No. It would be kind of hypocritical for that to bother me. I'm a 3 on the Kinsey scale. The fact that I'm attracted to men and women has no effect on my marriage. I would not cheat on my husband with anyone, male or female.
Honestly, no, I don't think I could easily move forward with that kind of relationship. I don't care what other people do in their relationships/bedrooms, but I would probably always wonder if he was settling for me/not being completely fulfilled, sexually. Not in a "zomg, I think he's going to cheat because he can't help himself" way, but more in a "I don't want him to be unhappy and settle for me if he knows he is definitely attracted to men too." I know that makes zero sense logically, because sexuality isn't tied to monogamy, and that "straight" men and women cheat with the same and opposite sex, so nothing is ever a guarantee. I just don't know if I, personally, could ever be confident enough that I'm fulfilling for him. But if it works for some people, more power to them.
No. It would be kind of hypocritical for that to bother me. I'm a 3 on the Kinsey scale. The fact that I'm attracted to men and women has no effect on my marriage. I would not cheat on my husband with anyone, male or female.
Exactly. I was with a woman before I was with my husband. He doesn't care just like I wouldn't care if he had been with a man. Being bisexual doesn't make it more likely you'll cheat. Love is love and I wouldn't cheat on H because I love him, not because he has the right parts.
No, it wouldn't bother me if someone was out and open about bisexuality - and therefore had a healthy relationship with a man, and now is in a good place to have a relationship with me.
It would bother me if the man was closeted and not at all comfortable with his bisexuality and felt shame about his relationship with a man.
The first, I'd consider healthy and worth pursuing. The second I wouldn't want to pursue, at all.
No undercurrent of "ew" here. It's just not a dynamic of a relationship I'm willing to deal with. There are many things I am not willing to deal with in relationships. Bisexuality ("Not that there's anything wrong with that!" ) is just one small thing on a long list.
Post by W.T.Faulkner on May 14, 2013 8:36:22 GMT -5
I have a friend who is bisexual, and hasn't told his serious, live-in girlfriend of over a year that he's slept with (plenty of) men in the past.
This might be why. I'm not excusing his blatant lying, but clearly, even people who are considerably liberal and free-thinking are pausing at this. I'm surprised!
As a bisexual there is another element to you and what you want in a sexual relationship. That's something to take into consideration as the s/o of a bisexual person. But this rings true for everyone. Are your needs and interests going to be met by the other person - who knows? If you're both attracted to each other, you try it and find out.
Almost all of these excuses apply to straight men and women too, so I'm wondering if there's an undercurrent of "ew, gross, he slept with a dude" going on here.
i fully admit that the thought of a man with another man is not sexually stimulating to me at all.
i have no problem with homosexuality, but i'm not turned on by it.
Almost all of these excuses apply to straight men and women too, so I'm wondering if there's an undercurrent of "ew, gross, he slept with a dude" going on here.
i fully admit that the thought of a man with another man is not sexually stimulating to me at all.
i have no problem with homosexuality, but i'm not turned on by it.
For me it isn't an "ew, he's slept with men" thing. Or "if he's ever been attracted to anyone else, he'll cheat" thing.
I've known multiple men who were primarily attracted to other men but who married women to make their lives "easier." (One told me that while he's not bi - only attracted to 18 year old men and had never dated a woman - he would marry a woman one day because he wanted kids. That was what his father had done. Low and behold he did.). At the end of the day, those marriages might last but they don't seem very fulfilling to me. It affects the spouse. It affects the kids.
I wouldn't set out to have a long term relationship with anyone I feared was "settling." This is only one example.