Post by formerlysome1else on Jun 9, 2012 18:22:25 GMT -5
Hi my name is Formerly. I'm not new to TN but this is a new screen name. I'm not quite ready to come out under my normal name yet.
H and I decided to separate last week after about a year of trying to work things out. He made some HUGE mistakes as did I, we tried compromising but that made things worse. And unfortunately, its not working.
I'm happy to be able to move on but i'm just sad that the love of my life ended up being someone that i barely know.
We have a child and a house that we're probably going to end up short sale-ing because its worth a lot less than we bought if for and two dogs.
My family doesn't know yet and i'm waiting until the last possible minute to tell them for fear of being judged and pitied. I HATE being pitied. They're all happy and married with multiple kids and homes and its just depressing to even think about it.
Post by compassrose on Jun 9, 2012 19:54:32 GMT -5
I'm so sorry to hear that. If you can just keep breathing and getting out of bed in the morning, it does get better over time. This is a good group of (mostly) women, and you will find support here too if you need it.
Post by phoenixrising on Jun 10, 2012 20:00:33 GMT -5
Hugs to you. My H and I just formally separated on Friday, and I am currently lying on an air mattress on the floor of my new apartment! I also wanted to leave my marriage (after finding out my H had an affair), but I feel such a sense of loss and sadness that the life I thought was going to happen for me is not. I also waited to tell my family until pretty late in the game, and I was lucky to have a support system elsewhere. However, my family took it well...although they still are not my main support system. I have found that finding a good therapist has been key for in this process, and I would recommend you find someone to talk to because you are going to find yourself dealing with a lot of emotions, and having someone like that in your corner can be a huge help! And stick around here...everyone is so great!
Post by usedtobebear on Jun 11, 2012 10:03:32 GMT -5
I'm sorry to hear your story, I'm new here as well and I completely understand how you hate feeling pitied, I hate it too. Prior to this I was dealing with infertlity and always feeling pitied and now that Dh and I are splitting up, it makes it even worse. I'm sorry you are nervous to tell your family, hope you stick around and you can have a semi-smooth divorce... it sucks!