Well I haven't seen that one before.

[gozf]

Wait.

wait.

Wow. F cups? I am jealous of his rockin' tits.

[gault]

Fascinating!

[mcc]

Yeah. There's open and honest then overly gratuitous with intro emails.

[gozf]

May 17, 2013 15:20:25 GMT -5 FormerlyRR said:

Um, I'm not sure I'd be able to reply to that. Wow. Definitely TMI in an email, but it would also turn off an awful lot of people in his profile. Dude probably needs to suck it up and get a reduction.

But he's happy!  He's confident!  Because of those things, I'd hate for him to have surgery.  A person should only get elective surgery if it improves his or her quality of life, not to make others more comfortable.

I really don't know what I'd do in this situation.  I don't know if I'd be attracted to a guy with really large breasts.  But I'd feel bad for ruling him out solely because of his very large breasts.

oof.

[mcc]

Yeah. There's open and honest then overly gratuitous with intro emails.

[achase123]

Sometimes it seems like people who are "different" feel the need to blast things like that out there.  Almost like "hey, this is me, I DARE you to reject me because if you do I'm going to chalk it up to you being narrow minded/insensitive".  How about just trying to approach you in a relaxed way?

Still though, f cups?  wow.  I barely fill out a b cup these days.

[jojoandleo]

May 17, 2013 15:28:48 GMT -5 gozf said:

May 17, 2013 15:20:25 GMT -5 FormerlyRR said:

Um, I'm not sure I'd be able to reply to that. Wow. Definitely TMI in an email, but it would also turn off an awful lot of people in his profile. Dude probably needs to suck it up and get a reduction.

But he's happy!  He's confident!  Because of those things, I'd hate for him to have surgery.  A person should only get elective surgery if it improves his or her quality of life, not to make others more comfortable.

I really don't know what I'd do in this situation.  I don't know if I'd be attracted to a guy with really large breasts.  But I'd feel bad for ruling him out solely because of his very large breasts.

oof.

I can honestly say I am not secure enough to date a guy with bigger boobs than me. I 100% agree that he should only get surgery if HE wants to. If he is happy, I say rock it! But, it won't be for everyone. Just like my tiny boobs are not for everyone, or my height, etc.

Here, I think he went on the offensive with all the detail right off the bat. He could just be like "oh and I have this which gives me boobs, and I also like karaoke!" But, some people may not like that approach either. Man, dating is hard!

[gozf]

May 17, 2013 15:44:49 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

May 17, 2013 15:28:48 GMT -5 gozf said:

But he's happy!  He's confident!  Because of those things, I'd hate for him to have surgery.  A person should only get elective surgery if it improves his or her quality of life, not to make others more comfortable.

I really don't know what I'd do in this situation.  I don't know if I'd be attracted to a guy with really large breasts.  But I'd feel bad for ruling him out solely because of his very large breasts.

oof.

I can honestly say I am not secure enough to date a guy with bigger boobs than me. I 100% agree that he should only get surgery if HE wants to. If he is happy, I say rock it! But, it won't be for everyone. Just like my tiny boobs are not for everyone, or my height, etc.

Here, I think he went on the offensive with all the detail right off the bat. He could just be like "oh and I have this which gives me boobs, and I also like karaoke!" But, some people may not like that approach either. Man, dating is hard!

Yup.  I think he's damned if he does, damned if he doesn't.  In mentioning it right away, it comes off as aggressive and strange.  But I think that's probably preferable to him not mentioning it and then showing up with his F cups and taking someone by surprise.

I feel for the guy, I really do.

[GilliC]

If he's got F-cups, surely you can see that in his profile pics, right? If I was a man with big ol knockers, I think I would feel the need to explain up front. Otherwise people might look at his pictures and instantly next him. And if he's that set on not getting surgery, I guess maybe it's good to clear that up quickly? Though I think the soap boxing could at least wait for a second message.

I'd kind of want to out with him just to feel him up! I've never dated anyone with giant boobs!

