Do you share mothers day?

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*Poof*

[papie]

We do a quick visit with MIL, either brunch or tea.  My family owns a restaurant so they are all working on Mother's Day, so I just send my mom something. 

[my4girls]

I don't go to my ILs on MD ever- DH usually takes the kids over there for a few hours so it's a win-win. She gets to see him and the kids and I get peace for a bit. We do dinner with my mom/ family (on FD we do the opposite- I see my dad in the am then we do dinner with DHs fam)

this year however I am switching it up and we're doing brunch at our house for both moms and grandmothers. then the rest of the day is MINE!

[definitelyO]

this year we are going to brunch with just me, DH and DS and then having MIL over for dinner. but in the past we all go to brunch together and it works out great. I like my MIL and have no problem spending Mother's Day with her. She's the one that raised the man I married

[Deleted]

We don't make a big deal out of Mother's or Father's Day, either with my parents (who are local, H's are OOT) or with ourselves. Typically my parents are busy with my grandmother (whom I have cut out of my life) because she does actually care about the holiday, but she is probably not going to live much longer. Perhaps when she passes away we'll do a brunch or whatever with my parents to celebrate both moms/both dads.

I was in New Jersey at a Phish concert last year for Father's Day so that shows you how important those holidays are between me and H. lol. We are not big holiday/gifty people at all though.

[scribellesam]

This is only my second Mother's Day as a mom but I'll be sharing it with my mom both times. Mostly coincidence, though, last year she was here for DS's birth and this year she's here for his birthday. I'm not sure what we're doing, I assume DH and my dad will make us brunch or something.

My mom never seemed to want more than breakfast and a card and maybe a small gift when we were growing up, so I don't have any big expectations. Mostly I'd like to sleep in but since we'll have house guests that probably won't happen.

[mrssandro]

I share mothers day. I don't consider it a all about me day. (like my Birthday)

[nonsenseabound]

well, I don't share it with my MIL but I make sure to send her flowers each year. DH calls her and kiddos talk to her.

This year we are going to see my grandma who is 95. My mom is concerned that grandma won't be with us for much longer so we are trying to spend a lot of time with her. DH was all good since it's mother's day and I get to decide where we spend it.

[jennistarr1]

not a mom yet...but I don't really want to ever celebrate it, too much of a guilt trip induced by hallmark...mothers day in complicated enough each year trying to coordinate with our sibliings, adding my own celebration doesn't seem worth the headache.

[ssmjlm]

Unfortunately we usually end up with MIL. My family is oot and my mom is too laid back to make a fuss.

This year though with a 2 week old we aren't doing anything and just enjoying life as a family.

[msmerymac]

I was born on Mother's Day, so it's always been all about me.

[mam]

This year we are doing brunch with my mom and a BBQ in the afternoon with MIL. So no "me" time but I am OK with that.

[moolarkey]

We usually went to see my mom either on Saturday or on Mother's Day, she lived an hour away. H had no desire to see his mom.. pretty much ever .. so we rarely saw them, they lived 2 hours away. I did send her a card and small gift each year, he was aware and didn't care as long as he didn't have to be around his parents. I just couldn't not, that was too much of a slap in the face, too disrespectful and I couldn't not send her something.

[electricmayhem]

We are 1200 miles away from our moms, but if we lived closer I'd imagine that I'd try to do an early brunch with both so that I could do something I wanted (like relax!) the rest of the day.

My MIL is one of the least demanding people I know, and I don't think it bothers her in the slightest that her children (none of whom live in the same state) don't do more than call or send cards.

My mother is a different story. Since I'm not local, my sister (who has 2 children of her own) gets stuck holding the bag on Mother's Day, and she gets really aggravated that my mom always wants some big production. What's even more ridiculous is that my mom's mother is alive too, yet my mom wouldn't dream of doing anything for my grandmother like she expects out of my sister. She always says, "it's MY day too!", yet my sister is NEVER allowed to get away with that logic.

[pinkdutchtulips]

my mom and i would jointly share it but now that she's in WA state ... it'll just be me. h's mother passed away about 20+ years ago.

[Deleted]

unless you have a contentious relationship with your mom or MIL, I don't see anything wrong with "sharing" the day with one or both of them.

[Willis Jackson]

Our families aren't local so it's all about MEEEEEEE!*

I plan to spend the day in bed with ice cream and magazines.





*I will call my mom at some point.

[ijack]

Of course, she's my mom too (and my kid loves her more than me).

[dragonfly08]

We live three hours from my mom and four hours from my MIL, so we don't see either on Mother's Day. We do call each of them, and sometimes I'll have the kids draw them a card earlier that week so I can mail it out in time.

Of course, DH isn't into holidays, birthdays, etc. so it's not all about me, either. I get a card because he knows I want one, not because he wants to give me one, and if he can manage to keep the kids entertained I get to sleep late but that's about it.

[sometimesrunner]

I'll probably take my mom out to lunch either the Friday before or the Monday after. H will probably call his mom. We see his parents all.the.time so one day away from them is the best gift he can give me. (I do like them, it just gets to be a bit much sometimes)

[Deleted]

Yes I share it with my mom. We are having my parents over for a BBQ on Sunday. But I don't think Mothers Day is a big deal.

[glynn]

Always share.

[JayhawkGirl]

I prefer not to share now that I have the little kiddo. Our moms had sole custody of the holiday for 34 years.

I spend every other holiday traipsing all over Eastern KS to see everyone on the actual holiday. I prefer to spend Friday evening/ sometime Saturday with each of our moms then enjoy a day just us.

I'm one for three on this plan.

And we see our parents almost weekly and often twice a week. It's not like they never see us.

Eta: we grew up out of state until I was 14. My best holiday memories are of when it was just my immediate family. I'd like some semblance of that for my kids.

[pugz]

we spend Saturday with our families for MD/FD and Sunday as just our family of 3

[mollybrown]

We always celebrate together with H's family.

[frlcb]

Do people really celebrate Mother's Day so much that you wouldn't want to 'share it'? Mother's day is about mothers, which means your mom should be celebrated as much as you. I don't get this. We will go to lunch with my parents. We went to lunch with my MIL in March in the UK on Mothering Sunday, which is earlier there than here.

[cjeanette]

Since everyone is local we spend time with both mothers. The morning is usually for us to have brunch then do stuff with the families. The whole day isn't about me. Our moms didn't stop being mothers when I became one.

[liveintheville]

My mom is usually here on Mothers Day due to Kid 2's birthday falling around the same time. So we share it. I do not have a MIL.

[sporky]

Mothers'/Fathers' Day have always been shared days in our family. It is a holiday to with families and all.

[vegas]

We share with my mom (MIL and FIL don't live here). We all do brunch. This year we're also having a bbq at night for a friend (and fellow mommy) who happens to be in town.

My birthday is always right around Mother's Day, so I get enough focus on me around that time!