GMT -5
Haha, nice idea.
When I graduated high school, I wanted to get a hotel room with a couple of my friends (we were well behaved and didn't drink) in the city I grew up in. My mom said no.
Four years later, when my brother graduated from high school, he and his two buddies drove from MICHIGAN to the GRAND CANYON/VEGAS/ARIZONA by themselves with my mother's tra-la-la blessing.
I'm the baby, but I am also the only girl. Can I play? Because my brother was free to roam the streets in middle school and I still wasn't allowed to walk down the block after dark by myself when I was in high school thanks to having a vagina.
Middle sister got her first bra and started using deodorant the same time I did. (My mom later told me that my sister actually needed the deodorant. lol.) Both of my sisters were allowed to shave at a younger age than I did. It's so silly now but at the time I hated that they were allowed to "grow up" earlier than I did.
Middle sister always crashed my sleepover parties. My parents would promise that they'd make sure she stayed upstairs, but, nope, she always ended up right there with us in her sleeping bag.
Baby sister was too young and cute to annoy me when we were younger, but then and now she has always been the most spoiled. She's 25 now and still gets babied, I think because my parents feel bad that she's "alone" while the rest of us are settled down.
(I suppose I should mention that I actually have an older brother but as the first of three girls I very much feel like the oldest. I should also say that I think my parents have done a pretty good job of treating us equally, and while they could afford nicer things for my sisters as teenagers, we all got private school and cars and nice vacations.)
Post by glitzyglow on Apr 30, 2013 22:43:52 GMT -5
My mom took out a loan on my car and I had to make the payments until the car was paid off. It took me 5 years.
My parents bought my two younger sister cars, they were required to make no payments.
My younger brother is on his 8th fucking vehicle. My dad lets him trade trucks like it's nothing. And my brother has never paid a cent toward any of the vehicles.
I swear my grandmother on my dad's side has been to more of his baseball games and events in his 17 years then in my 26. Not to mention the money he gives him.
OR
how my mom lets him go everywhere with his friends -friends that drive. If I even thought about getting in the car with a friend I was grounded.
Post by EllieArroway on Apr 30, 2013 22:46:56 GMT -5
I was just expected to make good grades, my sister was paid if she did.
I had to get a job to pay for my own car insurance, my sister "couldn't work because she had to focus on studying" so they paid hers.
All of the 'big' toys (swingset, nintendo, computer, etc) were birthday gifts to me that I had to share with everyone. No one else got 'family' gifts as their presents.
Post by margotmacomber on Apr 30, 2013 22:50:29 GMT -5
My mom stole my Honor Society field trip to Boston $$ out of my bank account so she could fly to Florida for a weekend fling. While making me pick my baby sisters up from elementary school and subsequently explain (lie) to my stepfather about what I knew and why. ::flings fucked up childhood confetti:: <)
I have forgiven and gotten past it all, seriously.
Post by speckledfrog on Apr 30, 2013 22:55:00 GMT -5
One time my middle brother got a detention for tardies and my mom made me serve it with him because she didn't understand how I was on time and he was late when we went to the same school (I walk faster!).
I was always the example. If a younger kid acted up I would get in trouble because "they probably saw you do it first".
Ugh, yes!
One that still pisses me off to this day has to do with college. I ended up with 50% of my tuition paid via academic scholarship. My parents paid a portion and I took out a student loan to cover the remainder. Since my university was only an hour away from home my parents refused to pay for room and board so I had to commute. This necessitated a vehicle which necessitated work to afford. So my college experience was basically school full time, plus internships, plus working 30+ hours a week.
My sister? Also chose a school an hour away. She had no scholarship to help pay for it yet she gets to live on campus. After 2yrs on campus my parents then pay for off campus housing for her as well. Oh and they also provided spending money so she didn't have to work since she was "so stressed" about school.
She is only 4yrs younger so it was quite obvious what a better deal she was getting. According to them it was because "We knew you could handle the adult responsibility. She isn't ready for all of that yet."
