DH issues

[nursewife]

I'm getting so fed up with him. He is constantly leaving messes behind without cleaning them up. If I leave it for him, it won't get done. Seriously, he left his lunch pail on the vehicle for weeks. It's disgusting. He refuses to use manners when he burps, which is a lot. I'm so sick of his complete disregard of our home. I don't know if we need to try therapy again or what. I don't think my expectations are that high. It's not that hard to put garbage I. The garbage can. Vent over.

[nursewife]

He's always been messy, but this is just rediculous. Maybe I'm just taking it worse since I'm depressed. I'm just furious since I perceive it as a lack of respect.

[snickers]

If it were me, I would honestly just start throwing shit out. You leave your lunch box in the car for too long? Then I guess you don't need it and it's garbage. This would probably not solve my problem, and I do not recommend it, but my first instinct would be to be childish like that. Once his shit started to go missing, he might get the point. But in all seriousness, his disregard for you and your home is not okay, and maybe therapy might be beneficial. Good luck, this would drive me insane.

[hopecounts]

Are you seeing anyone for the depression?
If so could y'all do a joint session and have the therapist help talk this out?
If not could you start?
Have you explicitly and verbatim told him that when he does these things you feel disrespected?
This would drive me crazy too and I'm far from a neat freak