Tell me to get over this

[starburst604]

Sounds like you went to a pretty big high school, so you probably weren't left out intentionally. Even if you were, if people are making fun of that shit they probably did you a favor. It sounds like they are still IN high school. 10 year reunion right? They won't be laughing about that stuff anymore by the 15 yr one, because a lot more of them will have been in that position (divorced, single moms etc). My class didn't have any reunion until our 15th, which we put together via FB as well. It honestly was a great time because by that point everyone was finally "over" themselves and their high school glory days.

[Deleted]

Those people seemed like crapholes in high school and now they sit around on facebook making fun of what people look like now? Yeah it sounds like they've really matured. Seriously - why do you care what these people think of you? They probably sit around and judge because they are unhappy with themselves.

Also, if there were 500+ people invited, it might have just been an oversight that you weren't invited and nothing personal.

[formerlyknownasefl]

Jun 12, 2012 8:17:57 GMT -5 doglove said:

Those people seemed like crapholes in high school and now they sit around on facebook making fun of what people look like now? Yeah it sounds like they've really matured. Seriously - why do you care what these people think of you? They probably sit around and judge because they are unhappy with themselves.

Also, if there were 500+ people invited, it might have just been an oversight that you weren't invited and nothing personal.

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All of this word for word!

[kaneen]

How sad for them that their lives are so miserable that they must bring others down around them. Consider yourself lucky you aren't like that!

[bowies]

Yeah, honestly, I'd feel sorry for them and laugh at them for being 28 years old and still acting like a bunch of high schoolers.

I didn't go to my 10 year reunion because the organizers were girls/guys that acted exactly like that. They physically never left their hometown and mentally never left the halls of the high school. No thanks! I will say that they had enough sense not to broadcast their derision for the fatties. They chose to engage in the Mommy Wars instead since most had a litter already.

[incognitotoday]

Watch this MCC:

www.youtube.com/watch?v=0x-fkSYDtUY; not spam.

You'll get a chuckle (I hope).

Sorry your feelings were hurt. What's our motto here? Onward and upward, right.....

[audg]

Jun 12, 2012 8:06:23 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

what kind of people make fun of someone for their weight or life circumstances? Pigs, that's what kind. I can understand wishing those people were not the way they are, but I am sure you are really happy you are not like them, at all. Ever. And why you would agree with their vicious definition of who you (or anyone else) are is beyond me. You surely do not want to be a part of their group.
Come on now; you are letting your old insecurities get to you. You're a lovely adult woman in charge of your own life, not a 'loser back home'.

This EXACTLY! What a bunch of douchebags... it's a good thing that maybe they don't see you as one of them. You are gorgeous, intelligent and funny as hell.. they can all go suck a bag o dicks.. you don't need them to validate you!!

[blackkitty]

Most people that were "cool in high school" are losers now, and vice versa. I'd rather be cool as an adult... which you are of course!

[jade28]

I totally understand the feeling of not being where you thought you would be by now. That is rough and I struggle with that. But I am learning patience and to just enjoy life and take each experience for what it is. Life is a journey, not an outcome.

But in regards to the high school reunion and your former classmates, I would take it as a HUGE compliment that you are not included in that bunch. Sounds like they are cruel, insecure and lame people and you are way above that. They may have the marriages and babies, but you have far better character and compassion and self worth. Okay, I don't know you, but based on your posts, you seem awesome .

[achase123]

Usually the people who are still focused on making fun of others and being mean ten years out of HS haven't gotten very far in life. I wouldn't worry about them. Be glad you have moved past the "cliquey" phase. What kind of a life is that?

[farfalla2011]

I definitely know how you feel about not really having any long term friends. My very best friends in my life right now are friends I've only know for about 2 years max. I do have a couple friends I've known longer, but we don't keep in touch near like we should other than me stalking her FB

I agree with the others that I wouldn't take it personal and just remember what you do have. And also, just because these people are married with kids, you never know what goes on behind closed doors - especially if they all think its ok to make fun of everyone. Sounds like they aren't a bunch of people happy in life!

