IT'S FRIDAY BITCHES!

[partiallysunny]

Plans?

[cuddlyevil]

Hell yeah!

My parents are coming into town tomorrow to spend some time with the birfday folks (DS #2 and I). They're in c-bus with my sister right now. I am looking forward to it.

Sunday is the flying pig marathon, the course is near our house so I may take a kid or two up to cheer people on. Our very own DonnyC will be running the full marathon this year so I have to get out there and cheer her on.

[partiallysunny]

I'm helping H's grandparents move tomorrow (yes, the grandpa who was in the hospital and H's grandmother. And, yes, he is still doing well. In an assisted living/ recovery type center for a few weeks. He is having some stomach issues - they aren't sure what it is yet - but other than that his recovery is going good).

Sunday is my niece's birthday party and tonight I'm going to finish her dress if it kills me. I'm going to show that zipper who's boss!

[dixienormous]

Tonight - cleaning up the apartment.

Tomorrow - meeting up in the city with some of H's friends. I'm only semi-looking forward to this. Mostly because PF has been sick all week and while she's feeling better I'm still bone tired and traipsing all over the place doesn't really appeal that much.

Sunday - a woman from our new synagogue will be stopping by with a "welcome" bag. I met her on the High Holidays. She has twins with SN and a "normal" child who is PF's age. I think she's bringing her toddler. I'm not sure how I feel about. I'm having a rough go right now being around kids PF's age and seeing the stark differences.

I'm hoping to be able to get some extra sleep in. It's been a very long week.

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We have a few friends who are in town - separately, which is funny. Hopefully we will get to see them both on separate occasions. I am also bringing my foster pup to his first adopt-a-thon tomorrow. I hope there will be some good potential suitors! They are also going to have four eight week old puppies. OMG DH will be lucky if I don't come home with one of those cuties.

[cuddlyevil]

{{{Dixie}}}

Would being around other kids her age help PF? Or would it frustrate her?

[partiallysunny]

May 3, 2013 8:10:22 GMT -5 dixienormous said:

Sunday - a woman from our new synagogue will be stopping by with a "welcome" bag. I met her on the High Holidays. She has twins with SN and a "normal" child who is PF's age. I think she's bringing her toddler. I'm not sure how I feel about. I'm having a rough go right now being around kids PF's age and seeing the stark differences.

Poor Dixie. I hope you get some sleep.

Would if help PF to be around "normal" children or is it frustrating? I think it would be nice for her the be around someone who is "normal" (I hate using that word in this context) but also has sibling with SN, IMHO. Wouldn't the child be more understanding of PF and her condition? Could it be a good thing for her or am I looking at this with rose colored glasses?

[dixienormous]

May 3, 2013 8:22:34 GMT -5 partiallysunny said:

Poor Dixie. I hope you get some sleep.

Would if help PF to be around "normal" children or is it frustrating? I think it would be nice for her the be around someone who is "normal" (I hate using that word in this context) but also has sibling with SN, IMHO. Wouldn't the child be more understanding of PF and her condition? Could it be a good thing for her or am I looking at this with rose colored glasses?

She was was a regular daycare (until they fired us because they were unable to accommodate PF) until last October. It semi-helped but not really. She liked to sit and watch the other kids do stuff. I think PF having a sibling would help her a lot but it's not in the cards right now.

It's more my issue than PF's. It's really hard seeing kids who are the same age and what they're doing. She's still VERY much a baby and most 2.5 year olds are turning into little people who can express themselves and can get themselves to things they want. PF loves being around people. She doesn't understand differences yet (hopefully she'll understand that she is different but at that point no one will care or treat her differently - those are my rose colored glasses).

[partiallysunny]

May 3, 2013 8:30:42 GMT -5 dixienormous said:

May 3, 2013 8:22:34 GMT -5 partiallysunny said:

Poor Dixie. I hope you get some sleep.

Would if help PF to be around "normal" children or is it frustrating? I think it would be nice for her the be around someone who is "normal" (I hate using that word in this context) but also has sibling with SN, IMHO. Wouldn't the child be more understanding of PF and her condition? Could it be a good thing for her or am I looking at this with rose colored glasses?

She was was a regular daycare (until they fired us because they were unable to accommodate PF) until last October. It semi-helped but not really. She liked to sit and watch the other kids do stuff. I think PF having a sibling would help her a lot but it's not in the cards right now.

It's more my issue than PF's. It's really hard seeing kids who are the same age and what they're doing. She's still VERY much a baby and most 2.5 year olds are turning into little people who can express themselves and can get themselves to things they want. PF loves being around people. She doesn't understand differences yet (hopefully she'll understand that she is different but at that point no one will care or treat her differently - those are my rose colored glasses).

Family and friends who love her won't care or treat her differently. That's all that matters. You are a strong woman, so I just know PF will be surround by love.

I can see why it would be hard for you to be around 2.5 year olds. ::hug::

[Muddled]

It *has* been a long week.

It's Brad's birthday weekend, so we have dinner ressies tomorrow and beyond that, we're doing whatever he wants to do. I think that means we'll have a very laid back weekend.

[gault]

Today, a job interview. I think this one would be the best immediate fit for me and would allow the most room for professional development. Squee!

Also have a date tonight. He's an engineer who seems to be in his head a lot so we'll see how the conversation goes. Lol

Tomorrow, date with dude 2, who seems to be fucking fantastic. Again, we'll see. Then a bday party for a friend

Sunday, prepping for the baby shower next week and going to a banquet for my bro and sil's work.

Its the busiest social weekend I've had in years. Saaaad.

