Have you read this article re: condoms?

[cleo29]

It's interesting.  I sometimes wonder if there is a psychological aspect as to how condoms feels during sex. I'm not saying that there isn't a difference, but if you go into it thinking it is going to make sex so much worse, it probably will.

www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/04/why-still-so-few-use-condoms/275301/

[partiallysunny]

I love condoms.

[cleo29]

May 2, 2013 12:37:59 GMT -5 partiallysunny said:

I love condoms.

I don't mind them either and the woman who commented about them not fitting right makes me wonder if her man is overly ambitious and buying magnums or something.

[falada45]

Condoms are our choice of BC right now. (That and pulling out. LOL.) I'm allergic to latex so we use polyurethane condoms. No doubt they make clean-up way easier.

[speckledfrog]

May 2, 2013 12:37:59 GMT -5 partiallysunny said:

I love condoms.

Me too.  They are my favorite form of BC.

[demelza]

I just had condom less sex for the first time ever and it was really different! We really should have used lube, because afterwards I could not sleep I was in pain... I'm sure it still felt nicer for my H, but I was surprised at the pain afterwards.

[shostakovich]

Okay, I just typed out a lengthy and thoughtful response to this conundrum ("condomdrum"?), which PB promptly ate.

So, bottom line: Condoms are awesome. CONDOMS FOR EVERYONE!

[Deleted]

I def notice a difference between thin condoms and regular ones.

I think it's about finding what works for you, TBH, if you're so inclined. We like the Durex Bare. YOU'RE WELCOME!

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May 2, 2013 12:49:37 GMT -5 jillianashley6 said:

I never understand why people complain about them. Non-hormonal, won't cause you to gain weight (like some bcp do for me), etc.

My biggest issue is I like spontaneity so they sort of take the fun out of that.

"Wait....wait okay, let's get a condom now....okay you can put it on now..."

It's why we've preferred pnp since we started doing it.

PS I know we are also like super awkward people.  But we had sex on the floor of the living room last night so I think we're doing better again!

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May 2, 2013 12:51:12 GMT -5 ninjabridemom said:

May 2, 2013 12:49:37 GMT -5 jillianashley6 said:

I never understand why people complain about them. Non-hormonal, won't cause you to gain weight (like some bcp do for me), etc.

My biggest issue is I like spontaneity so they sort of take the fun out of that.  <-- ETA I will add that this generally wasn't an issue until my husband -- the guys I slept with before, we could take a minute or two, lol.

"Wait....wait okay, let's get a condom now....okay you can put it on now..."

It's why we've preferred pnp since we started doing it.

PS I know we are also like super awkward people.  But we had sex on the floor of the living room last night so I think we're doing better again!

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May 2, 2013 12:43:23 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

I think it probably depends on brand and the unique shape of the man's penis. Seriously, I know they are stretchy and come in different sizes, but there can't possibly be one that perfectly fits every peen. Sometimes it feels okay, and sometimes it feels like I'm sexing a plastic bag.

Yes.  SO bought the wrong kind and a few nights ago, fumbling in the dark, he said, "What the fuck kind of vice is this condom?! There's no way this would even fit on my thumb."  I shot back, "If you've been putting them on your thumb this whole time, we need to talk."  He didn't laugh, but I did.  I sauntered off to the bathroom and pulled out a string of the regular type I knew were hiding in his travel shaving case.

I don't have issues with good condoms.  Thick crappy ones can just stay at the store tyvm.

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Ugh I meant to edit, not quote myself like a douche.

[thebamker]

May 2, 2013 12:50:12 GMT -5 toledo said:

Condoms DO make that shit feel different, though. They just do. It's better without them, and this is not debatable.

Are you speaking for men? because I can totally see that being true. 

Unless there's a desert situation in my vagine - I can't tell the difference with or without them.  and not being pregnant feels better than any sex I've ever had anyway. lol!

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I can tell a big difference between even the thinnest condoms and the totally bare peen. HUGE difference. Like the difference between an orange and a zebra.

[Deleted]

Yeah I prefer no condoms.....I feel the difference!

[fuckyourcouch]

1. i don't like the removal of spontaneity either
2. i cannot fucking stand the way they smell. BLEHHHHHHHH. and, TMI alert, every time we use one that's all i can smell the rest of the day every time i go pee or something.
3. i always feel like i end up with latex-burn. i feel like they create too much friction. my vag is sensitive.

i don't like them. we used them exclusively for awhile because BCPs were making me crazy but i really hate them.

[rex]

There is definitely a difference.

I prefer condoms as far as birth control is concerned because hormonal BC really fucks me up. But it does take a lot of money and condoms to find one we both agree on.

[amberlyrose]

We use them exclusively and DH says its not that big of difference to him. We do have our favorite brand, so if we can't find it, DH gets sad.

[Deleted]

i hate them. i like what they can do, but hate how they get it done.

[cleo29]

May 2, 2013 13:36:31 GMT -5 amberlyrose said:

We use them exclusively and DH says its not that big of difference to him. We do have our favorite brand, so if we can't find it, DH gets sad.

lol This is H. We do like the Durex BARE ones that Ninja mentioned. I can't do hormonal BCP, so we have always used condoms. H will be getting the snip at the end of the month, so I guess by next year we will be going without anything.

[dana2006]

Neither H nor I mind them, though it's been a few years since we used one.

We were in Beijing one time and happened to see this "sexual health" store near our hotel. We bought a box of domestic brand ultra thin condoms from there and damn, they were so good that they made us want to jump in the sack more. After we got back I felt like Elaine from Seinfeld hoarding her diaphram--it was tough seeing the stash of a precious commodity diminish. lol.

[JamaicanPineapple]

I think there's definitely a feeling difference with vs. without, but condoms were our BC of choice for years before we TTC (and before TTCing for #2). They never bothered H or I. And a plus, easy clean up!

[demelza]

haha - tamb's wild sex dreams!

[eddy]

I hope to never have sex with a condom again.

[cleo29]

May 2, 2013 13:53:49 GMT -5 nicbreeful said:

May 2, 2013 12:39:18 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

I don't mind them either and the woman who commented about them not fitting right makes me wonder if her man is overly ambitious and buying magnums or something.

Lol.. I once read that condom companies make magnums to be able to fit the majority of the male population.  They're only something like, 1/3 of an inch longer.  Vanity sizing, male edition.

Recently there was a pro-athlete who got in trouble for using a prostitute and made sure to mention that he had left his magnums behind or something like that. lol

[coribelle26]

I am confident that, in a blind peen test, I would not be able to tell the difference between a thin condom and no condom. My vagina may be dead inside.

[snickers]

In the grand scheme of things, it doesn't feel much different to me. I like them because it means less mess, lol.

[eddy]

The difference for me is the lube factor. So yeah you can then use lube, but then that is another thing you need to get out and apply. It just starts to feel too clinical.

[gozf]

The "less mess" people are making me scratch my head. Isn't sex supposed to be messy? I think a lot of the fun of it is the fact that it's not dignified or tidy.

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May 2, 2013 14:00:05 GMT -5 eddy said:

The difference for me is the lube factor. So yeah you can then use lube, but then that is another thing you need to get out and apply. It just starts to feel too clinical.

And let's not kid ourselves, lube is gross.  I always get it all over my hands and then what do I do??  The first time we used it I panicked and just had sex with my hands flared out so they wouldn't touch him/anything.

If we don't use condoms or pull out I need lube b/c my "area" is crazy, crazy sensitive.  I won't go into details!  But the boys would not have been conceived w/o lube.