How to read a guy?

[explorer2001]

How can you tell if a guy is interested? I would be perfectly happy to be friends with this guy. I'd also be open to/interested in dating him. I just feel like I can't get a good read. What do you look for to know? I feel like everyone is talking about kisses and such right away. How do you know if they are just taking it slow versus being in the friend zone?

[bullygirl979]

I think body language and frequency of contact has a lot to do with it. Does he try to get close to you? Touch you at all? Ask you to do things alone vs. with others? Does he get in contact once a week or every few days? KWIM?

[achase123]

I think it's fairly easy to tell unless both of you are just really shy and holding back acting on how you really feel. Do you make eye contact? Does he try to find a way to act flirtacious and/or have physical contact with you? What does your instinct tell you about his feelings?

[explorer2001]

Ok. Reading your comments and trying to reply made me realize I need to chill the heck out. We've only hung out one on one once. We have plans to go to a baseball game with a big group next week. I'll be meeting a bunch of his friends there. I can just watch how introductions go and if we stay in touch this week or not as a gauge.

[compassrose]

If there's any sexual tension or chemistry, he's interested. If not, he's not. I think it's an easy test

[kaneen]

I'm in the "if he's interested, you'll know" camp. You won't have to wonder.

[explorer2001]

It's been a long time. I get this nice guy vibe from him like he's just taking things slow. That said the texting everyday during the workday and into the evening is rapidly convincing me that it is headed where I'd like just in a nice slow way. I guess I've gotten to used to brashness and having to push guys away/slow then down. It's a welcome change if that's the case.