[partiallysunny]

May 3, 2013 9:23:24 GMT -5 gault said:

Also have a date tonight. He's an engineer who seems to be in his head a lot so we'll see how the conversation goes. Lol

Engineers are weird. Take it from me.

[Muddled]

Dixie, are you talking to someone about these feelings?

[dixienormous]

May 3, 2013 9:29:09 GMT -5 Muddled said:

Dixie, are you talking to someone about these feelings?

I see a therapist weekly. I need to find a GP to discuss meds.

[neonpink]

This weekend I have nothing really planned. It's supposed to rain all weekend. My family wanted to come up and visit but I don't know if that is going to happen.
I think H and I are going to start looking into a vacation. I need to get out of here for a bit.

[cuddlyevil]

Almost every engineer I have ever know seems to be in their head a lot. Fair warning Gault. The ones I knew in college used math to make garbage can margaritas. Math is fun.

[tiramisu]

Dixie, I'm sorry. Just know it's okay and kinda "normal" to grieve what could have been/the child you thought you'd have, and that it's not a process where you grieve once and it's over. Nor does that mean you don't love PF. ((dixie))

So far my only plan for the weekend is watching my mother and over of my friends run a half marathon on Sunday.

[Muddled]

May 3, 2013 9:29:42 GMT -5 dixienormous said:

May 3, 2013 9:29:09 GMT -5 Muddled said:

Dixie, are you talking to someone about these feelings?

I see a therapist weekly. I need to find a GP to discuss meds.

Good for you. I am feeling like this could sap a lot of your energy. You will never be able to completely avoid non SN kids, so, while understandable, I do hope this is something you can move past. Otherwise, you are dooming yourself to a life of sorrow. KWIM?

Have you tried any support groups for parents of SN kids?   It seems like you are in tune with the local community, so probably. I just want you to have all the outlets you need.


Adding in a big hug, because everyone needs a big hug from time to time.

[gault]

Ohhh yes, I'm aware. I worked with a lot of engineers.

[gault]

May 3, 2013 9:29:42 GMT -5 dixienormous said:

May 3, 2013 9:29:09 GMT -5 Muddled said:

Dixie, are you talking to someone about these feelings?

I see a therapist weekly. I need to find a GP to discuss meds.

Hugs to you. :-(

[margarita]

(((Dixie)))

[captainmel]

Hugs Dixie, I think your struggles are very real and valid. I also think you should look back over your posts from the last few weeks and look at all the positives you have shared with us. I have a tendency to feel upset and then I am only able to focus on negative things.

I think Boyfriend and I might go hiking on Saturday since it is supposed to be kind of nice outside. Other than that probably a lazy weekend.

[margarita]

This is H's family's Easter weekend, so we'll be pretty busy with that on Sunday.

For Saturday, I hope to spend lots of time outside, clean up some of our gardens and do some grilling. The weather is supposed to be great (finally!)

[dixienormous]

Thanks, all. I don't mean to be a Debbie Downer. It's definitely more prevalent this week with how little sleep I've gotten.

Actually, since this is a 3-paycheck-month, I'm going to get PF a Radio Flyer Walker Wagon (it's ridiculously expensive) to help with the whole learning to walk thing.

[captainmel]

I loved my Radio Flyer wagon! I would fill it full of blankets and pillows and put on a crown and make my dad pull me everywhere. It was my royal carriage.

[partiallysunny]

May 3, 2013 10:09:19 GMT -5 captainmel said:

I loved my Radio Flyer wagon! I would fill it full of blankets and pillows and put on a crown and make my dad pull me everywhere. It was my royal carriage.

Which has carried over into your adulthood

[captainmel]

May 3, 2013 10:23:29 GMT -5 partiallysunny said:

May 3, 2013 10:09:19 GMT -5 captainmel said:

I loved my Radio Flyer wagon! I would fill it full of blankets and pillows and put on a crown and make my dad pull me everywhere. It was my royal carriage.

Which has carried over into your adulthood

It totally has! I am a very consistent human.

[starrieskies]

I AM SOOO EXCITED FOR THIS WEEKEND!!! I just keeps getting better and better!!! Ok, now that I have that out of my system...

Monday is DS's birthday, so tomorrow morning we're meeting a bunch of his friends from school, and my friends' kids at a place called Jumping Jacks (basically a building with 4 HUGE bouncy houses, a snack bar, and $0.25 arcade games) for some fun. DS has no idea that we're doing this and I can't wait to see his face!!! Then we are going to a soccer game and home for a nap (I'm sure I'll need one by then too!). After that, it's dinner with both sets of grandparents at a Mexican Restaurant where I will get my 4th annual picture of DS wearing the birthday sombrero.

Sunday will be spent making DS's cake and enjoying the sun before bed, and that night while he's sleeping I'm going to fill his room with balloons for a special surprise when he wakes up in the morning.

Monday, I'm coming in to work a little late because of the balloon surprise (and because I want to). Then that evening we're having friends over for dinner and cake. The weather is supposed to be PERFECT, sunny and in the mid-to high 70's with a light breeze, so I might spring for a pinata. But that depends on how much time I have on Sunday to go get supplies.

[starrieskies]

Also dixienormous, I have no advice that is better than what you have already gotten from others, but if I was closer I'd give you a HUGE hug and a bouquet of chocolate flowers!

AND

gault, YAY for 2 dates this weekend!!! I hope you have an amazing time! I can't wait to hear how they went! (and sorry, I didn't mean to hijack the randoms thread yesterday, I really am super excited for you!!)