Ok parents, tell me this is "normal"

[sailorgray]

I think it's normal. I wouldn't encourage it, but thnk it's just one of those things kids do. I think the talk you had was good and would wait to see if it helps.

[JamaicanPineapple]

My oldest just turned 3 but I think that sounds like normal pre-school stuff. It wouldn't worry me really.

But maybe I'm clueless.

ETA: I definitely think you handled it right.

[sake]

NORMAL.

[ECB]

This so wouldn't cross my mind to be bothered by it. And to clarify - are they bumping their butts together? If so, even MORE so I wouldn't think twice about it.

Yes, we need to make our kids aware of what's appropriate and what isn't, and we want all our kids to know what is a "safe" touch and what isn't. But this just seems like an overreaction on the teachers part.

[hopecounts]

Normal, remind her about keeping our hands and bodies to ourselves and move on.

[ering1115]

Normal. I am 100% with ECB that if they are bumping their booties together it would make me laugh and not push me to inappropriate touching. Dropping it like it's hot on the other hand.... we would have issues

I feel you on the new classroom/teacher thing. DS has NOT adjusted well to his new class and I think they moved him up too quickly. Ugh.

[eddy]

Sounds normal to me.

If it makes you feel better Jack convinced a kid to show his booty on Monday as a way to gain permission to play with them. Yeah......He got in big fucking trouble. The other parents had to be told. The whole shebang. Jack was realling killing it this week.

[eddy]

He is 5 1/2 and having a bit of an issue with being big man on campus. He is one of the oldest and of course the younger ones love him. He took it too far this week and was in pretty big trouble for it. Now his daycare is working with him on how to be a leader, lolololol, and he is taking that very seriously. He even made a leader costume last night.

But next year he will learn the lesson the hard way when he is in K and everyone is bigger then him again. sigh

[rex]

Normal!

Does the school give you any warning when she is switching teachers?

Is there any way you can help her by telling her ahead of time? Some kids just need to know what's going on and a sudden change throws them off. A new teacher can be a big deal in their worlds.

[fluffaluff]

Normal

[joenali]

Normal and not an overreaction from the teacher. It is inappropriate, you don't bump someone else's butt at school. So, you teach kids not to. There's a really good book called Personal Space Camp, that is about personal space. It's really cute and kids can bring up some good questions about personal space. Amazon has it.

[eddy]

May 3, 2013 7:51:23 GMT -5 puddleofgrace said:

I'm glad your daycare is working with him on making it a positive thing. I bet his costume was adorable.

We'll get through this..right? LOL

We always do. :-)

[idoinjuly]

Sounds normal to me. My dd is obsessed with boobs and bras and wants to have her own bra. I think they're just so curious at this age.

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May 3, 2013 7:33:13 GMT -5 puddleofgrace said:

N had a really bad day at school yesterday. Things were finally getting better the last few months but now her normal teacher is out for quite awhile and I am afraid of things backsliding.

I guess her and a friend of hers keep touching each other butts and "bumping booties".
Her teacher called in "inappropriate touching". Which made me feel terrible.

We had a very long talk last night, a few times, keeping hands to yourself and not touching people's bodies.

Normal?

I hate to say this, but I am so happy that you posted this.

Because its normal. And I know that because we just went through something similar. Except it was ds and another little boy. They were comparing their penises. Lol. And kids are always fascinated with butts.

I even called my pedi and talked to her about it. She assured me that this is just that age.

If you talked to her about it and told her that you don't do that and private parts are just for her/no one should touch her and she shouldn't touch anyone etc, etc you are good.

My pedi did stress to not make TOO big a deal of it, because that would backfire and drive even more curiosity. Our incident happened about 3 weeks ago and there has not been a repeat yet.

Parenting is hard. Boo.

[Deleted]

Definitely normal and I also think you handled it right.

[themysteriouswife]

My child showed her butt to classmates as a dare. Dropped pants bare naked butt. She was 5. I was mortified. I talked to the teacher and apologized a million times. The teacher reassured me, this isn't the first or last butt she would see in her career. She said she had to split kids up who were comparing their penis to one another. She has had kids who smack each other on the butts. I think it is a normal behavior. Unfortunately, we live in a taboo society. We as adults make innocence more than it is.

[sunshineray]

I just wanted to pop in and agree that this is totally normal and nothing to be concerned about. I would hope that the teacher was just being cautious, or maybe doesn't have a ton of experience with kids that age.

My DD is 8 now, but there were plenty of conversations when she was about 3-5 about what is appropriate touching and what's not. Since it's nothing sexual at that age, it's just an opportunity as parents to make sure they know where the boundaries are.

FWIW, I think you handled it just fine. :-)

[Deleted]

Um my sister and I used to do this naked in the tub.

Overreaction from daycare, but unfortunately probably justified, too (as in, some parents would get upset about this).

[lemon]

Awww, I think it's fine. Is it bad that all I can picture is that little squid kid in Finding Nemo saying "Look at me, I'm gonna touch the butt!" Has she been watching too much Nemo lately?