Post by W.T.Faulkner on May 18, 2013 12:27:07 GMT -5
Do you guys do things, just the two of you? Would it be out of the ordinary for you to take her out somewhere and do something fun? She might not be able to stop thinking about it, even now, after a few months. Maybe then, it would be comfortable to have a conversation.
I'm kind of useless in that I have no real idea what to do for your sister or how to help, but I just want to give everybody in this story a huge hug.
Post by thinkofthesoldiers on May 18, 2013 12:27:15 GMT -5
I think just telling her that you are there to talk either at her house, your house, or are willing to go out for coffee/ice cream/dinner to hang out if she needs it is the way to go. Don't build this up into some big emotional support thing because she will feel weird coming to you.
She and I go out and do things all the time just the two of us. thinkofthesoldiers So say - Hey Sis, I know you're getting older and junior high/high school can be rough. If you ever need to talk, know that you can always come to me. Or is even that too weird?
Post by thinkofthesoldiers on May 18, 2013 12:32:30 GMT -5
I think that's fine. I mean, just make it natural if you already have a close relationship. "I heard about your friend. I'm really sorry, and I am thinking of her family and you. I just wanted you to know that you can always come to me about anything."
I would probably slip it into a conversation with her while driving somewhere in the car or something. People are much more likely to talk about things like this when they are not face to face with the other person. I would bring it up and see if she wants to talk about it or not, but I would not push the issue. I would definitely let her know that if there is ever a time that she were to find herself in a situation such as this girl was in, that she can call you or reach out to you for help. Having these conversations will help her to realize that you are there to support her through her friends death, and to support her through any difficult times she has in the future (including break ups with boyfriends).
She and I go out and do things all the time just the two of us. thinkofthesoldiers So say - Hey Sis, I know you're getting older and junior high/high school can be rough. If you ever need to talk, know that you can always come to me. Or is even that too weird?
My sister had a very good friend commit suicide her junior year of high school. This is almost exactly what I said to her. We're not very close, but I think she appreciated it. I'm sorry your sister is going through this.
I second the suggestions of telling your sister that you're available if she ever needs anyone to talk to. I would also find out if there will be grief counseling at her school and, if there is, see if your parents or her teacher can get her to use it. This must be so traumatic for her.
No, I mostly just wanted the story of how it happened gone. I think it's sort of a private story and I feel terrible for the family. Thank you for asking though.