My UO apparently is that I am not completely terrified of having twins and I don't think my life is over. I'm constantly getting the most negative remarks, like people must think I'm so upset about what my soon to be life will be like, and it gets really annoying. I feel like I'm supposed to act like its something shitty rather than something amazing and exciting.
I do have fears and I know things will be hard but I'm really not freaking out. Elias is not an easy baby and still wakes up in the MOTN and I'm still not super worried. I won't get any sleep, that's fine. My dh will help me. We will figure it out! I don't get help from my family, my mom maybe once a month for a couple hours and that's it. I'm planning on putting up a shit ton of baby gates and having to hear a baby fuss at me while I run around tending to another one, and doing the best I can. And I think I'll be able to do it! So yes, that's my UO. Hah
That's so great. I'm a firm believer in positive thinking. You know some days are gonna suck, but of you can just keep thinking about all the days that don't, you will be fine! I can't imagine twins, let alone twins with a one year old, but I'm sure if that's what life handed me I could do it! Plus, you do have the probienation for emotional support.
My UO apparently is that I am not completely terrified of having twins and I don't think my life is over. I'm constantly getting the most negative remarks, like people must think I'm so upset about what my soon to be life will be like, and it gets really annoying. I feel like I'm supposed to act like its something shitty rather than something amazing and exciting.
I do have fears and I know things will be hard but I'm really not freaking out. Elias is not an easy baby and still wakes up in the MOTN and I'm still not super worried. I won't get any sleep, that's fine. My dh will help me. We will figure it out! I don't get help from my family, my mom maybe once a month for a couple hours and that's it. I'm planning on putting up a shit ton of baby gates and having to hear a baby fuss at me while I run around tending to another one, and doing the best I can. And I think I'll be able to do it! So yes, that's my UO. Hah
people are just morons. I always says "please don't let me have twins!" because I am scared of it. but if you are pregnant with twins, then it has happened and you just look at the positives right? i feel like this about most things in life. It annoys me when people say negative stuff about things that HAVE ALREADY HAPPENED.
I remember when my sister was pregnant and all these people told her to get an abortion, even though she would never get an abortion, kept going on about how HARD life would be as a single mom, her life was OVER etc. WTF? No it isn't. You deal with your situation and kids are wonderful.
Even just being pregnant with one child I remember being annoyed at the comments about how life would be ending, enjoy your sleep now! Enjoy your freedom! Well thank you very much but I enjoy my wonderful CHILD more than I enjoy freedom and sleep combined so there.
the breast cancer survival rate is something like 96% and 87$ for stage 1. I think she over reacted. She can afford the best medical teams in the world to monitor her. why not jsut wait to see if it turns into anything?
Because of her genetics, she had an 87 percent chance of getting cancer! Now she has a 5 percent chance.
I'd get the double mastectomy too. Especially now that I am a mom. Maybe before I wouldn't have, who knows. But now I'd do anything to be around and be healthy for my kids for as long as possible.
Cancer treatment freakin SUCKS. I hope my kid(s) never have to see me go through that.
I would get it if I was her or just someone who had a lot of money. She got it and still ended up with nice boobs. It runs in my family but the women in mine don't end up with nice boobs...they end up with scars and them removed.
Cut my breasts off. I'd rather have a flat, scarred chest than go through half of what my mom did. I'd give up a limb too. Breast cancer sucks. It's hard on the entire family, not just the woman who has it.
And they're just breasts. Who the fuck cares? Is vanity more important than your health? Your life?
For the life of me, I just don't get what this has to do with the price of oranges in China.
I'm not sure why your niece being born in 97 means anything. This is coming from the person who has a nephew 4 years younger than me. My nephews and nieces range from 1985-2011. Yeah, I'm also a great aunt...at 30. NICE!
I tried to rent (yes, rent. shut it, young'uns.) fun American 80's movies to show my girlfriends in Ireland several times and could never, ever find these movies. You get a pass.
kdrake8 - you have Netflix homework. you won't regret it :-)
I can't quote from my lame iPad right now, but to dragonmommy and laurak, that's exactly how it is! What's the point in sitting here thinking about all the negatives. I cant do anything about my being pregnant with twins, (and wouldn't want to) so you just go along with the circumstances and do the best you can! I honestly think its just different when it actually does happen to you, because you have no choice but to find a way to cope with things! I used to be terrified of the idea, but when I actually found out I just felt cool and lucky. Lol
It's just like when people warned you of how shitty things would be when you had your baby. Although some of those things are true and you realize later that they were right, those people still suck balls.
I also saw the brat pack movies relatively soon after they came out (or at least once they hit TV/HBO). I am the youngest of 5 and there's a big gap between the oldest and I.
That said, we watched both Breakfast Club and Ferris Bueller's Day Off in junior high and high school when the teachers didn't want to do anything. They were also awesome teachers.
I also remember watching movies that weren't meant for little kids (like the Die Hard series) because my brothers wanted to see it in the theater.