My sister is still coddled as if she is a fragile flower BTW...and I am clearly still bitter. LoL
I went to public school and my little sister went to one of the best private schools in the country. The same private school that I wanted to go to but my mom said we couldn't afford. She also got to choose her brand new car that my mom said she wasn't going to get because she went to said $40,000 a year private school but she got anyway. My mom was so much harder on me curfew wise and rules wise and when my sister got kicked out of her sororities formal for drinking 2 weeks ago she took her out to brunch and to J.Crew shopping. OH! My dad came to every single one of my sisters hockey games her entire HS career and he came to 1 of my games where I was cheering and none of my competitions.
I was always the one in trouble if chaos erupted amongst us siblings when the parents weren't looking/in another room/etc.
It was assumed that either I was instigating, or that I should be mature enough to ignore whatever my younger brother and sister were doing to piss me off/torment me, etc.
There were several times my brother and sister would start bickering/fighting between themselves and if I was close by, my parents would find some reason to blame it on me. I couldn't win.
Ugh. I paid for a stupid ass flip phone myself in hs. Little sis has an I phone my mom pays for.
Oh yeah! My first cell phone was my own phone that I bought and I had my own account with a bill that I was responsible for. Every single one of the other kids (I'm the oldest of 5) was gifted a phone that my mom bought and pays for their bill :/
I was 9 when my sister was born. I was expected to be the perfect child/teenager and now adult, no exceptions. My sister has been given a free pass to mess up, no judgement no consequences. I'm just a little bitter lol
I was 9 when my sister was born. I was expected to be the perfect child/teenager and now adult, no exceptions. My sister has been given a free pass to mess up, no judgement no consequences. I'm just a little bitter lol
let me see... I got my first car when I was 17. it was a 1985 Mercury Grand Marquis my parents bought from my GREAT-grandparents for $1500. I cried when they gifted it to me (spoiled brat, I know). my youngest sister got her dream car at 16... 2000-something VW Beetle in her favorite color, lime green. bitch.
I wasn't allowed to do the hotel rooms with friends thing until college. in fact, even in college, my parents worried about me driving across the state to Dallas or Austin and always wanted me to carpool with someone else and let them do all the driving. my sister was allowed to go on beach trips with her 10 closest friends, after prom parties, etc, her junior year.
my mom came to only my home games when I was cheering. my dad never came to watch me cheer. both parents only came to one softball game. neither ever attended a volleyball or basketball game when I was in junior high. both of my younger sisters? parents were at almost all cross country and track meets, and basketball games. I know I'm not athletic, but damn, a little support would have been nice.
I was always the one in trouble if fights broke out between the 3 of us. "because you probably started it" uh no, I did not.
Post by game blouses on May 1, 2013 0:18:19 GMT -5
When I had friends over, we had to include my sister in everything. When she had friends over, I was sequestered in my room because my mom thought I would take all the attention from my sister.
As a teenager, I was only allowed to use the car to drive my sister where she needed to go. She regularly reported if I was driving too fast or too slow. When she got her license, she got a car.
My mom promised me free rent if I moved back into our childhood home while she was preparing to sell it. I ended up paying the utilities plus most of the mortgage. When my sister moved in with me, I had to buy her groceries and pay her cell phone bill too. Needless to say, I moved out quickly, lol.
My Mom took on a shift work job when I was 13 because "You can do all of the cooking after school". So I was responsible for making dinner, making two younger siblings do homework, etc. and generally raising their asses. To this day, my little sister still call me "Mom" in a super snide voice.
I also got shafted for university money - my parents gave me $8k. They saved up $26k for little sister.
Super high expectations at school, sports, friends.... You name it I had to be perfect at it. Had to pay for my own car, ins, clothes.
Yea - my brother and sister skated through school just barely passing, didn't have to play any sports or instruments and had brand new cars bought for them while I was still driving my 10 yr old beater...
But I love my sibs to death so it worked out... kinda