Do Jewish people have baby showers now? Is this the norm?

[ralphlauren]

I am Jewish and I have never heard of baby showers for Jewish people.

Recently I have seen several Jewish people on FB post baby shower pictures

[alzi]

Traditionally know. But I had one. I don't follow much tradition though

[ralphlauren]

May 5, 2013 16:33:39 GMT -5 Lucy Honeychurch said:

I'd never heard of this; I though traditionally it was considered bad luck?

You are correct.  We are superstitious and do not receive gifts until the baby is born. So technically no shower and really they saw the furniture should not be delivered until the baby is home



 

[alzi]

May 5, 2013 16:36:59 GMT -5 alzi said:

Traditionally know. But I had one. I don't follow much tradition though

no, not know. Stupid no editing.

[speckledfrog]

They could be married to non-Jews and combining traditions.

[ralphlauren]

May 5, 2013 16:50:17 GMT -5 speckledfrog said:

They could be married to non-Jews and combining traditions.

No.  That is why I am confused.

They are both Jewish

[Deleted]

We threw a shower for our Jewish friend back in 2008.

WHOOPS.

[karmasabiotch]

The only item I let in my house was a crib and that's because it took 4 months from the time I ordered it. Then I covered it and closed the door of the room. I'm not even religious but I wasn't going to take any chances.

[alzi]

i know it is tradition...but i can't imagine coming home from the hospital with nothing ready for baby. the one thing that made me feel ready was knowing she had a place set up ready to sleep, clothes washed in her closet etc.

[Jalapeñomel]

We through a baby shower for our Jewish friends 5 years ago.

[Jalapeñomel]

May 5, 2013 17:21:03 GMT -5 alzi said:

i know it is tradition...but i can't imagine coming home from the hospital with nothing ready for baby. the one thing that made me feel ready was knowing she had a place set up ready to sleep, clothes washed in her closet etc.

But you can have stuff ready without a baby shower.  Right?  Right??  Because I will probably not have one.

[ralphlauren]

May 5, 2013 17:18:03 GMT -5 neener said:

I've been to a few.

The grandma-to-be kept the gifts at her house for one, the others just didn't assemble or set up the gifts til the baby was born.

It's all superstition and tradition based on that; there's no law prohibiting it. I'm not sure what I'll do when the time comes. I don't put a lot of stock in superstition, but I am fairly traditional, so I'm torn.

See because of this I am totally jaded.  I do not know If I want kids but I am superstitious so I do not think I will have a shower or have stuff in the house.  

[alzi]

May 5, 2013 17:22:20 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

May 5, 2013 17:21:03 GMT -5 alzi said:

i know it is tradition...but i can't imagine coming home from the hospital with nothing ready for baby. the one thing that made me feel ready was knowing she had a place set up ready to sleep, clothes washed in her closet etc.

But you can have stuff ready without a baby shower.  Right?  Right??  Because I will probably not have one.

of course you can - i meant that technically jewish women do not have furniture in the house/prepare for baby because of superstition.

[karmasabiotch]

I'm all about superstition.

[Jalapeñomel]

May 5, 2013 17:27:22 GMT -5 alzi said:

May 5, 2013 17:22:20 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

But you can have stuff ready without a baby shower.  Right?  Right??  Because I will probably not have one.

of course you can - i meant that technically jewish women do not have furniture in the house/prepare for baby because of superstition.

I didn't realize that traditionally Jewish families don't purchase anything, I just thought that they didn't celebrate the pregnancy/baby before the birth.  I've learned something today, LOL.

[emsumm]

I had a shower and we're pretty observant. It's just superstition, not halacha.

[newtothis]

I think people are starting to care less about tradition... especially because they want things planned out and ready. I've seen the whole gamete. Some still don't have showers before baby is born and don't buy anything baby related. Some buy baby stuff but don't bring it in their house (store it at a family members house or leave it in the garage). Some say F it and do a big baby shower.

For the friends that didn't buy anything or have a shower they still got TONS of stuff. Once the baby was born family would go to their house and set up the crib and other necessities. I've always waited for the birth announcement then bought whatever gift I was giving and dropped it off at their house (so it was there when they got home from the hospital). They got TONS of stuff. It wasn't like they came home to nothing. Though I'm sure getting things set up and organized was a bitch with a newborn. Plus, some of the stuff you need is awkward (like tucks, pads, nipple cream, etc).

[wannabe]

My Jewish stepsister had a shower thrown for her by her mother. I had no idea this wasn't normal.

[emsumm]

Seriously, there was no way I was coming home with tiny newborn twins and nothing set up or ready. No.

[lilafowler]

May 5, 2013 16:37:19 GMT -5 ralphlauren said:

May 5, 2013 16:33:39 GMT -5 Lucy Honeychurch said:

I'd never heard of this; I though traditionally it was considered bad luck?

You are correct.  We are superstitious and do not receive gifts until the baby is born. So technically no shower and really they saw the furniture should not be delivered until the baby is home



 

This is what my friend always told me-but she had no problem participating in the showers of her non-Jewish friends (me).  She REALLY didn't like the idea of picking a name out before the baby was born though-it freaked her out.  I mean-she didn't care that people would bandy names about-but to actually call the baby by the name before it was born, get things personalized with baby's name, etc.  

[nadasteph]

May 5, 2013 19:37:06 GMT -5 emsumm said:

Seriously, there was no way I was coming home with tiny newborn twins and nothing set up or ready. No.

 just considering this is giving me heart palpitations.

[emsumm]

Yeah, and also, I slowly acquired things with coupons and twin discounts and stuff. I needed to take my time shopping.