[emma245]

Jun 12, 2012 8:10:47 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

Jun 12, 2012 8:06:23 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

what kind of people make fun of someone for their weight or life circumstances? Pigs, that's what kind. I can understand wishing those people were not the way they are, but I am sure you are really happy you are not like them, at all. Ever. And why you would agree with their vicious definition of who you (or anyone else) are is beyond me. You surely do not want to be a part of their group.
Come on now; you are letting your old insecurities get to you. You're a lovely adult woman in charge of your own life, not a 'loser back home'.

Thanks. I've been over high school for years, this reunion just brought back a lot of old insecurities, you're right. I wouldn't go anyway, I just hate seeing people who are married with kids part of the FB group. Just sucks I don't have what I thought I would at this point.

I hate this sensation too and honestly its a big reason I went off FB. I heard from a sorority sister that some of my other sorority sisters were talking about my divorce. I was embarrassed and a little jealous to be honest that they all have seemingly perfect lives with doting husbands and cute kids. I did realize though that nothing is what it seems but Im still off FB

[Deleted]

Frankly I'm embarrassed for THEM. Who still gets all catty about high school and publicly discusses it? You my dear are by no means the loser in this situation. Also out of more than 450 people, you can be darn sure there are several other divorcees in the mix.

[bowies]

Jun 12, 2012 10:44:37 GMT -5 farfalla2011 said:

I agree with the others that I wouldn't take it personal and just remember what you do have. And also, just because these people are married with kids, you never know what goes on behind closed doors - especially if they all think its ok to make fun of everyone. Sounds like they aren't a bunch of people happy in life!

That's important to remember - FB offers such a skewed view of people's lives. No one has sunshine and roses 100% of the time, and I'd bet that's true of these old classmates of yours too. Misery loves company, yanno? I remember having a conversation with a hometown friend shortly after my divorce was finalized, and she said that everyone was SHOCKED about it - they thought I had such a perfect little life. From the outside looking in, I guess I did. Someone out there could be looking at you through envious eyes, and often that's a huge motivator for mean-spirited snark (boredom and insecurity being other ones).

I still get a few pangs when I log onto FB and see that I'm 2 kids behind the curve amongst my sorority set. I'm human, I get self-conscious about my life path too. That's when I log off for a while and concentrate on the present.

[kaneen]

One of my very best girlfriends has a completely different persona on FB than in real life. If you only "knew" her on FB, you'd be shocked at what her life is really like. She puts on a really good FB face! Any time I start to get jealous of someone on FB...I just remember that piece of information.

[kellbell191]

The bigger question is why would you want to be included? Aside from the obvious, not wanting to be excluded? Clearly these are judgy bitchy people who would add nothing to your life. You haven't stayed in touch with them, don't seem to have fond memories of them...there is nothing they could add to your life. I am BFF with my best friends from HS still and friendly with other people but choose not to stay too involved or get too wrapped up in HS reunions or gtgs. I feel like they inevitably become some kind of awkward comparison or competition which kind of seems like a waste of time.

You have good people in your life and a good life, that's what is important.

[doriswe]

Jun 12, 2012 14:22:38 GMT -5 kellbell191 said:

The bigger question is why would you want to be included? Aside from the obvious, not wanting to be excluded? Clearly these are judgy bitchy people who would add nothing to your life. You haven't stayed in touch with them, don't seem to have fond memories of them...there is nothing they could add to your life. I am BFF with my best friends from HS still and friendly with other people but choose not to stay too involved or get too wrapped up in HS reunions or gtgs. I feel like they inevitably become some kind of awkward comparison or competition which kind of seems like a waste of time.

You have good people in your life and a good life, that's what is important.

This!

[becwheat]

According to those idiots I am a double loser! I have gained weight and I am a single mom... and look at how I became a single mom!

To make matters worse I was the Homecoming queen... I was not super popular, at least not in the popular group, I was just ina lot of clubs and had a lot of random friends.
In other worsd I think the "mean girls" at my school would have a hayday with my bad luck.

And I do not care. I don't because I am happy and they dont matter anymore.