Showed ILs the house tonight. *sigh* (long)

[DotAndBuzz]

I shouldn't have hoped for much.  I should have known exactly what to expect.  But for some reason, even after 14 years of the same stuff, I held out hope that *maybe* MIL wouldn't have a negative nit-picking reaction to the house.  Nope.

"it is awfully dirty in here, aren't you going to clean it before you move in?"  Um, yes. See how there's no carpet and you're walking on ply wood?  Note the ladders and drop cloths?  It is dirty and dusty because there have been workmen in here every fucking day for 2 weeks stripping wall paper, sanding, painting, and ripping out carpet.  It better be damn filthy, or they aren't doing their job. 

"Ugh, this place is big.  I would want something smaller.  You're going to be cleaning all the time.  We moved out of our last house to something smaller because I was just sick of all the cleaning."  LOFL.  Right.  You downsized a whopping 600 sq ft after your boys were done w/ college.  You still have a 4 bedroom McMansion in a big ass development with a finished basement.  For 2 people.  But go ahead and tell me how I should have a smaller house.

"UUUUUGHHH.  Look at these gardens.  You're going to be so busy dealing with those.  How are you going to keep up with them?  Look, there are weeds in them.  Didn't you say you were just over here weeding?  if you can't handle this now, how are you going to manage with both the girls home all summer?  I sure wouldn't want to deal with all that."   SHUT.UP.  I enjoy gardening.  I enjoy ripping shit out of the ground to work out aggression.  I can't wait to see how they fill in.  I can't keep up with it now because I DON'T FUCKING LIVE THERE YET.  When I live there I can do a little each day while the girls play. 

For the last one, H finally snapped and said "well Mom, its a good thing that you won't be the one handling them."  That shut her up.  This is our first house.  We are excited.  If it becomes a pain in my ass later (and I'm sure it will), I'll deal with that then, but for ONCE I was hoping she would maybe see a tiny sliver of positive in something so huge for us.  Thank God they're staying in a hotel tonight. 

[moolarkey]

My ILs were the same way. FIL was an architect and also an extremely critical, mean, negative person. He's said awful things to all 5 of this kids over their houses and it was all tiny nitpicky stuff. One example: BIL & SIL's newly built (and beautiful) house - YELLED at them because 2 of the spindles on their stair way were 1/4" closer together than the others. NO ONE noticed but he yelled at them - OMG - how could you let them do that, how could you close on this house with that...and ranted for almost 10 minutes over it. He was not a nice person.

[Deleted]

My mom is like that too. Not quite so overt, but it's so deflating, Screw your MIL, your house kicks ass!

[shoshanna]

Well its a good thing she won't be the one living there and having to clean the house and weed the garden! That sucks when people just can't shut their mouths and be happy for you. Congrats on your new house

[sailorgray]

My fil was on the phone with us the night before closing trying to get us to back out of buying our home. He had only seen the outside. Yea, it was annoying bc we were so excited (and nervous ). Def put a damper on things.

[eddy]

I get it.

[goaskalice]

Damn, that's a lot of negativity for one person to create, it must be exhausting for her! And way to go husband!! I'm glad he's able to stand up for you guys.

[snickers]

Ugh. Don't let her ruin this awesome thing for you! Some people have to rain on everyone's parade.

[gretchenindisguise]

Ugh.

she sounds exhausting to live with.

[thatgirl2478]

Your house sounds awesome! And good for you for getting all the construction/messy redecorating out of the way before you move in - it's SO much easier that way.

Sorry your IL's are such twats.

[tdk2]

ughhhhh

How long are they in town? hotel or your house??

Hang in there!

ahh, remember how you thought they'd say all kinds of shit when you were even looking at it? yeah. They're exhausting, aren't they?