"Live today like he deploys tomorrow" blows.

[NomadicMama]

I swear, the woman who puts that phrase on her jewelry is crazy. I get the gist, but damn, these last few days SUCK. I can help but think, "This is the last ________ for a year.". DH just took LO on one of their typical weekend "adventures"--but it's far from "typical", next weekend, Dasdy won't be here to take LO out for fun, allowing me a few hours to myself. I can deal with DH being gone, I'm a grown-up. But my heart breaks for our son.

Tell me, please--how do you get through these last days without losing your shit every hour? I swear, by the time he leaves, my eyes are going to be so puffy and perpetually red.

Thanks ladies. I thought seeing DH off on a deployment while 30 weeks pregnant was rough. Doing so with a toddler is so much harder for me. . .

[sookie]

I'm fairly good until 48 hours before he leaves. From that point on I'm tearing up and having to walk away for a bit. It sucks, but once we get to the final stage I start getting antsy and have mini-tearfests.

Try not to be hard on yourself about it. It's a hard thing to go through and he gets that and is being strong for you - the best you can do is be as strong as you can for him. If that means you walk away and cry for 10 minutes and then come back, so be it. It's cliche, but just try to enjoy the last bit of it that you have until he's away and then start creating some fun memories with just you and LO.

((HUGS))

[poppet]

We just went through this 2wks ago. It blows. I feel the same way in that I miss my husband but we are strong and I understand what is going on...my heart breaks for DD though who doesn't understand why daddy doesn't come home for dinner.

I tried not to cry in front of DH and make it harder for him so I would sneak out of our room in the middle of the night and have my cryfest alone in the living room. As much as I hated that final goodbye at the airport I felt such a weight off my shoulders because it was finally freaking here.

Good luck! Thoughts going your way! (And yes that saying is the stupidest thing I've ever heard. I would be committed if I lived my life like that!)

[brandienee]

You can join me in the cry fest. Neither of us could hold it together this morning at the airport. He isn't "gone" yet, but he won't be back home until the deployment is done. I need to do some laundry and clean my Big Girl Panties. *sigh*

[NomadicMama]

Thanks ladies. It does suck. And then we get over it.

Brandienee, I need to do laundry, too. All my BGP seem to be missing.

Stan, you are right about the first 36 hours. This is why I have LO scheduled to go to hourly child care both of those days. I can cry, in bed, eating ice cream and cookies (and not have to share) and LO will come home tired, after a full day of fun!

I don't want him to go. But I am ready to get this show on the road.

Thanks again!

[pennylane]

({) Hugs.

I know its rough. But, you will do just fine.

I definitely was having a rough time the last week, but we kept really busy and that helps. If you have to sneak away and cry every so often, go ahead.

[amaristella]

I've got this new thing where I totally and completely ignore the fact that he's leaving that way I don't notice until he doesn't come home that night and his car is in the driveway but he's not here. So far I like it much better.

[NomadicMama]

I am feeling better now, after my morning of crying and feeling sorry for myself. The sunglasses are to mask my swollen eyes.

DH wanted Taco Bell for dinner. Grant did not. To appease the toddler, we got Taco Bell to go, and took it to the plenum (LO's version of the word playground) by post lodging (the play structure is perfect for toddlers!). While there I met a woman who had just arrived. Turns out her DH is deploying, too. In 30 days. They've been here three days. Their car caught fire during transport to the port, so they have to buy a new car. On their flight here, something happened half way through the flight, and they turned the plane around. Oh, and they have an 18 month old little girl.

I gave her my contact info. I will help her find her way around and get settled. Talking to her made me feel better about my/our sitation and helping her will help me keep busy.

I ordered LO two EOD shirts. Once they arrive, I'm going to take pictures of LO in them, then use the pictures to order a "daddy doll" of LO to send to DH. I am excited.

Well, thanks for the support. I hate this part of a deployment. Gah!

[honeybadger]

({)

[iluvmytxrgr]

I'm not gonna lie, there are going to be days when that baby boy just breaks your heart because he misses his daddy and you don't know how you are going to get through it, but you do. Put your head into the wind and keep trudging.
Record as much of the year as possible. Take a ton of pictures. Keep busy. I'm sure you know all this. If you need anything, you know where to find me. I'm around.

[Jam]

Jun 10, 2012 4:39:50 GMT -5 sookie said:

I'm fairly good until 48 hours before he leaves. From that point on I'm tearing up and having to walk away for a bit. It sucks, but once we get to the final stage I start getting antsy and have mini-tearfests.

This is me. I was completely fine and then the last couple of days I was crying over the smallest of things.

You'll be surprised at how much easier it'll be just a few days after he's settled in. Thinking of you guys!