I've lived way from my mom for 32 years. I'm moving back to OR in a couple years, and part of me is a bit apprehensive about going home to live. There's been drama with my two sisters over the past few years (my little sister the most recent with her shennagins related to her gambling addiction). My mom gets all stressed about my sisters shit, and it's frustrating to me that she allows it to happen. She seems to think that now that she's in her "golden years" she should have absolutely no stress in her life. To me, "life" doesn't quite work that way. Bad things STILL happen--no matter your age. What should change as you get older is learning coping skills and how not to let family member's bad choices get under your skin.
I have a feeling that I'm going to have to deal with my mom's dramz, and I won't tip-toe around her by trying to placate her. I'm going to be upfront and honest, and I have a feeling she may not like that much. **sigh**
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Mom and I have had a really good relationship. She has never lectured me about my poor choices or interferred at all really. Honestly she doesn't get me involved in most of the dramz with my sisters, but there's a possibility she'll dump on me when I live close by.
I could just be future tripping, but my move will definitely change the dynamics with my entire family (close and extended). But I'm so jazzed about moving back to someplace warm I'm willing to put up with family BS. lol
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Haha, maybe if my parents lived in Florida or something...
I miss my extended family a lot, but I didn't realize how much better things would be if I didn't live with/next to my parents. Especially now that I have a child and I'm dealing with a lot of the things from my childhood.
Wait....this problem is couple years away? What were you saying about coping skills and not letting others' stuff affect your life? Quite a bit can change in that amount of time, so this comes across as a bit...over dramatic.
Ummm...I was thinking outloud--venting so to speak with my GBCN buddies. And I also admitted I was "future tripping". How, pray tell, is this being "overdramatic"?
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny