Girls trip advice

[AHappierHour]

My friend wants to do a girls trip and thought FI parents river house would be perfect and cheap. I told her fine I will ask. I told her early August is best because my SIL uses the house all summer and I don't want to cause problems. She said fine and understood.

Now she called me and told me no August won't work for her other friends so can we go sooner. I explained to her again no SIL uses the house. They have a brand new boat and they plan and take time off from work and I don't want to cause problems. SIL is pregnant and by aug. she will be too far along to go. That's why August works and when we can go. My friend says cant you just  tell them no your using it for a weekend. I really don't want to cause problems or come off as a brat to my IL's. I really want to tell friend sorry but SIL has taken work off and will be there for the whole month of July and we can't go maybe you should find a new place for your trip.

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[Deleted]

I would tell your friend to suck it. Fuck her and her self-imposed entitlement to a free house.

[ECB]

Um, I would tell my friend to back off! She's damn presumptuous. "*I* want a girls weekend and because I want it to be cheap, YOUR ILs have to let us use their house AND give it up at a time when they normally use it".

I mean, really?

I'd tell her "The house isn't available in July." and leave it at that. Stop explaining WHY it's not available - clearly she's going to poke holes. So just tell her "no".

[walterismydog]

What bigtow said.

Major eyerolls here.

[Kore]

WTF. Your friend is very entitled. Just say again that SIL has already called dibs, so it's August or nothing.

Are you even invited to this girls trip?

[mrsjuleshs]

Agree with bigtow. Family comes first. Your friend will just have to shell out the money to rent another house or get a hotel room.

[gozf]

Tell her no. Again.

[karmasabiotch]

Your SIL gets the house. A WTH to your friend.

[walterismydog]

Tell her to check out www.airbnb.com/

[AHappierHour]

Yes my friend can be a brat when she wants something. I had this conversation with her almost 2 weeks ago and I haven't talked to her since because it left such a bad taste in my mouth. My IL's are super nice and generous and would let us use the house and I really don't want to step in SIL toes.

Yes I'm invited to the trip. I think just going to tell her no. I really don't want to have to deal with her bratty ass anymore.

[Deleted]

What the fuck else would you tell her aside from no?

[ECB]

May 2, 2013 10:28:32 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

What the fuck else would you tell her aside from no?

This.  I'm really not sure why there is a conflict here. 

Your friend is "smart", though.  Clearly by being bratty, she's used to getting her way.  It's now been 2 weeks and even w/ all your explanations of why July won't work - you STILL need to tell her "no" and you're conflicted about it.  I have no question she uses this to her full advantage and is probably expecting you to say "yes".

[winnied]

I had this problem with a friend this summer, too. I just told her it's not even an option. It's not up for discussion, it's just not happening. Come or don't come, but X is when we're having it.

[sparkythelawyer]

Sorry friend, the house just not available before August. Now, where else would you like to look? And leave it there.

[VeryViolet]

This isn't even a question. "No the house isn't available" is all you have to say. It doesn't matter if it isn't available because of your SIL or because you are uncomfortable with the color aura the house has in July. A free place to stay is always great but your friend needs to get it through her head that free means you can't dictate when.

[AHappierHour]

May 2, 2013 10:57:59 GMT -5 @stpete said:

You friend is being rude. But did you even ask your ILs or are you assuming your SIL wants it the whole month? I'm confused by your OP here. Eiter way friend is acting like a brat. Pick another spot.

My SIL and her family practically live there all summer. She has stayed for a month at a time before. I just know how SIL and her family are when it comes to the river and especially since they have a new boat they will be there as much as they can before SIL is too far along. 

[adhdfashion]

I'd tell her "Beggars can't be choosers".