Cut my breasts off. I'd rather have a flat, scarred chest than go through half of what my mom did. I'd give up a limb too. Breast cancer sucks. It's hard on the entire family, not just the woman who has it.
And they're just breasts. Who the fuck cares? Is vanity more important than your health? Your life?
I agree, but I've also spoken to women who have a hard time because they feel it wool make them less of a woman. They would do it if something happened, but were unwilling to do it for a 'maybe.' If I were in that situation out would definitely be a consideration for me, but I don't think its just vanity, but identity (iden-titty).
I agree, but I've also spoken to women who have a hard time because they feel it wool make them less of a woman. They would do it if something happened, but were unwilling to do it for a 'maybe.' If I were in that situation out would definitely be a consideration for me, but I don't think its just vanity, but identity (iden-titty).
I thought I would be devastated to lose my hair. I wasn't. I was much more happy to be alive. I think being faced with your own mortality puts things into a different perspective.
Of course! Life is so precious and cancer treatment is devastating, but I was just sharing some of the counter argument i've heard from some women who had the gene that AJ has. They were afraid of being less of a woman and I can understand that.
Cut my breasts off. I'd rather have a flat, scarred chest than go through half of what my mom did. I'd give up a limb too. Breast cancer sucks. It's hard on the entire family, not just the woman who has it.
And they're just breasts. Who the fuck cares? Is vanity more important than your health? Your life?
I agree, but I've also spoken to women who have a hard time because they feel it wool make them less of a woman. They would do it if something happened, but were unwilling to do it for a 'maybe.' If I were in that situation out would definitely be a consideration for me, but I don't think its just vanity, but identity (iden-titty).
For me, my boobs aren't what make me a woman. And how much are you going to feel like a woman when you're too sick to care for your family? Would you lose your boobs if it meant that you got to meet your grandkids?
(And Orris, this isn't directed at you. This is something I'm passionate about and have lost friends over, including one who insisted she'd hire somebody to have her baby for her because she didn't want to ruin her body)
Post by Regina Philange on May 16, 2013 9:43:54 GMT -5
First of all props to you @therealmc. I had no idea you went through that until recently. There was a grey's anatomy episode about this. The wife wanted it, and the husband didn't and she had the gene. I honestly don't know what i would do. A big factor weighs in on if insurance would cover it or not.
I agree, but I've also spoken to women who have a hard time because they feel it wool make them less of a woman. They would do it if something happened, but were unwilling to do it for a 'maybe.' If I were in that situation out would definitely be a consideration for me, but I don't think its just vanity, but identity (iden-titty).
For me, my boobs aren't what make me a woman. And how much are you going to feel like a woman when you're too sick to care for your family? Would you lose your boobs if it meant that you got to meet your grandkids?
(And Orris, this isn't directed at you. This is something I'm passionate about and have lost friends over, including one who insisted she'd hire somebody to have her baby for her because she didn't want to ruin her body)
There are some crazy people in this world. Though I don't like what 3 pregnancies did to my body, I wouldn't trade the experience for anything in the world.
I agree, but I've also spoken to women who have a hard time because they feel it wool make them less of a woman. They would do it if something happened, but were unwilling to do it for a 'maybe.' If I were in that situation out would definitely be a consideration for me, but I don't think its just vanity, but identity (iden-titty).
For me, my boobs aren't what make me a woman. And how much are you going to feel like a woman when you're too sick to care for your family? Would you lose your boobs if it meant that you got to meet your grandkids?
(And Orris, this isn't directed at you. This is something I'm passionate about and have lost friends over, including one who insisted she'd hire somebody to have her baby for her because she didn't want to ruin her body)
I'm also passionate about it and if it were me and I had the means to afford it (even without reconstruction) I'd do it. No kid should ever have to lose their mom until they are old and grey and even then a kid should not have to lose their mom.
the breast cancer survival rate is something like 96% and 87$ for stage 1. I think she over reacted. She can afford the best medical teams in the world to monitor her. why not jsut wait to see if it turns into anything?
Why not wait?? Because she didn't want to put her children through what she went through with her mother having cancer. I think that if I knew I had the gene and had an option to be proactive about it I would. What is so bad about preventing? Even the worlds best medical teams can't save everyone and I think it is extremely silly to say she should have just waited it out...
I agree, but I've also spoken to women who have a hard time because they feel it wool make them less of a woman. They would do it if something happened, but were unwilling to do it for a 'maybe.' If I were in that situation out would definitely be a consideration for me, but I don't think its just vanity, but identity (iden-titty).
For me, my boobs aren't what make me a woman. And how much are you going to feel like a woman when you're too sick to care for your family? Would you lose your boobs if it meant that you got to meet your grandkids?)
It's not only losing your boobs. You are going through a major surgery, with serious risks, for a maybe. If I knew I had cancer, yes cut them off. But 60% chance or whatever it might be, that makes it way more complicated. Most insurances won't cover it either.
My UO: St. Angie can do no wrong. This move has only added to my love of her. My mom was sick throughout my childhood, and I would take most any drastic measure to make sure that my kid(s) wouldn't have to grow up that way, especially not to lose a parent young.
