Sharing bedrooms

[bunnymendelbaum]

If we get this rental, there would have to be some bedroom sharing going on. Not a big deal because one of the bedrooms is huge. We are thinking we'd get an expidit big bookcase and put a backer on it. (Divider & storage!)

But, should the girls share a room (3yrs & 4 mos) or should the 4 mo old share w us?
I was thinking 4 mo old with us, but DH thinks the girls share. (I would bet he's thinking he's not going to get any action w her in our room. But I dread them waking each other up.)

What's your experience?

Eta: we will be this rental hopefully less than a year.

[wawa]

I shared a room with my sister. We first moved in together when she was still in a crib, but she was older than 4 months. Maybe more like a year?

I was 5. It worked fine for us.

I think whether it would work would depend on whether they are good sleepers to begin with. Like, when either of them wakes up, do they tend to shriek until you come for them, or just make noise? How soundly do they both sleep?

[TBM]

Our girls shared a room for many years, they even shared a bed at one point, when they were both small enough to sleep at opposite ends. They are not quite 2 1/2 yrs apart in age.

They didn't wake each other up, and everyone survived. When they did get their own rooms, they actually elected to go back to sharing for awhile, and kept the other room as a playroom.

[bunnymendelbaum]

Baby is a great sleeper, but she's in her own room now.
DD is mostly a good sleeper, but has weeks where she wakes up at night super upset. I'm sort of worried she'd wake "The Baby".
Even if that wasn't a concern, DD2 goes to bed at 7:30 or so and DD1 not until 8 or 8:30 including a whole routine in her room.

I know a lot of people room share with their infants (I just never have). Do they just get creative with other sex locations? I'm thinking it wouldn't matter so much if we build a good divider. Is this TMI?

[TBM]

May 2, 2013 14:16:07 GMT -5 bunnymendelbaum said:

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I know a lot of people room share with their infants (I just never have). Do they just get creative with other sex locations? I'm thinking it wouldn't matter so much if we build a good divider. Is this TMI?

We never shared a room with our kids, once they were more than a couple of weeks old.

For some reason, whenever I think about sharing a room with an infant, the book Sybil (it was a movie with Sally Field too, about a woman with multiple personalities) comes to mind. She remembered being in a crib in the room with her parents while they were having sex. I guess I didn't want to take a chance on scarring my children for life.

[niknik]

My boys share and they don't wake eachother up. They are 3 and 5. Both sleep like rocks, in fact when we had problems with our smoke detectors one night (4 times) neither even woke up. They adjust just fine.

Both mine go to bed around 7:00 or 7:30 though.

[Marmee]

Mine always shared but I kept them in my room until they slept decently. If your 4mo sleeps decent it should be fine. My girls learned to sleep through noises.

[ktzmoh]

We opted to share with the baby when we were in that spot because we had lots of sleep issues and once we finally got the baby to sleep, we didn't want ANYTHING to wake her - including her brother getting up to use the bathroom or tossing and turning or whatever. On the other hand, we didn't want to wake Jackson when we needed to do night feedings. Plus I was lazy and didn't want to go far for those night feedings.

I'd say you could try having the kids share and then change it up if sleep becomes an issue.

[sierramist03]

I'd have your girls share a room I don't think it will be that big of a deal

[SusanBAnthony]

We just got done renting for a year, with the kids sharing a room. It sucked. Even with the transition to a new house, they both are already sleeping so much better now that they are apart.

I wold opt to put baby with you for that reason, plus we coslept so obviously I don't have a problem with that.

[Deleted]

Have the girls share a room. If it becomes an issue with them waking each other up, move the baby's crib into your room.

[bunnymendelbaum]

May 2, 2013 19:41:13 GMT -5 @kjewell said:

Have the girls share a room. If it becomes an issue with them waking each other up, move the baby's crib into your room.

I'd do this, but it would mean moving 2 bedrooms worth of furniture AND the divider.

Plus, we want to install the divider safely. If they share, it will be more in the middle. If she is with us, it will be more toward one end. I'm a stickler for securing things to the wall/ceiling/floor for safety and would hate to have to drill the walls twice.

I'm honestly a little surprised so many kids share rooms. Idk why, I did with my sister, but not until I was 3 and she was 5. I guess the fact that one is an infant and the other a preschooler/toddler and they have such different schedules is making me lean toward keeping the infant in my room. (She gets up at 11pm to eat still or once during the night.)