[winecat]

Women get breast reductions for boobs smaller than an F cup, right? All I can think of is back pain, divits in his shoulders and expensive bras. I'd want a reduction just for these reasons.

[glitzyglow]

I feel bad for the guy. But yeah, that's a lot of info for a first email. He could have a blurb on his profile, but I can also understand not wanting to have it out there for all the world to see.

[spindle92]

Sorry but I am still stuck on the F cups.



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[MixedBerryJam]

I feel tremendously shallow, but I would rule him out based just on this. I feel ashamed that I feel this way, but I think I would likely not respond to him, or respond with some bland "I don't feel a connection but good luck to you" knowing full well he'd probably be able to guess exactly why I don't feel the connection.

I am wondering what I would do if he were my omg-perfect-match in every way except this. I can't help but think what I'd miss out on, but I still think I would not pursue it.

[Deleted]

Honestly, I'm sure it would be covered under insurance to get them removed... I personally wouldn't embrace F-cups. I was born with crooked teeth and wore braces for 3 years to look better and prevent future issues. I'm glad he feels comfortable but there's also no shame in removing those puppies. It would probably make his life way easier.

[gozf]

May 18, 2013 12:27:08 GMT -5 @lemonlover33 said:

Honestly, I'm sure it would be covered under insurance to get them removed... I personally wouldn't embrace F-cups. I was born with crooked teeth and wore braces for 3 years to look better and prevent future issues. I'm glad he feels comfortable but there's also no shame in removing those puppies. It would probably make his life way easier.

But he says he likes them. He's not ashamed, just because you would get surgery doesn't mean he should. Y'know?

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May 18, 2013 14:37:31 GMT -5 gozf said:

May 18, 2013 12:27:08 GMT -5 @lemonlover33 said:

Honestly, I'm sure it would be covered under insurance to get them removed... I personally wouldn't embrace F-cups. I was born with crooked teeth and wore braces for 3 years to look better and prevent future issues. I'm glad he feels comfortable but there's also no shame in removing those puppies. It would probably make his life way easier.

But he says he likes them. He's not ashamed, just because you would get surgery doesn't mean he should. Y'know?

I agree with you that he shouldn't get them removed if he doesn't want to but he also doesn't HAVE to embrace them just because they're on his body. Although, what guy wouldn't want constant access to boobies? 

[winecat]

May 18, 2013 14:37:31 GMT -5 gozf said:

May 18, 2013 12:27:08 GMT -5 @lemonlover33 said:

Honestly, I'm sure it would be covered under insurance to get them removed... I personally wouldn't embrace F-cups. I was born with crooked teeth and wore braces for 3 years to look better and prevent future issues. I'm glad he feels comfortable but there's also no shame in removing those puppies. It would probably make his life way easier.

But he says he likes them. He's not ashamed, just because you would get surgery doesn't mean he should. Y'know?

But how can F cups be comfortable?  Does he wear a bra?  The women I know with huge boobs like them yet don't like them usually because of the physical discomfort.  You'd think he'd have the same discomfort which is why I think he'd want them removed versus not accepting himself the way he was born.  Nobody would bat an eyelash at a woman getting F cups reduced.

[gozf]

May 18, 2013 14:49:19 GMT -5 winecat said:

May 18, 2013 14:37:31 GMT -5 gozf said:

But he says he likes them. He's not ashamed, just because you would get surgery doesn't mean he should. Y'know?

But how can F cups be comfortable?  Does he wear a bra?  The women I know with huge boobs like them yet don't like them usually because of the physical discomfort.  You'd think he'd have the same discomfort which is why I think he'd want them removed versus not accepting himself the way he was born.  Nobody would bat an eyelash at a woman getting F cups reduced.

It probably wouldn't be my choice, either.

I want to show this thread to my friend who teaches a course called "Other Bodies," where they examine deviations from physical norms (both natural and chosen ) and how people react to them .