On our honeymoon, we stayed in the town in Namibia where she had Shiloh. When locals heard that we were American, they all insisted on showing us the things they'd been given by Brangelina (kid clothes and small items) and gushing about how wonderful they were. They donated all of the medical equipment they'd brought to the local hospital and were still sending funding (this was 2008).
For me, my boobs aren't what make me a woman. And how much are you going to feel like a woman when you're too sick to care for your family? Would you lose your boobs if it meant that you got to meet your grandkids?)
It's not only losing your boobs. You are going through a major surgery, with serious risks, for a maybe. If I knew I had cancer, yes cut them off. But 60% chance or whatever it might be, that makes it way more complicated. Most insurances won't cover it either.
While technically, it's major surgery, it's really not in the grand scheme of things. I had a reduction nine years ago. It's almost an identical procedure - they just took less out. My nipples were cut off and thrown on a side table while they worked. They attempted to get all of the "plumbing" hooked back up so I could breastfeed. (It didn't work. Too much scar tissue) I was released from the hospital that afternoon and never took any of my pain meds. Getting implants is a more serious surgery because you're introducing a foreign object into the body, but a lot of women wouldn't think twice about getting that done.
On the other hand, my mom fought for seven years with countless chemo and radiation treatments. For that seven years, her bad days severely outnumbered her good. It would take her five days after chemo before she felt well enough to leave her bedroom.....and then she'd go back in for another round two days later.
I am a perfect storm brewing. My mom died. Her sister had it. My grandmother (dad's mom) died from it. And I have an uncle with it. Both sides of the family have severe cases, which puts up a million red flags for me. I've been tested and I have the gene. I also have heart disease that would complicate the fight later on. I'd rather take a few days of mild discomfort if it made my chances of going through that hell any less. Hell, even if it lessened the odds by 10%, I'd still cut them off. We just can't afford it at the moment and are fighting with insurance to try and get it covered. I'd say that before I am 40, I'll have a double mastectomy.
I hate fake nails and judge cheap weddings. Not nicely done ones, but ones that are thrown together with crap paper bells from Michael's and don't have booze. If I'm dropping a grand on travel, lodging, and gift, you'd better have a drink waiting for me.
I love 80s movies, especially St. Elmo's Fire because I saw it for the first time when I was a recent college grad who'd just moved to DC away from my friends and family, and it struck a chord.
S/o "team Jolie," "team Aniston," I think it's bullcrap that AJ took all the heat for the affair and home wrecking. They painted her as this husband stealer, yet Brad Pitt walks away unscathed? So many people trash AJ, but not him. He betrayed his wife and vows. He should get just as much if not more of the vitriol that she does.
Once again I am right there with you chels. Can't stand Pitt and fully blame him and thought how he handled it was hurtful.
I got one that people might not like. I think that if you work in a professional corporate office, you should wear make-up to work. I think it's unprofessional not to look put together. Also, even if your office does have casual days, I don't think you should ever wear a sports or logo t-shirt to work. It is not professional in my opinion.
Post by creamsiclechica on May 16, 2013 10:19:03 GMT -5
I'm just throwing this out there. Your body parts (although significant for many obvious reasons) do not define your gender, sexuality, or humanity. My mother just fought a brutal fight with labia and other gynocological cancer. She had to have parts of her labia removed, surrounding lymph nodes, and she was fried in the entire area below her belly button with numerous rounds of chemotherapy and graduation. If she didn't, it would gave spread maybe.
If you ask me, that makes her MORE of a woman than me.
I got one that people might not like. I think that if you work in a professional corporate office, you should wear make-up to work. I think it's unprofessional not to look put together. Also, even if your office does have casual days, I don't think you should ever wear a sports or logo t-shirt to work. It is not professional in my opinion.
I don't think make up can always make you look put together. I think hair/clothes being neat can truly do wonders for appearance. I know a few ladies in the corporate world who look polished but don't do make up. Honestly, i've seen more bad makeup in the work place and I'd rather see someone put together without makeup than hooker blue eyeshadow at work.
I'm just throwing this out there. Your body parts (although significant for many obvious reasons) do not define your gender, sexuality, or humanity. My mother just fought a brutal fight with labia and other gynocological cancer. She had to have parts of her labia removed, surrounding lymph nodes, and she was fried in the entire area below her belly button with numerous rounds of chemotherapy and graduation. If she didn't, it would gave spread maybe.
If you ask me, that makes her MORE of a woman than me.
I'm so sorry your mom had to go through this. I agree, it takes courage and makes her such a strong woman in my eyes.
I got one that people might not like. I think that if you work in a professional corporate office, you should wear make-up to work. I think it's unprofessional not to look put together. Also, even if your office does have casual days, I don't think you should ever wear a sports or logo t-shirt to work. It is not professional in my opinion.
I agree with the no logo shirts thing, but can't get behind the no makeup one. I never wear makeup, and don't think I look like a scrub every day (at least I hope I don't!). I'm an engineer so jeans are the norm and on casual days sometimes people wear shorts to my office (shudder...).