So this thing happens at our house, where MrJJ gives the baby a kiss on his way out every morning. Waking the baby up. But I can't really tell him not to do this, because that's awful. So I grin & bear it while trying to get Freddie back to sleep if I haven't rested enough.
Then this morning, our 21 year old neighbour, who apprenticed as a mason with one of our best friends and is going to repair some brick work on our house starts at 8:30. The dogs go bananas.
Freddie is able to sleep through this, but as soon as I drift away the dogs are trying to protect the house from all the noise.
GAH. I need sleep. Instead I'll probably just make some coffee.
No, dude, I tell H NOT to kiss G if I want to stay asleep. I say "just blow him a kiss." and he does. I don't want G waking up just from one tiny forehead kiss, and then H leaving, and me left to handle waking up early with the baby, when I didn't really have to!
Just this morning I had to leave for work before DS woke up. It doesn't happen often, but when it does - I hate it. I hate not getting at least 5 minutes to give him a snuggle, etc.
But. His sleep is more important than my need to see him. I know he wants to see me too - but, still. He needs his sleep.
So, really, my point is that while your DH wanting to kiss the baby goodbye is very sweet, at the same time, as it wakes the baby up every time - I think your DH needs to find a less obtrusive way to say goodbye.
ugh. I hate shit like that. Lack of sleep really affects me.
I hardly slept last night, my neighbor below is the biggest douche nozzle out there. I probably got 3 hrs sleep. So this morning, I decided to give him an early morning wake-up call, by stomping over his bedroom. I fucking hate that guy. Breathe, breathe.
So this thing happens at our house, where MrJJ gives the baby a kiss on his way out every morning. Waking the baby up. But I can't really tell him not to do this, because that's awful.
He can give the baby a kiss and hug goodbye the night before, and blow a kiss the morning of. There is no reason for everyone to have to wake up just because he is leaving.
No, you do not do things that will wake a sleeping baby. ever. This is not insensitive, it's just smart and I would let this be known to H if it were me.
I don't get why it'd be so sensitive to just ask him to not do it. It makes perfect sense, it's not like you're being mean.
Yes. Why are you worried about how he'll take it if you tell him not to? Don't wake a sleeping baby. Especially if you're going to wake it and then leave!
Yeah, I'd be a meanie and tell him not to kiss the baby either.
I was mean to H this morning when he came in to Hart's room and wanted to be all high energy and rough play with him - dude! We've been dealing with constant morning meltdowns, this is not a good idea! So, I told him to give Hart a little space and he walked out all dejected.
I guess I just have guilt that he doesn't see him all day? He gets home a couple lunch hours each week but works late most nights. He just wants some Freddie snuggles. I'll talk to him about it. I didn't realize I was entirely rational in my annoyance!! I'm glad you could all point that out.
That man would not be giving any goodbye kisses in my house, or I would quickly turn into a sleep deprived demon. I think it's sweet that you don't want to say anything, but I think you should say something for your own sanity.
I guess I just have guilt that he doesn't see him all day? He gets home a couple lunch hours each week but works late most nights. He just wants some Freddie snuggles. I'll talk to him about it. I didn't realize I was entirely rational in my annoyance!! I'm glad you could all point that out.
is he BF or getting some formula or breast milk in bottles? I would leave one of the night time feedings for him. All of that is bonding with the baby and he could get some quiet snuggle time alone, just the two of them. Plus, you get to sleep more