its about that time...i think

[chrissie3416]

So Ive been dating J since the end of March/beginning of April. We spend most of our free time together. I met his family, we've gone on trips, he recently met my family and friends, and I just accompanied him to a work function. We have not yet had the "are we bf/gf" conversation yet. People have referred to me as his gf in front of him and he doesnt bat an eye. He recently wrote me a sweet card for no reason saying how much he enjoys our time together, how hes glad we found each other, and how hes excited to see what the future holds for us.
So heres my question...is it too soon to have that conversation? I feel like our actions are all things couples do and leads me to believe we are a couple but I know enough to not assume. Should I bring it up and if so how should I do that? I suck at dating and this is something Ive never had to do before. My last bf came right out and called me his gf fairly early on and before that I was with my XH.
I feel like Im at the point where I kinda need to know although part of me is nervous to possibly ruin what seems to be such a good thing.
TIA for all the tips ladies (and gent)...I know it may sound immature or stupid but I really am unsure of how to proceed right now...

[starryfish]

Its been two months...yes you should definitely bring it up...I am guessing he assumes you are bf/gf but just never had the official talk.

My ex-bf was like that. We both knew we werent seeing anyone else but never had the official bf/gf talk until I finally mentioned it to him.

[missbetty1]

Have you guys had the "exclusive" talk? If so, then you are boyfriend and girlfriend. If you guys haven't had the "exclusive" talk, I would suggest bringing it up by telling him how you feel about him and that you don't want to see/date anyone else right now and you would like to focus your attention on only him..and then let him talk if he says the same then you're a couple...but if he tells you he still wants to see/date other people...well then you'll have to decide what you want to do...

[kc18]

I'm not one to come right out and say "so am I your GF now"? I'm more of a "look for an opportunity to make a joke out of it" kinda girl. So if I had a work function or a wedding or something coming up where I was allowed to bring a guest, I'd probably just casually bring it up and say, so, my friend invited me and "my boyfriend" to her wedding. So I figured I'd ask you

[chrissie3416]

ok so from the beginning we have said we arent dating other people and honestly I dont know when he would have time to as we spend most free time together and talk every night we cant be together...so I would assume we are a couple HOWEVER...right before we left for vacation (a weekend trip away with his whole family) he said something to me about us having to have a conversation about our status once we got back from our trip. Otherwise, I would think my assumption would be a safe one...

[missbetty1]

Oh great then have the conversation after the trip! I would never ASSUME I was someone's girlfriend, though

[chrissie3416]

lol we already took the trip...we went may 18-21...I gave it some time after we got back. But Im getting impatient lol...I dont want to invest any more of my feelings or time if we arent on the same page. Id be really sad if J wasnt in my life and I really enjoy being with him and all that but if we arent ont he same page then its time for me to move on I think.

[starryfish]

Jun 11, 2012 11:13:53 GMT -5 chrissie3416 said:

lol we already took the trip...we went may 18-21...I gave it some time after we got back. But Im getting impatient lol...I dont want to invest any more of my feelings or time if we arent on the same page. Id be really sad if J wasnt in my life and I really enjoy being with him and all that but if we arent ont he same page then its time for me to move on I think.

SLOW down...TALK to him...no need to jump to the conclusion that he is not that into you...just have a chat with him about it

[missbetty1]

Jun 11, 2012 11:21:36 GMT -5 starryfish said:

Jun 11, 2012 11:13:53 GMT -5 chrissie3416 said:

lol we already took the trip...we went may 18-21...I gave it some time after we got back. But Im getting impatient lol...I dont want to invest any more of my feelings or time if we arent on the same page. Id be really sad if J wasnt in my life and I really enjoy being with him and all that but if we arent ont he same page then its time for me to move on I think.

SLOW down...TALK to him...no need to jump to the conclusion that he is not that into you...just have a chat with him about it

:Y:

[dakotadangerdog]

What Starry said! Just talk to him!

[chrissie3416]

I know I need to talk to him and I definitely will. I got my heart broken in my last relationship and was completely blindsided with our break up so I think now so Im scared to get hurt again that I assume the worst. J is a great guy who i see potential with.