Ugh, dd did something bad

[firedancer49]

So my dd's dcp is puppy sitting a 6 week old puppy for her friend before her friend can take it.  Well today they were sitting on the floor playing with the puppy and the dcp walked out to the car for less than one minute and came back into the house to the puppy crying.  Finally dd spilled that she squeezed the puppy's belly with her hands and then pulled it's hair.  She was very matter a fact about it and really had no remorse.  I left work and got her and met dh at home.  We had nice chat with her and obviously she is in trouble.

Thankfully the puppy is ok.  This is not behavior my daughter does.  She is not aggressive and is always so loving.

I just can't believe she did this.  She knows to be gentle with dogs, and especially this one b/c it is so little and young.  Both I and dcp have told her numerous times to be gentle and what to do/not do.  I just dont get it.  She did finally say she did it b/c she was mad the two other boys were not giving her her turn to hold it.  She's 4 and I know she can't really rationalize her turn, etc.  Ugh, this just sucks.  

[AHappierHour]

DCP should have put the puppy up and not left it with the kids.

[snickers]

She should not of left your DD alone at all, with a puppy or not. Thing's happen when children are left alone. I am glad she has been told it is not okay, but I wouldn't take it too hard. Chances are good that she will learn from this and she will be more gentle next time.

[hopecounts]

Yep while DD needs to have the rules enforced and go ver how to treat dogs this is a fail on your DCP part.
Young kids and puppies/dogs shouldn't be left unsupervised things can happen fast.

[pantsparty]

Looks like you have a Lenny on your hands! Just kidding. I don't think she was trying to harm the puppy, she probably did not understand she might be hurting him.

[AHappierHour]

May 1, 2013 17:01:42 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

I get that the dcp was only gone a minute, but uh, no. Don't leave the kids alone with the dog.

And, kids are absolutely remorseless. I'd make her draw an "I'm Sorry, Puppy" picture and I'd make her apologize to DCP and the puppy tomorrow.

I like the idea of a Im sorry picture.

[Deleted]

What was the DCP thinking? Leaving a puppy that young with kids that are only 4? Your DD certainly was in the wrong, but the DCP made a bad call leaving kids with a puppy so young. I like Sue's idea of making her draw an apology picture.

[karmasabiotch]

Obviously its not ok, but holy hell would I be angry at the dcp for leaving kids alone with a puppy even for a minute. That puppy probably has some very sharp teeth.

[Deleted]

What the hell is a DCP? And ditto the child shouldn't have been left alone with a puppy that young.

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May 1, 2013 17:10:13 GMT -5 @amoosed said:

What the hell is a DCP? And ditto the child shouldn't have been left alone with a puppy that young.

Day care provider.

[Deleted]

Ah, thank you! That makes more sense. I'd be upset with the DCP then.

[firedancer49]

I actually did just that. She colored something earlier and we will write it after dinner.

I guess in my OMG what did my child do thoughts I didn't even think about dcp not being in the room.

I was also so nervous to post thus here.

May 1, 2013 17:08:27 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

May 1, 2013 17:04:18 GMT -5 AHappierHour said:

I like the idea of a Im sorry picture.

  when they were pre-literate, I made my kids do this all the time. "You sit right there and you draw a picture to show that puppy how sorry you are you hurt its stomach" is a fun sentence to say, too. And they do it! They will draw the cutest little I'm sorry pictures. lol

[hisno1girl]

Your DD was not nice to the puppy, but she's 4. She was probably just excited and anxious to play with him.

Also, the DCP shouldn't have left the children (a few of them, it seems) unattended for 'just a minute'. Isn't that when horrible accidents happen? The parents always say, "I turned around for just one minute!"

DD can draw the apology picture (please show us!) and DCP needs to not leave children alone.

[papie]

I would make DD apologize, but definitely have a talk with the DCP about how you NEVER want that to happen again (children unsupervised with a dog).

[firedancer49]

I don't know the scenario with the puppys mother. I think it was out of the picture. She bottle fed it milk a few days then the vet said to give it wet dry food.

[margotmacomber]

We just got a brand new puppy and we have an almost 3 year old.  The puppy has some sharp teeth, and has nipped DD a couple of times even with my constant supervision.  DCP fail.

DD has also tried to sit on the puppy like she does our rottweiler, and is guilty of giving her the hard slaps our rottweiler LOVES on his back haunches (don't ask me why, our dog is weird) even after we explained that the puppy is a baby and you have to be very easy with her.  I don't blame her for this any more than I blame her for doing any other stupid toddler thing.

In short, don't worry about this, except for the fact that your DD should never have been left alone with the puppy in the first place.  

[firedancer49]

No JJ. She doesn't leave them alone. A friend came over and she walked out the to the car to put something in it.

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[EmilieMadison]

May 1, 2013 19:23:56 GMT -5 firedancer49 said:

No JJ. She doesn't leave them alone. A friend came over and she walked out the to the car to put something in it.

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So the kids were ALONE.

[Deleted]

This is your dcp's fault. I would have a short convo with dd about being gentle with animals, but don't make a big deal about it. She didn't mean anything by it I am sure and is just not accustomed to a teeny puppy. Your dcp should have never left them alone together, not even for a second.

[JayhawkGirl]

Dcp is lucky the dog didn't hurt the child(ren). An animal should not be left alone with children in care, period.

It sounds like you've addressed it well with dd. she was probably squeezing it like a stuffed animal. Puppies are cute, like stuffed animals.

And you're a DMB fan, so you're clearly an awesome mom

[Deleted]

I would get a new DCP. WTF was she thinking leaving a puppy with toddlers? I'd be furious if I owned the puppy. This is on your DCP.