Apparently it's bad news Friday.

[malibu]

My H texted me about an hour ago. His coworker went with his mother out to California for his grandfather's funeral. Coworker just graduated high school last year. WHILE THEY ARE THERE for the grandfather's funeral, his MOTHER died suddenly of some kind of blood infection. So now this poor kid has to arrange his mother's funeral. While mourning the loss of his grandfather.

Five minutes later, I get a text from my mom to both my brother and me - my cousin was in a motorcycle accident yesterday, was hit by an SUV. The outlook is not good, he's got a pretty severe head injury.

Dude, WTF? Even worse about my cousin is that his middle daughter was ON A PLANE HOME from Europe after an 8 week trip for school. Of the three girls, the youngest being in high school, she is the one who is daddy's girl. So she lands back in Minnesota to find out her dad's on life support .

Sheesh. I don't know H's coworker, but I just feel so sad for him. I actually met his mom, she works in the same building as me and helped me a few times when I went into their store. She was maybe late 30s/early 40s? He has no other family here, so if he comes back, he's kind of on his own.

[neonpink]

Wow that is all very sad and horrible. I am sorry for everyone involved.

[captainmel]

Thoughts for all these people. That is all so sad.

[starrieskies]

Malibu, that's terrible!! What an awful day!

[motzie]

I'm sorry Malibu. Bad news always seems to come in bunches like this. May I suggest wine?

[malibu]

I wish! I am home with DD tonight and I am already tired, so I'd best not.

Would it be weird to send a sympathy card along with H to work for his coworker? I just feel so bad for that kid. I just cannot imagine the trauma he's going through. I wish there were something I could do for him without looking like some weirdo that's never met him.

[starrieskies]

I think a sympathy card would be very nice. Although I think I would try to mail it to him rather than having your H take it to him at work. Granted, I'm a girl and thus more emotional, but if I was back at work after going through all that a card would induce an epic meltdown and lots of ugly crying.

[starrieskies]

Ok, now that I've thought about it a little bit more... You specifically sending a card to your H's coworker at home is creepier...

Can you send the card with your H and ask him to have as many people who work with this coworker sign it? Then maybe someone in HR can mail it to him. That way it's less creepy, still from you, but the coworker feels extra loved.

[malibu]

I should clarify-the card would be from our family, lol, not just me. But I like the idea of having him take it for his CWs to sign as well. His workplace does kind of go all out for their employees' life events (you should have seen the flowers we got when DD was born!), so I would assume they will likely be doing something for his mother's funeral. Oddly enough, she worked for the same company, just a different store.

[tiramisu]

Holy shit malibu, I'm so sorry. That's a lot to deal with in a month, or even a year, let alone in one day. ((hugs)) to you and good vibes to those around you.

I don't think it would be weird for you to send a sympathy card with YH to his work, even if other coworkers don't sign it. You both have connection to the family, so to me it seems appropriate.

[partiallysunny]

That's so sad, Malibu I'll keep those families in my thoughts.

I think sending a card from the family is perfect.

[gault]

:-( Oh, man. I'm so sorry.

[cuddlyevil]

I'm so sorry Malibu. {{HUG}}