Some shoe ideas for you - I have size 9-9.5 feet too (went up to 10 when I was pregnant!) and Seychelles look really cute on me and don't make my feet look as ginormous. They're pretty comfortable and I love how retro they look + I think they would look good w/ that dress!
I love zappos bc you can search by brand, then size and color. If these are too mellow in terms of color you can always wear a gold or silver shoe. They have really cute flats too. GL!
4. There are some really cute J crew/kate spade inspired statement necklaces on etsy like this one (lots of different colors, styles, etc.) www.etsy.com/shop/Payless4fab?ref=seller_info
Please tell me the wedding is in the evening or the mountains. Outdoors in NC in August sounds brutal.
I'm thinking it's going to be brutal. At least the ceremony is in the late afternoon in a church and the reception (the outdoor part) will be early evening.
I love both dresses! I'd probably skip a necklace and do chandelier earrings. Or if you do a necklace, a very short simple one. The dress has a lot of detail with the lace and neckline, I wouldn't want to compete with that.
I would wear big earrings, a simple necklace and flat shoes. I wear flat shoes though because my DH is 1'' taller than me and doesn't want me to wear heels.