Thursday afternoon/Friday morning randoms

[gault]

imoan, I know you have fallen out of love with Glee, but in the last episode or two, there are a few shots with Blaine I think you'd make an exception for.  Think skimpy training shorts and suggestive pelvic thrusts.

Also, those who watch New Girl, what did you think of the last episode?  I laughed myself silly by myself and watched it two more times.  Passionately love Nick and can't help but love Schmidt too.  Wonder how the marriage with CeCe will work out.

I have a date on Saturday.    First one in many months.  There are a lot of nice MN boys out here.

Also, I have THREE interviews in the next week!  Hooray!  

[partiallysunny]

That's amazing news, gault! I'm glad things are looking up for you

[Muddled]

A date!? Woohoo!

I had to run 3 whole minutes in a row today. The first time I thought, I got this. The second time I thought, NO, I really don't.

I felt like I looked good in my running clothes, though. Apparently, the weird little man did, too, because today he only waved at me instead of scaring the crap out of me.

[Muddled]

Wait. Are CC and Schmidt getting married? FOr real?

[starrieskies]

OOH! Yay for a date, gault!

I had an interesting (read frustrating) conversation with H last night during which he told me in no uncertain terms that he has no desire to start a college fund for DS and he expects DS to figure out how to pay for it if he wants to go to college. I brought up that I am still disappointed that I was never able to finish college for financial reasons, and had that been an option for me I would have finished and probably been much further career wise. He decided that he would agree to setting a "small" amount of money aside for DS to use for college, but whatever gets used, he expects to pay us back for because "In life there are no handouts".

I think he's an idiot and as a semi-responsible parent, it is my responsibility to make sure that continuing education is an option for my child should he decide to persue it. Yet another glaring example of how our parenting styles are very different.

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May 2, 2013 13:30:18 GMT -5 Muddled said:

Wait. Are CC and Schmidt getting married? FOr real?

I was wondering the same thing! I stopped watching it a few episodes into this season because I was only finding it funny on occasion. 

I am exhausted today and want to take another rest day, but feel like I should just go do something. Maybe just a short run? Blah. 

[captainmel]

I have also fallen out of love with Glee. I keep watching it because I need to know what happens!
I just finished sewing a skirt that I am now in love with. Maybe this will be motivation to shavemy legs. I am also almost done with the dress based on the pattern Starries inspired me to buy! I feel so accomplished when I finish sewing something.
I need to buy cute bookends, my sewing books on my desk keep falling over. FWP.
I was hungry when I went to Costco yesterday and I spent way too much money. Damn samples.

[cuddlyevil]

Starries, your H is a douche--but you know this already.

I forgot one of my counterparts is off today and tomorrow, good thing I remembered in time to make some urgent changes to a calendar for tomorrow.

It's been over a week and the sink in bathroom is still not up and running.

Today's DS #2's birthday. MIL & SFIL are taking the kids to the zoo this afternoon, they'll get there just in time to see the baby gorilla that's being fostered at our zoo. DH doesn't think the baby gorilla is cute, I think I can shun him for that--right?

[fussbucket]

Is your H perchance one of those types who blusters, "Well I did it and nobody helped ME," when in actual fact people (such as his own parents) actually DID help him out quite a bit?

Our plan is to save about half of what will be needed for college ahead of time for each kid. When the time comes well figure out as a family how we want to cover the rest, but I'm picturing some combination of the kids' own loans and drawing from our future take-home pay while they're in school.

Basically, we're hedging our bets. If one kid ends up not going to college, the other's will be paid for entirely. If one really wants to go to some insanely expensive school, they'll have to consider their loan payments in their decision making.

[cuddlyevil]

We're taking the same perspective my parents had "We'll help with the first four years, anything after that is on you.". We have a 529 for DD but haven't started anything for the boys yet, we'll probably have to wait another year or two until we're clear of the car and have paid the house down more. But we're also quietly hoping they'll win scholarships and render the 529s irrelevant.

[partiallysunny]

No one helped me, but I sure as Hell hope I can help my own kids.

We are also leaning towards 529s and saving half. I think they need to be responsible for some of their education debt, if they go that route. Hopefully they will appreciate it more.

[starrieskies]

fussbucket, yeah, he's kind of like that. The thing of it is that neither one of us finished college. I did a year of community college after high school, but ran out of money and couldn't continue. H went straight into the military and then never used his GI bill after he got out.

His reasoning is that his parents put his brother through college and his brother ended up being a meth addict. My parents helped put my brother through college and he ended up being a grade a idiot too. So H now thinks that going to college = idiot apparently.

I should also point out that although my parents' financial information was used on my brother's FAFSA forms, the loans were taken out in his name and he is paying for them. Not my parents.

[fussbucket]

"In life there are no handouts" says the man who turned down a HUGE one in the form of the GI Bill benefits, a "handout" he actually EARNED through his service?

I'm loling at how willfully stupid your H is, starrie. Sorry, but I am. His credibility is at farcical/absurdity levels here.

[captainmel]

Starries (and everyone else willing to help their kids with college), I haven't talked too much about my finances on here but my parents are helping with my college tuition. I am sooo lucky and appreciative. I could not afford it without their help. Especially because I don't qualify for any FAFSA aid for another year. I don't even qualify for Stafford loans because of their income.
I think it is so generous and wonderful that you all want to help your children so much. I have expressed my thanks to my parents and I am sure even though your kids are too young to do that now that they will in the future.

[starrieskies]

I know that he may not want to do college, and that's his decision, but I want to make sure he has options. I would have loved to finish college, but I was going to school full time and working 3 jobs (2 full time, 1 part time) to pay for it. I just couldn't keep that pace up without my studies suffering. I alway said that I would go back, but never did. I was fortunate enough to find a job that I love and that pays me a decent wage (albiet lower than I think I am worth), but I think that's a pretty rare thing these days and I don't see it changing anytime soon. I am trying to set him up for success, not struggle. I don't understand why H wouldn't want that too.

[captainmel]

Starries, have you thought about going back to school once you leave your H? I know my community college offers daycare options. I wonder if your local one would too?

[starrieskies]

I have thought about it, but I haven't really researched it much. I know I'm going to have a lot to deal with once I leave, and I'm worried about over extending myself mentally. It's something I'll probably look into more once things calm down and the divorce is finalized.

[captainmel]

I think you should Starries! It seems like it could be a really great opportunity for you. Do some research. You might find that it would be easier to leave and do school stuff than it would be to work. My school provides a lot of options for single moms.

[partiallysunny]

May 2, 2013 15:45:40 GMT -5 starrieskies said:

I know that he may not want to do college, and that's his decision, but I want to make sure he has options. I would have loved to finish college, but I was going to school full time and working 3 jobs (2 full time, 1 part time) to pay for it. I just couldn't keep that pace up without my studies suffering. I alway said that I would go back, but never did. I was fortunate enough to find a job that I love and that pays me a decent wage (albiet lower than I think I am worth), but I think that's a pretty rare thing these days and I don't see it changing anytime soon. I am trying to set him up for success, not struggle. I don't understand why H wouldn't want that too.

I was in the same situation. I did finally go back and get an associates, but I'm sad I never got a bachelors. Maybe one day.

[cuddlyevil]

I am just going to put this here, I realize it may or may not be flameworthy:

I had a sexy dream involving workplace crush.

Maybe I need to get some tonight? I don't know what brought it out, but I hope I didn't talk in my sleep because yipes.